I Cant Cum When I Have Sex With My Bf

[chrisied]

hi guys i need help. when i top with my bf, i really want to b able to cum without wanking myself off after i fuck my bf. i want to be abl to cum while i have sex with him. if u hav any tips for me to do this. it would be a great help.
thanx

 

[playboy2001]

I agree with mymariah@1 with regards to dirty talk (I just posted something about Mike Rowe of "Dirty Jobs"...I got a theme going with the dirty), and it being more common than talked about. Anyway, being a top myself I can't cum either without jerking off or just simply fucking a guy. Most cases it has to do with my partners wanting to rush to climax, and that just puts on anxiety...especially when they cum so easily. Personally, I like to take my time, I love foreplay, I think it sets the tone for the rest of the show. But dirty talk does heighten my senses, even putting myself in some kind of "porn-like" mindset. Another thing is condoms, I use them religiously, never barebacked, but for me, it does factor in to some degree mentally as a put off. Don't know why, but it just does.

 

[kurtwild]

i agree with all the guys too.if it doent work you should maybe try something more kinky,i guess.

 

[cumtasteit]

I find that sometimes I can get overstimulated to the point that I can't cum. That's when I have to slow down and just relax into it with no expectation of cumming. That usually does the trick, so to speak. XXX

 

[ronboy]

Believe it or not, even this Musketeer has had this problem. I think it could be a combination of overstimulation, and sometimes anxiety over wanting it to be perfect for my partner. When Dave and I first got together, it would sometimes happen. Once I relaxed, and felt confident enough that I pleased him, all was well. Dave and I talked about it, and I needed to hear from him that it was good. So when it did happen, both of us knew what to say to each other.....

 

[slobone]

Everybody's different in what gets them off. Me, I love getting blown, but I can't cum from it -- not enough friction I think.

If it's not causing a problem between you and your bf, don't worry about it. Just do the things you both enjoy.

It could also change as time goes by.

If you're really concerned about it, there are a couple things you could try. One is just always have a relaxed attitude when you're fucking. Don't put any pressure on yourself. Don't feel like you have to pump fast. Just enjoy yourselves. Most guys come too fast anyway.

Another thing you could try is not having orgasm so often. If you're jacking off by yourself, stop. Save it for your boyfriend. Let your testosterone build up for a day or two.

 

[gotdimples77]

yes!! I have this problem too! I love sex and topping but I cant quite come from it! I think I jerk off too much maybe, or am too used to that degree of tightness? I have noticed that my guy is obviously tighter at the actual hole where I like to pop my head in and out of but he likes the deep plunges so I havent quite figured out how to get enough stimulation where I need it to come...granted I am actually fine with not cumming but he wants me to.