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I am a jerk

BigBoss

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So here I am, I am here to confess How jerk I am.

Had this relationship for almost three years and Its been a year that I have left him, in between we talked over the phone few times, and my ex always insisted to patch up with him, however I kept on insisting that it won't work and there is no need to do the mistake again. I was and still I am deeply in love with him, however we had differences and I preferred to live as a single person rather than having him with all these problems,

I kept on hurting him, by telling him that I have a profile online.

And now today when I saw his profile online and the guys he has linked his profile with, I started to cry and still can't stop crying, how jerk of me to leave him in the first place and repenting on it when he is having fun around.

Is it normal to be a jerk like me?
 
sounds like you are immature.
Well you need to cry and learn from your mistakes.
 
I don't think you are a jerk at all. "We had differences and I preferred to live as a single person rather than having him with all these problems" is a very wise thing to realize. Had you stayed together, the relationship probably would have been unhealthy for both of you. The fact the you are upset about him moving on indicates that you are not over him yet. The relationships where people still have strong feelings for each other, but know that it won't work are the hardest to get over. My guess is that both of you are probably still young and the differences seem like a big deal. As you get older, the differences in your relationships will be less important and the love will become more important. That's just the way life seems to work. For now the best thing you can do is put some separation between the two of you. Focus on your own life and don't worry about what he is doing.
 
Yeah you are right backpacker, your statement has proved to be quite a relief, I am 24 and he is 35.

I have stopped crying and decided to scream out as loud as I can In the bathroom. Now I am feeling ok except some headache and nausea. I am distracting myself by reading my text books lols.

Thanks again,
 
Ok this guy of mine has tried to play head games to his best, I have been depressed for almost a week, and finally I managed to come out. So here is what he did after I came out of depression

He- still u need me to be in your friend's list on facebook?

Me- yes

He- why is that so , since you said you dont want to keep in touch ...reply

Me- Being In friend list means I can see your pics as you upload them thats all.Don't worry I have no intention of poking nose in your business.

He- i am not worried about getting poked .. I know you very well.. that was just to ask you .... my pics.. do they matter to you now

Me- *I got Emotional* There are lots of things that matters to me, I have lost you and I am realizing it now when I see some one as your partner in your manjam profile. I don't want to get into this much drama just to add you as friend in my face book. It seems you are living the dream we dreamed of together, although I see now that I have been replaced with someone else. Fair enough I have hurt you and Now you are hurting me back, I have no grudge against you. It was me who exerted the events and now I am facing back everything coming towards me. May be I survive out of this event of love side effects, but I promise if I do, you will be the last person on the face of earth I will be willing to see.

please don;t get me wrong, but it seems you are hurting me alot. I am going to disappear into thin air, You won;t be able to see or talk to me again. I am not getting into any relationship. I will be on my own, try to pursue an other dream with someone else, I am glad I was part of your life and I am happier to see that you have been doing well on your own.

No need to reply and no need to add me, You are gone for good. And so am I.

I wish you a better life with that special one of yours.

Good Bye.


He- I never complained you for having any thing which was hurting me too. I never meant to hurt you and i cant imagine to do so. As far as my partner is concerned, that's an interesting story. I am enjoying it after adding the tarar1 lol.. My best wishes are always with you dude. I might not love some one like I did with you, still I feel that I suffered a lot.
I would appreciate it if you keep yourself safe and good in health. I would always pray for you to become successful person. Inshallah you are going to be, um confident about it.

take care


He *again*- thanx for blocking me, I dont anticipate any message , any contact or anything related to me from your side.. Hope you understand me. treat this my last message and thats it. You have your life and I have mine.. I wont interfere in your life and so will you... Ok.

He *Yet again after I blocked him on manjam*- tell me where from i can block .. where is the command to do so... You better keep me blocked or I will block you ...

Me- Open my profile. Above my pictures you can see the message button. In that message button line you would see the block button which is 6 th button from right and 2nd from left.

Hope this solves the problem and helps you to block me. Take care and Have fun and take things easy,

Remember you need me, I dont need you. (Big Smile)

Me *Hopefully my last Message*-

Oh . Check your manjam account again, I have messaged you how to block me. Man sometimes you do act weird, Honestly you need some professional help. Ever noticed something with this break up of ours. Ever since we broke off, you are the one who wanted to keep in touch and you are the one who fights to end everything. Man I am a person who has truck load like problems, you know that better. And even then you want to add more rubble to his load of mine.

About your ever changing boyfriends , I hope this time this guy lasts a bit longer. Its very hard for a single individual to handle you. Boy I am amazed how I handled you for almost two and half years.

Let me advice you for a change.

1.Be less demanding,. and If you cannot cut your demands then fulfill the other person's demand to the same extend as he has fulfilled your demands.

2. How about not wishing for any characters to bring charm to your relationship. People do bring this characters when they think that their true self is too scary to bring out. Polish that inner self of yours.

3. How about instead of searching for love from a third person , you start loving those around you. Your family loves you alot yet you still desire for that manly third party love. Solution is to try not to spend money to impress people. Invest it to have quality time with your family.

4. May be its about time you should realize that you are 35 and still hold nothing for a better future. Spend more time to work for your future instead of thinking about that rod and hole of yours. Everyone has those two things and you know it will be useless one day. THe only thing that will help you to survive is better future. You know better than me what to do. So do it.

5. Find some good friends of no benefit to hold the bond. You always look at the outlooks and really don't care about the person's true identity. Find some good friends to guide you.

6. How about leaving me alone for a while. I am not your guardian to guide you through things in your life whether it be on my expense. Every time you needed me I was there for you though you know the events when you left me on my own. Thanks for doing that. It kinda made me even more brave.


So if you start working on the areas that I have Highlighted for you, you will be the happiest person on this whole damn earth.

I am going to send this message both on manjam and facebook.

Having said that I wish you just leave me on my own, like you did before, I think that is for my benefit.

Always remember that you are the one who needed me, I never felt to have you to live my life.

Take care and hope by the end of this note your 2% love remaining for me has been converted to hatred by many folds

Good Bye.

Take care

Yours

Kash.






Am I doing the right thing ?
 
I want to ask, am I doing it right? Do I have to be harsh so that he let go of me, however I think I have started to play mind games like him.

Tell me how to get rid of him.
 
We don't know all the background, but based upon what you have told us your last message seems pretty harsh. You broke up a year ago and there is really no point in saying those things now. I understand that your emotions got the best of you. If it were me, I would send a short message saying something like, "I'm sorry about the last message. My emotions got the best of me. I still care about you, but we both that a relationship can't work. It's just hard for me to see you moving on, but I know that's the right thing for both of us to do. I wish you all the best and I won't bother you anymore."
 
I agree.

You are appearing to be acting like a jerk.

Don't.

Be gracious and supportive.

It is over. Don't play games with him or yourself.

Live with the consequences of your actions and stop looking back.
 
backpacker said:
"I'm sorry about the last message. My emotions got the best of me. I still care about you, but we both that a relationship can't work. It's just hard for me to see you moving on, but I know that's the right thing for both of us to do. I wish you all the best and I won't bother you anymore."
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Thanks again, I am gonna send the same message.

Man Sometimes I do act like jerk. lols. But hey I know there wise jubers like you to help me.
 
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