I´m one of the girls? *stomps feet*

[Piquechampion]

Well all throu high school I only made male friends, and still very close to all of them, but come College, and I made only girl friends (except one or two male friends who are not that close anyway). Apparently these girlfriends seem to think that I´m such a big fag cause they treat me like I´m one of the girls, they talk sex stuff and girl stuff and don´t mind that I´m there at all, we even get to make out for funs sake... Hell I even get to be invited to thier bachelorette parties. As some of you know I´m pretty much in the closet and I have even dated girls, but these girlfriends seem to think that I´m gay, , if they only knew I´m very much into girls as well they´ll probably get like self conscious and stuff.

So what really gets to me is that these girls I´m close friends with are like the coolest and prettiest girls from college and I would kill to date anyone of them. I have even half jokingly asked them to date me, but they say that even thou they think I´m cute (not hot ), they see me as a close friend, like I´m one of them. So the cool part in all of these is that I get to see them almost naked and know their intimate stuff , but I´m not dating material for them . All the eye candy but not the real stuff.

So, do I ask them if they think I´m gay? Do I tell them that I´m very much into girls, like them, as well? Will they get mad at me cause I´ve heard all their intimate stuff? I don´t want to lose them as friends, but I also don´t like to have the ¨I´m one of the girls¨stigma.

 

[RRRalph]

Lugus, my buddy, be glad that you are surrounded by beautiful girls. It sucks that they don't see you as dating material. Always try to make something positive out of it. For example: they have plenty female friends and know much girls. Use their connections to date a girl. Therefor you must tell them you are into girls (as well)!

 

[sexybi]

I am hidden bi, not out yet, but all my friends at college are girls. The boys do the same think I'm gay etc.. But nearly all of them are very hot so its cool being friends with them...
At the end of the day, when people see you, they see a guy with all these girls / hot girls. They wish they could be you hence the piss taking?..!

Thing is also I am in same situation, I got to stage of being good friends with them so doubtfull I'll ever go out with them...
I donno I felt I got signs at times then at times I felt I got the opposite.

Thing is to make impressitions at first and don't try to be their best friend. Its diffiuclt half the time they don't realise the diff but I am in the same boat.

 

[daydreamer27]

If you feel uncomfortable with your faggy image, you should stop hanging around with these women too much cause they will just treat you gay and make you feel even more gay in future. You don't need fag hags who like you cause you might appear gay to them. What you need, are girls who see you as a male person and show much more respect for your bisexual identity.

 

[Piquechampion]

^ But thier fun! And I get to have very privileged eye candy . Besides these girls are the type that treat guys like shit...

 

[sexybi]

And yeah what ralph said. Not every girl will like you. They will not think your ugly but simply your not their type. But there that's coz there are so many out there and like ralph said use them to find other girls as that is your number 1 source so the first part is already done.

Just be yourself, wear nice cologne and if a girl sees the look in you just be yourself, nice and funny that's what I do then your pretty much there...

 

[TheTrish]

Hi, lug! You get to see a bunch of HOT nearly naked girls and hear HOT talk, be thankful!

T

 

[Piquechampion]

You might learn a lot from them and when you find that right person, you'll have all the information you need to treat them properly.

Honey, I do treat girls properly, even the ones I have fooled around with, I always ask their permision to touch them... Yeah I know, I´m such a wuss. But I can´t treat girls like bitches, its not in my nature.

 

[Piquechampion]

Lugus, if you're genuinely interested in attracting women, you might need to butch it up a bit when you're around them. I don't care what some women say, most HOT women are attracted to cocky guys. If you're not naturally an alpha male type guy, you might want to throw your cock around alot more when you're around women. I don't really know you, but from your writing, you impress me as a regular, masculine, very nice guy. Unfortunately, most HOT women only want nice guys for friends to stroke their egos and tell them how beautiful they are.

If you ask most women what they're primarily looking for in a man, one of the most common traits or qualities they'll bring up is strong and protective. Yep, most women are looking for a strong protector when searching for a man. On the other hand, there are relatively few women who love to throw their nuts around and are looking for a wimp to dominate. My advice to you is to butch it up when you're around hot women. Now, I know some of these women on this board are going to call this a load of machismo bullshit, but I call it truth.

Thanks man

But I seem to inspire maternal feelings on girls. Even with my past girlfriends, I always could get away with murder, and just with a sad puppy eyes look everything was ok . However, my last ex gf (whom we have stayed close friends with) recently told that evern thou, she did loved me very much, she didn´t saw herself settling down and having kids with me. She said that it would be like she was raising the kids (including me ) by herself, and that she wasn´t prepared to do that

 

[Piquechampion]

If a girl is actually attracted to you, she'll definitely let you know. And she won't even have to say a word. Look at the eyes. She'll have that look of desire when she looks you in the eyes. She may also giggle alot when you're around. You could tell any corny, run-of-the-mill joke, and she'll laugh her ass off. Look at her eyes and her body language. She'll normally find any excuse to get close to you and touch you. Yes, there are telltale signs when a girl is attracted to you.

Well right now, this french chick gives the vibes me, she totally behaves like that, and even takes like pictures of me.

BTW, never call a girl "honey" unless you're in a relationship with her. Gay men tend to refer to others as "honey" or "girlfriend". Okay, go ahead and jump on me for blatant stereotyping. I normally refer to women that I like as "babe". I know. How original! BTW, I also call my boyfriend "babe". How manly and macho is that?!! LOL.

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[RRRalph]

Lugus, if you're genuinely interested in attracting women, you might need to butch it up a bit. You might want to throw your cock around alot more when you're around women. The most common traits or qualities they'll bring up is strong and protective.

Take an example of me I think you should stay yourself. Pretending to be someone you're not won't be any good in the long run. Somewhere in your soft personality there is a tough side. Just express that a bit more. Talking along about make up, nail polish colour and whatever is not manly thus not sexy.

 

[TheTrish]

Lugus, if you're genuinely interested in attracting women, you might need to butch it up a bit when you're around them. I don't care what some women say, most HOT women are attracted to cocky guys. If you're not naturally an alpha male type guy, you might want to throw your cock around alot more when you're around women. I don't really know you, but from your writing, you impress me as a regular, masculine, very nice guy. Unfortunately, most HOT women only want nice guys for friends to stroke their egos and tell them how beautiful they are.

If you ask most women what they're primarily looking for in a man, one of the most common traits or qualities they'll bring up is strong and protective. Yep, most women are looking for a strong protector when searching for a man. On the other hand, there are relatively few women who love to throw their nuts around and are looking for a wimp to dominate. My advice to you is to butch it up when you're around hot women. Now, I know some of these women on this board are going to call this a load of machismo bullshit, but I call it truth.

 

[Piquechampion]

The truth of the matter is that we all have a very male side and a more nurturing "female" side within us, as we all have testosterone and estrogen. For an alpha male, it can be very difficult to expose that nurturing side, whereas it's not difficult for a guy like Lugus. He did say that some females largely see him as more of a "maternal" figure or something to that effect.

I didn´t say I had a maternal side, hell no!! (I couldn´t bring up a child even if my life depended on it ). I said that I bring up maternal feelings on girls. Like I´m their cute little child or something, at least that´s how my ex gf´s treated me , but I like to be all playful and inmature with them thou

 

[TheTrish]

Uh uh! Don't you even get started with me, Trish. You know all about bringing forward or suppressing your female or male sides. Just tell us how it feels when you strap it on. That's the side we're interested in bringing out in this scenario.

Hi, w'blues! Your asshole is showing so open in this thread, I'd like to ram it!

T
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[Piquechampion]

Sorry, I got that confused, Lugs. Then my next question is why the hell hasn't one of those bitches breast fed you yet?! Sorry, just joking. However, seriously, it's almost the same thing. You still need to bring your confident male side forward much, much more. You need to be more assertive. The fact remains that they're not relating to you as a man, right?

As a grown up man, nah, it´s so much fun being childish

Thou, I have to mature someday, don´t I?

 

[Piquechampion]

So maybe you should be looking for a boyfriend instead.

Mmmm, that idea sounds good

But then, I would never grow up

 

[TierraSimms]

Lugus, be yourself. I just wouldn't advise you try to hook up with any of those girl you hang with. Especially if you want to remain friends with them if the relationship goes sour.

I'll put up with a cocky guy for about 5 minutes and I'll sink his battleship. Arrogance and Cockiness irks me to the highest extreme.

 

[DVM26uk]

The fun thing is, nobody knows who you are until you admit things. So essentially until you give the full green light they are left guessing. I have a few female friends and only recently told them I was bi, until then it was my big secret... the biggest compliment I got was that to one of my friends referred to me as someone she would never suspect me as being bi/gay.

Possibly the reason I have a lot of luck with str8 blokes

 

[TheTrish]

LOL! You got me there.

Hi, w'blues! Yes, I know what you need, big boy.

T

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Biggest compliment? Why would being perceived as being gay be the worst insult?

It's just the way society is. The worst thing anyone can do to a male is associate him with the word gay.