I am falling for my uncle...smh

[Lewis1]

I know this sounds so ....horrible but

I am falling for my uncle...

Me and my uncle never lived in the same state when i was growing up and the only time i would see him was at different family functions once in a while and then we never interacted aside from a Hi and a Bye

so fast forward to now 1o years after i seen him last.
we find each other on Facebook.. and we start chatting it up..which lead to phone calls and this is the first time we ever spoke to each other one on one

BUT gosh we have so much in common and we just vibe really well and for the past week we just have been catching up with each other on the phone and online... i just cant belive we let all this time pass without getting to know one another

I am falling for him... lmao i know its wrong , sad, incestuous but i cant help it

I have not howver told him i am bi
and i dont think he is lol

so how do i stop feeling this way?

there must be a way i can turn this off

 

[Elfriede]

I don't think your falling for your uncle. I guess the reason why you feel that way is because you guys have a lot in common and you kinda have the feeling of closeness with him.

The feelings will keep growing and you'll soon realize that what your feeling for him isn't anything romantic at all.

 

[hughmc]

I agree that it is not falling for in the romantic sense but finding you two have a lot in common is fulfilling a lot of your young life. what's the age difference between you two? how is your relationship with your father? could it be that he has taken on a father image for you and that you find yourself more at ease talking to your uncle than to your father? all of these situations are very common among gays and bi. I say dont back away, get even closer and bond the friendship, taking care that he becomes nothing more than a good friend and uncle BTW you sound like a very perceptive insightful young man who is in touch with his feelings and that is where you want to be - understanding yourself is crucial to ultimate happiness

 

[Speeds]

I also agree that you're not exactly falling for him.

If you think you're REALLY falling for him. Then you need to be careful. I really don't think it would end well if you do tell him. Put a distance between him and you. Find someone else that is available and gay. It's not just the incest thing but to have a sexual relationship with your uncle could bring a lot of disaster to the family when they know about it. I just don't think it's worth it.

 

[Lewis1]

I agree that it is not falling for in the romantic sense but finding you two have a lot in common is fulfilling a lot of your young life. what's the age difference between you two? how is your relationship with your father? could it be that he has taken on a father image for you and that you find yourself more at ease talking to your uncle than to your father? all of these situations are very common among gays and bi. I say dont back away, get even closer and bond the friendship, taking care that he becomes nothing more than a good friend and uncle BTW you sound like a very perceptive insightful young man who is in touch with his feelings and that is where you want to be - understanding yourself is crucial to ultimate happiness

Awwww thank you I feel a bit better lol ( i do consider myself very perceptive )
My father has not been in my life and my uncle is 60 LMAO..so i think you may be on to something

Get even closer? lol I have stopped communicating cold turkey within the last 3 days
haha just to check whats going on

but you are right I really want to be close with my uncle now..it is very fulfilling especially now in my life

 

[Lewis1]

I also agree that you're not exactly falling for him.

If you think you're REALLY falling for him. Then you need to be careful. I really don't think it would end well if you do tell him. Put a distance between him and you. Find someone else that is available and gay. It's not just the incest thing but to have a sexual relationship with your uncle could bring a lot of disaster to the family when they know about it. I just don't think it's worth it.

Well I am not attracted to him if thats what you mean...

but the more we connect...its like I could be attracted to him based on his personality alone

but a sexual anything is really off the table cause

1) hes not gay
2) hes lives very far away from me lol

so but i do want to visit him now

 

[Elfriede]

That's good to hear. And when you mentioned that your father hasn't been in your life makes perfect sense as to why you have these feelings for your uncle. ;D

I do hope you get to visit him soon.

 

[altlover85]

Well I am not attracted to him if thats what you mean...

but the more we connect...its like I could be attracted to him based on his personality alone

but a sexual anything is really off the table cause

1) hes not gay
2) hes lives very far away from me lol

so but i do want to visit him now

If there's nothing physical, I think you'll be fine.

 

[hackingnomberr]

Well since we're gay what's wrong with incest? I mean when you really think about it in the gay realm it's not that big of a deal, what are you gonna do, have a deformed baby?!

I'm kidding, kinda.

You'll get over it, he's just what you'd ideally want in a partner which is probably why you feel that way.

 

[cliffdweller]

Yeah, if you're not attracted to him, then I wouldn't say you're falling for him. Is he your biological uncle, or an uncle by marriage? If it's the latter, then it's not really incestuous, IMO.

 

[Lewis1]

Yeah, if you're not attracted to him, then I wouldn't say you're falling for him. Is he your biological uncle, or an uncle by marriage? If it's the latter, then it's not really incestuous, IMO.

No hes my Bio uncle lol

I just spoke to him to today..I love him

Ok cool

Well I guess it will be okay then... I was just a lil worried

 

[Lewis1]

Well since we're gay what's wrong with incest? I mean when you really think about it in the gay realm it's not that big of a deal, what are you gonna do, have a deformed baby?!

I'm kidding, kinda.

You'll get over it, he's just what you'd ideally want in a partner which is probably why you feel that way.

I think you may be on to something.....

 

[Seasoned]

Let him be a dad substitute. Everyone could use a loving father figure.

 

[bankside]

One thing people forget is that gay men can get a man crush too. You can just enjoy that and it doesn't mean you have to perv out on him.

 

[Lewis1]

Let him be a dad substitute. Everyone could use a loving father figure.

Thats how I feel

 

[Lewis1]

One thing people forget is that gay men can get a man crush too. You can just enjoy that and it doesn't mean you have to perv out on him.

I agree

 

[DigitalFudge]

I lol'd so hard at the title of this thread because I could feellll you "Shaking your head" I literally felt it.

It seems others covered it mostly. You seem to be mixing up feelings, yearning for male closeness can be a complex thing for gay men. Especially setting up boundaries

 

[hotb0d]

this is going to be a hot mess.

 

[Lewis1]

I lol'd so hard at the title of this thread because I could feellll you "Shaking your head" I literally felt it.

It seems others covered it mostly. You seem to be mixing up feelings, yearning for male closeness can be a complex thing for gay men. Especially setting up boundaries

lmao I was like

but yeah I love my uncle and the feelings are a bit confusing...

Sometimes I get hard talking to him ......thats terrible as well...but we never discussed anything sexual so thats just a weird reaction haha

I am dealing with it.. Have to put the feeling in perspective...
He is a male relative I am bonding with...perfectly normal

 

[LeoGiamani]

I have a crush on my uncle too! He's divorced now so I hang out with him a lot. I've seen the head of his cock at the urinal in public bathrooms before. I've also sniffed his underwear and jerked off when he goes in the Hot Tub. SO hot.