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I am not a fag.

I'd like to point out that I AM a fag.

And that I'm able to proudly say that even in a hostile place full of people who are patting each other on the back for being better than me makes me even prouder.

(and dude, I'm glad to hear you're not a fag. We don't need you. We're doing just fine without you.)
 
don't protest too much. and don't let yourself be bothered by words that are definitions. make it impossible to care less. only them are you free of the angustia
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I see what you are saying california_soul.

part of the reason i have such a problem with myself feeling the way i do, is because of the stigma there is for any who is attracted to another guy. as if, just because i find a guy sexually attractive, i somehow don't have any balls. i am immediately looked down on, and considered sub-man because of it. i get really frustrated when i see gay pride parades and shit, because i know that is the shit that is driving all of the stereotypes. i'm not out there wearing leather and flapping my wrists around talking with a lisp. but i'm automatically associated with that shit. and i know its not really those gay people's faults (its the people who associate that lifestyle with me) but it still pisses me off a lot. i'm just bitter i guess.
 
I think fag is interchangeable with queen, not gay. You can be bi, straight or gay and not be a fag. Hell, you can be straight and still be a fag. lol
 
Im gay but to me being called a fag or even mentioning it is derogatory. So I would rather not use it, no matter how you define it.
 
I'm really lucky, all the people I have told have accepted me as a bisexual. Not a confused straight or gay guy, a real bisexual. And I'm happy about that.

Unfortunately not everyone is so lucky. I feel bad for everyone who has friends that just don't understand what it means to be bi. Why should you care, though? You know what you are, and as long as you're happy and you feel comfortable with who you are I wouldn't worry about what they say.
 
Start wearing a tee shirts that reads "I am not a fag. Just an occasional cock sucker".
It pays to advertise.
 
I find this topic very interesting, I hate derogatory labels and the word fag, obviously that word has a complete different meaning in the UK, if a straight bloke said he was desperate for a fag here no one will blink an eyelid, so much for labels.

I my opinion I think sexuality is a sliding scale and I would say 20% of men are totally straight and have no interest in same sex encounters and at the other end 20% are totally gay and then there is the grey area in the middle. Nobody can define or label a person in the grey area because there are many factors including social, culture and opportunity come into play, plus religion and the personal guilt that comes from that is a key factor. I think the we can only decide for ourselves where we fit on the scale and live our lives the best we can and ignore what other people think we should be.

In the UK for research purposes there is no such thing as gay or bi we are simply known as ‘men who have sex with men’ which I think is a good basis to view things, because there are loads of married, and men in long term relationships with women that regularly have sex with other men, I think this is one of last taboos in human sexuality because women believe it does not happen and men want the status quo to continue. What label could be given to this significant group of men, bi, possible gay, unlikely, is there an appropriate label, I don’t think there is.

I have come to the above conclusion because I have always found it hard to define my own sexuality, I don’t want to be stereotypical about this but for the sake of the argument I will be. I have no interest in anything feminine for example fashion, interiors and shopping I am into sports like a few beers with the lads and talk shite and soccer as most straight men do. I am attracted to masculine men and have about as much interest in sleeping with a camp man as I do a woman, I have no ‘female friends’ (and I am not a loner I define the word friend as someone who is almost as close as family) the majority of my friends are straight and married, I do know a camp man and we do get on quite well and always speak when we meet but we have so little in common a true friendship is unlikely.

So my advice is label is just a word, life is what’s important.
 
california_soul said:
Girls on the other hand, if they say they are bi, they are instantly cool. Thanks to so many homophobic guys saying things like "two woman is beautiful, two guys is disgusting and evil" I've never heard anyone refer to a bisexual girl as a dyke or anything to that extent. Most girls who say they're bi arent really, they are just saying they are to be "edgy".
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Good point.
 
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