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I was going to be straight, but the great gay stories on JUB made me choose to be gay.
 
You didn't choose to be gay, any more than the straight guys out there chose to be straight. Being gay is in your wiring, your genetic code. However, you can choose to live by your wiring, or try to fight it. You can choose to fight your internal programming, or you can go with what comes naturally to you.

You did not choose to be gay.
But you can choose to LIVE gay.

Lex
 
well if ur gay, this is the right site to be on, lol
 
Well, I suppose sometimes it's not important how you get there... as long as you eventually arrive.

Speaking of journeys, I'd like to point out that I have gone from virgin to slut to porn star all in the past 6 weeks. My mother would be so proud.
 
noelie said:
I think you can choose to be gay. That's not to say that some people aren't 'wired' gay or 'grow' to be gay.

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Congrats on making a decision either way ..|
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A tiny percentage seem to actually choose.
The vast majority are, most likely, the result of endocrine levels in the womb.
It's possible there's a genetic component for a batch of us.

But I think it's possible to be attracted to or excited about the idea of being gay, without being that way -- and possibly finding out later you don't like it.
But -- it's your life!
 
Sorry, but being gay is not entirely genetic or environmental. Studies to figure the origins out have been going on for many decades (at least going back to Freud and Kinsey) and if it was as simple as one factor we would have found the answer by now. Even with identical twins who have the same DNA, were in the same womb and were raised in the same environment, if one twin is gay the chance that the other is too is only about 50-50. At the same time, most gay people don't have gay siblings even though they've shared a womb and they were raised in substantially similar environments. The truth probably is that it's a combination of genetics, how you're raised and other factors like hormones in your mother's womb. That's still "wiring" but it's not cut and dry.

To come back to the original point of this thread... My opinion is that none of us choose to be attracted to members of the same sex but we all choose to be gay. Homosexuality describes a sex act or orientation, gay describes an identity. People tend to be happier when their orientation, sex acts and identity align though. Yes, we could remain in the closet, but we chose not to because life is better choosing to come out.
 
noelie said:
^ They're all social constructs - gay/straight didn't exist at one time. There was no issue in the ancient world - it all only really became an issue with Christianity.
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There's no love lost between Christianity and me... But that's completely wrong. Note the infamous Leviticus verse was written hundreds of years before Jesus supposedly lived.
 
drhladnjak said:
Even with identical twins who have the same DNA, were in the same womb and were raised in the same environment, if one twin is gay the chance that the other is too is only about 50-50. At the same time, most gay people don't have gay siblings even though they've shared a womb and they were raised in substantially similar environments.
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I must be in a pretty rare situation then, because my older brother is also gay, and my little sister is bi. Crazy, isn't it?

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My parents are divorced and I hated my dad when I was growing up. Some psychologists believe it is caused by a lack of identification with someones dad. My brothers have all exhibited signs of being gay,but "grew out of it". I was the biggest perv when I was younger and it may have also turned me off women?
 
seveninchdong said:
I must be in a pretty rare situation then, because my older brother is also gay, and my little sister is bi. Crazy, isn't it?

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I think genetics definitly play a strong role. While I'm the oldest grandchild, and can't comment on the sexuality of my 8 year old cousins... I do know I have a fair amount of gay family members--on both the mom's side and the dad's side. Uncles, and aunts.
 
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