I Came Out And I Feel Great

[CptFalcon]

Hello everyone, I'm new to the forums and this is my first post.

I want to share my coming out story. It's still in a in between stage, but there will be revisions along the way.

It all started like this:

The past two weeks were a milestone for me. For some reason I was happier and I couldn't really figure out why: maybe it was the fact I had finally installed the lower engine cover on my Passat and another thing crossed off my to-do list, or something else was on my mind and slowly being accepted.

Ever since I was a younger lad, I always appreciated the male physique. Not sexually at first, but more of a deep admiration. As I hit puberty, and matured both physically and mentally, I noticed that I would get strange feelings when I would look at naked men or men showing off their muscles. I would brush off those feelings thinking that it was a just a phase and I would like girls. I've dated before and I was happy, but secretly, I knew it wasn't going anywhere.

Flash forward to the present. A few days ago I made up my mind to tell my straight best friend that I was gay. We usually hang out all day at least once a week and do the typical guy routine; play video games, eat, drink, and insult each other with increasingly inappropriate things.

We were chilling at his place and I knew exactly when to tell him. As soon as he had to take his dog outside to play I would tell him.

M = to me
N = to my buddy

"Hey bro, I have something kinda important to tell you." - M
"Yea, and whats that?" - N
After he throws the ball for his dog, "I'm gay." - M
He starts laughing, "I'm not joking, you fucking douchbag!" - M
"You're serious?" - N
"Dead serious, bro." - M
"Well that does explain your behavior the past while." - N
"So, you don't care? I would've thought that you'd make a big deal over this." - M
"Do you want me to make this a big deal?" - N
"Of course not. Thanks man." - M

And that was that. Nothing has really changed between us. I know his family very well and they all love me, especially when I fix their computers. Haha. For some reason I expected some drama but I didn't see any.

I still plan to come out to my family and I will do it one step at a time.

I am proud to be myself, proud to be a man, and proud to have friends who accept me for who I am.

And I would like to thank this forum for the inspiration it has given me.

Now all I need to do is get into my friend's pants; he constantly complains that he never gets "any" with his girlfriend. I'd be more than happy to help with a BJ.

 

[hotatlboi]

Congrats but I'd caution you about the sexual advances to your friend. If he is straight and doesn't care for that you could alienate him.

 

[CptFalcon]

Congrats but I'd caution you about the sexual advances to your friend. If he is straight and doesn't care for that you could alienate him.

I meant that as a joke, my relationship with him means more to me than that.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome. Congrats. And I'm glad you meant it as a joke. These forums are loaded with guys in distress over straight friends.

I hope things progress nicely for you with your family.

 

[palbert]

Congratulations and welcome to JUB. Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Look forward to your contributions.

 

[Rolyo85]

Congrats

 

[Racer Dave]

Congratulations, best feeling in the world and a massive load off. Confidence in yourself is key so keep it up and all will be just fine you'll see.

 

[Rand]

Congratulations - - hope all others go as well. Do take care

Rand

 

[chrisw87]

I meant that as a joke, my relationship with him means more to me than that.

But this is JUB... everyone must have sex with their straight best friend to qualify for membership


Kidding, good job on coming out. True friends won't give a shit, so you have a true friend there.

 

[CptFalcon]

Thanks for all the support guys.

I also came out to my sister and her husband/my brother-in-law. They took it well and my sister invited me to go out with them next week.

Now my parents, on the other, are quite different.

 

[Rolyo85]

How so?

And the parents are always the scariest part.

 

[CptFalcon]

How so?

And the parents are always the scariest part.

Apart from my sister and brother-in-law, they are the only family that know I am gay. The only other people who know are my best friend and his girlfriend, currently. The rest of my family is very homophobic, so thats a bit of an issue.

My parents are separated and telling both of them is still a major source of anxiety for me.

It still feels a little awkward for me to talk about being gay, but I am progressing. I feel that I shouldn't volunteer to tell people that I'm gay, but if people ask I will tell them the truth. Reason being is the area I live in is filled with many people who are homophobic and don't know what to do around a gay guy.

If I were to tell anyone that I was gay at my high school, I probably would've gotten beaten up badly or been shot. I'm completely serious.

 

[Racer Dave]

I hear you, I've been out for 5 months now and still haven't worked up t courage to tell my dad.
And as for not advertising it but not denying it if asked thats the best way to handle it, people will appreciate your honesty and the fact you don't rub it in their faces.