I am becoming obsessed with my ex boyfriend

[swerve]

I understand that you are angry -- and that your ex is a total dick...

But, I caution against telling secrets that were shared with you in confidence...

Take the high road, and hopefully find the right guy for you...

 

[Scealle]

I am sorry to hear that your bf cheated on you when you two are still together. I understand that feeling sucks and you are so pissed of right now you want take it out all on him. The pain, the agony that he caused and all that time you wasted thinking about him. How dare he! But, deep down I can still tell that you cared a lot about this guy despite since you have been separated so many months ago but still unable to move on.

I think that you should channel your anger somewhere else - take up some sports, hobby or travel somewhere nice for a short while so you can calm yourself down and think properly. Taking it all out on your ex won't do you any good. It will just hurt both of you more and if you spill all his secrets that he be-trusts you with. You and him will also be in a very awkward and uncomfortable situation at church or work because you know words get around.

Revenge is sweet, at first...... But what comes next? What if he also plotted against you as well? The cycle of hatred will never end. Like some of the posters here said, take the high road and leave it be. He will pay his consequences some day. Who knows, maybe his other cheating bf also has another cheating bf.

Anyways feel to rant around here if it makes you feel any better as a lot of us here have similar experiences and are willing to lend an ear

 

[confus]

I am sorry to hear that your bf cheated on you when you two are still together. I understand that feeling sucks and you are so pissed of right now you want take it out all on him. The pain, the agony that he caused and all that time you wasted thinking about him. How dare he! But, deep down I can still tell that you cared a lot about this guy despite since you have been separated so many months ago but still unable to move on.

I think that you should channel your anger somewhere else - take up some sports, hobby or travel somewhere nice for a short while so you can calm yourself down and think properly. Taking it all out on your ex won't do you any good. It will just hurt both of you more and if you spill all his secrets that he be-trusts you with. You and him will also be in a very awkward and uncomfortable situation at church or work because you know words get around.

Revenge is sweet, at first...... But what comes next? What if he also plotted against you as well? The cycle of hatred will never end. Like some of the posters here said, take the high road and leave it be. He will pay his consequences some day. Who knows, maybe his other cheating bf also has another cheating bf.

Anyways feel to rant around here if it makes you feel any better as a lot of us here have similar experiences and are willing to lend an ear

You're right.

Sigh...

I have calmed down since hearing the news the other night. In fact, I went into a deep depression the day after I found out and yesterday. I just feel confused. I have so many thoughts running through my head.

It just breaks my heart that things turned out the way they did. Deep down inside, I still want to be best friends with him and hang out like we used to. I honestly wish that we'd just stayed friends instead of getting into a relationship. I'm also mad at myself for staying with him after I found out he was cheating in the beginning. To tell you the truth, I never felt very happy when I was with him. I always felt anxious and worried about him cheating on me. I had many thoughts about breaking up with him but I never did because I was scared ruining our friendship and I was scared to be alone.

We actually did hook up a few weeks ago. I stopped by his work, we started chatting about stuff and the rest is history. At church a couple of weeks ago, had another friendly chat with each and he said he'll see me later.

I guess I do care about him. No matter how mad I get with him, I can't stay mad at him. When I get mad, I want nothing to do with him ever again. But as time goes on, my heart starts to soften. I miss him so much and feel so lonely without him. I feel like I lost my second half. We clicked so well right from the start and we would talk for hours nonstop. This time a year ago, he and I were the best of friends and everything was great. I keep thinking back to this time last year and realize how things are now and it breaks my heart. I just wish I had just given him space when he asked for it and that I hadn't been so hard on him.

I just keep hoping and waiting for something that is never going to happen. I have no desires to get back in a relationship with him, I just want the friendship back.

 

[Seasoned]

It will take a lot of control not to be sexual. For that to happen you may need to separate for a period of time. It's easy for people who like each other and have been sexual to continue being sexual.

 

[onyxchief1]

If he lied to you AND CHEATED on you multiple times then you don't need him in your life. There are plenty of other guys out there.