I am a chubby gay teen

[justinconner]

I am a chubby gay teen, and I am aware that I am not all muscley. But im not ugly either. Are there decent cute guys out there that would go out with a chubby guy? It seems like all the guys are looking for a ripped skinny guy.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to the forum. Look around at the people on dates. There is someone for everyone. Obviously a pretty package gets the most superficial attention. I think most people develop interests and join groups and rather than wait to be picked up based on looks alone present themselves as interested and interesting people.

 

[hotatlboi]

Yeah sure there are, but there's also no reason you can't become more fit and attractive through better eating and exercise. You are still young and have a lot of time.

 

[backpacker]

What is your definition of the "cute guy" you want to date you? Does he have to be ripped or would you date a chubby guy? There are plenty of guys out there who will be interested in you, just don't expect them to be ripped. Often guys who are ripped are into guys who share their interest in fitness. Good luck!

 

[Blueboy369]

If you want to lose twenty pounds quickly, follow these easy steps.
No soda. Soda is filled with sugar and calories. Do not drink your calories, drink water. You can also drink 1/2 a glass of juice mixed with 1/2 glass of seltzer water. No candy, have a healthy snack like fruit or cheese and crackers. Easy exercise routine: Jumping Jacks. Jump up and down 50 times, rest, jump another 50 times, rest. Do this at least 5 times. That's 250 jumping jacks! Do this every other day. Soon you will feel better about yourself and people will notice! Good luck!!

 

[BensonhurstBri]

I have been a bit chubby all my life...one day I was walking out of college to the train station and some guy walked by me and said "HEY"...I instinctively said "Hey" back because I just thought we knew each other from college...I glance back and he stopped dead in his tracks motioning for me to com over to him, he flirted with me and talked...and we exchanged numbers...it was the first sexual experience I had with a guy!!! and he was ripped lol, like muscles out to here...and then that's when I found out about the whole, bear community...there are people for all kinds...try some bear sites...the only one I tried back in the day was Biggercity...seemed to be the better of the bear sites out there....hope this enocuraged you...good luck out there!!!

 

[justinconner]

thanks guys =)

 

[seandong]

dont worry about it man. im 19 kinda chubby but my boyfriend is small and skinny. so im sure that there is more of them out there.

 

[TheOscar]

Oh, most definitely there are people who are into chubbier teens. 8D Don't even worry about it or lose sleep. You just go out there and be the best you you can be!


EDIT: I realize that sounds sarcastic. >.> But cheesiness can sound that way. XD I'm serious, though!

 

[Raistanelf]

you're a lot more than just a 'chubby gay teen' , and there are people in this world who will see that.

The gay community often does put an emphasis on bodily perfection, and yes, you will meet people who will hold it against you that you may not have a conventionally perfect body . Conversely, you will also find people who fetishize body types, and maybe that's not what you're after either.

But , you will meet people who see you as a beautiful person, and see your body as perfect, and who take who you are beyond just your physicality.

If you want to get a tad more attention, I find confidence and charm is the way to go - let people know you're comfortable in your skin, and do unto others as you would have done unto you.

 

[headhunter71]

there are lots of chasers out there who love chubby guys. don't fret, you'll meet someone who'll like you just the way you are.

i'm a chubby guy myself and i've never had problems meeting guys. in fact, i've dated guys who are my total opposite - guys who are ripped and toned.

 

[youfiad]

There are people out there for everybody. But I have a feeling that, more often than not, you're going to be dating somebody similar to you. We gays tend to be superficial for reasons that go beyond the scope of this messege. I think that gay men and women tend to strive for a phyique that they search in someone else. So the toned guys date the toned guys, the skinny guys date the skinny guys, the chubby guys date the chubby guys. This isn't always the case, but I've noticed quite a bit of this.

 

[DayDreamingBeast]

Lol, it´s the chubby hairy cute ones the ones that tend to ignore skinnier, smoother guys

 

[ebluue]

Take up a sport, like joining a running group, swimming, dancing or even ice skating. My ice skating coach is so hot, He's got a really hot bubble butt!

 

[GamerBear]

Your best chance is probably finding chasers that might be into you. But from what I've learned and what I've been told, getting fit seems to be the option most will tell you. Cause the gay community is sort of shallow and most people will tell you to lose about 60lbs then you might be attractive to them. But that's why I was apart of the bear community because nobody would make fun or call you unattractive there.

 

[Benvolio]

It is easier to lose weight now than it will be later. If you can't lose now, you may never be able to, and fat gay men tend to be unhappy. Try o NO carb diet for 4 days. You will stop being hungry after 48 hours and when you see yourself losing a pound a day, you will know that you want to continue. I hope this does not sound preachy. It is intended to be constructive.

 

[GamerBear]

It is easier to lose weight now than it will be later. If you can't lose now, you may never be able to, and fat gay men tend to be unhappy. Try o NO carb diet for 4 days. You will stop being hungry after 48 hours and when you see yourself losing a pound a day, you will know that you want to continue. I hope this does not sound preachy. It is intended to be constructive.

Not always true since I'm a fat gay man and I'm definitely happy with the way my body is and I'm not depressed or sad. I hate that people always think being fat is a negative thing and that being skinny is the only positive thing in life.

 

[Rolyo85]

No offense, and I'm SO not getting in this argument, but being fat is bad at the very least in terms of health and fitness. And it's a fact that your dating pool is significantly smaller. That said, of course not ALL fat gay men are unhappy, but it's logical that they'd have more difficulty dating than skinny ones.

 

[Daidlos87]

I love how this devolved into half the people telling the OP that he should just lose weight. I don't think that's what he was looking for at all.

 

[Raincoat Massacre]

No offense, and I'm SO not getting in this argument, but being fat is bad at the very least in terms of health and fitness. And it's a fact that your dating pool is significantly smaller. That said, of course not ALL fat gay men are unhappy, but it's logical that they'd have more difficulty dating than skinny ones.