I can't do it.

[alli-berri]

I'm sorry, bisexual gods - I could never imagine myself marrying/settling down with a woman. Only a man.

And I'm beginning to think that nullifies "Bisexuality".

 

[mbamike]

But what is right for you may not be right for someone else. Hence, bisexuality may be nullifed for you, but not for me for example.

 

[alli-berri]

I see what you're saying. I like that.

My guess is, in time I will develop an indifference to the female form as male relationships become more emotionally and sexually regular.

But I'm still a ways from confidently denying some level of sexual attraction to the idea of a woman.

The movie The Kids Are All Right presented an interesting scenario, that slightly reassured my concerns. One of the moms was looking at porn with gay men, while her female partner pleasured her.

 

[Robert776]

I wish I could find out how this goes eventually. I found out I was gay early, became an well-rounded escort/hustler/whore at 17, but then at 19 decided I should be straight and learned how to fuck females, which I then have done now for many years. But it's not satisfactory, and I still don't know the answer.

 

[alli-berri]

Why did you "decide" you should be straight? Surely something prompted that, no? A sexual compulsion, a societal concern - something? Have you become unattracted to men? Are you even really attracted to women?

Perhaps you should not view sex as a business or something which must be "learned", and rather you should try and pursue sex for emotional fulfillment? My post concerns the emotional attachment I feel towards men as opposed to that which one may feel towards a woman. Have you ever had an emotionally pleasurable sexual experience?

Only asking out of curiosity, I hope I don't come off as condescending, because I'm not trying to be!

 

[AsianDream]

Why did you "decide" you should be straight? Surely something prompted that, no? A sexual compulsion, a societal concern - something? Have you become unattracted to men? Are you even really attracted to women?

Perhaps you should not view sex as a business or something which must be "learned", and rather you should try and pursue sex for emotional fulfillment? My post concerns the emotional attachment I feel towards men as opposed to that which one may feel towards a woman. Have you ever had an emotionally pleasurable sexual experience?

Only asking out of curiosity, I hope I don't come off as condescending, because I'm not trying to be!

I'd guess emotional attachment probably is much more to do with the individual rather than what gender they are.

I also think sex is such a pleasurable activity it's worth doing for it's own sake .

Like doing anything really nice with another person / other people - it does make most people feel much closer to each other - whether thats just warm feelings of friendship or something more depends on the individuals.

 

[Krakenbwool]

That may nullify your bisexuality, but it doesn't nullify the concept of bisexuality.

I'm glad that you've found what makes you happy, but please don't become one of those "bisexuals are all self-loathing gay men" people.

 

[Kennylingus]

OMFG a gay.
Gross.

 

[alli-berri]

That may nullify your bisexuality, but it doesn't nullify the concept of bisexuality.

I'm glad that you've found what makes you happy, but please don't become one of those "bisexuals are all self-loathing gay men" people.

Oh no, would never think it. I've had to argue away a few of those accusations myself! Bi is my crossroads, but that doesn't mean it isn't something more definitive for others.

I also think sex is such a pleasurable activity it's worth doing for it's own sake .

Sex, for me, is pleasurable only under these circumstances: with 3+ people, or with one other person to whom I feel an emotional attachment.

Like doing anything really nice with another person / other people - it does make most people feel much closer to each other - whether thats just warm feelings of friendship or something more depends on the individuals.

I agree with you that everyone responds to bonding activities differently. But when I refer to "emotional attachment", I'm thinking more like romance and dates and intimate conversations that one could only imagine having with that other person. That mushy gross stuff. It's what makes me feel closer to others, although I agree not everyone could say the same.

And I think this is why I could never permanently settle on bisexuality. My mind seems able to switch its receptiveness of male/female bonding between the two genders, but cannot enjoy both at the same time. If that makes any sense? For example, age 16-17 & 19, I was very receptive to the bonding time spent with women. Ages 4-15 & 18, it was boys. Now 20-22, I feel the need to shift back to the childhood homosexuality I suppressed - which has been going well - and it has been VERY easy for me to "shut off" my receptiveness to women, and reopen it to men.

I prefer to have women who are close that I don't fuck, and men who are close that I do.

 

[AsianDream]

Now 20-22, I feel the need to shift back to the childhood homosexuality I suppressed - which has been going well - and it has been VERY easy for me to "shut off" my receptiveness to women, and reopen it to men.

I prefer to have women who are close that I don't fuck, and men who are close that I do.

You may well be right – I’ve been in relationships before (only with guys) – but I’m still not sure if it was “In Love” or not.

Someone (older and wiser than me) once said that you don’t get to chose rationally and logically who you fall in love with – it just happens – but again I don’t know if this is true.

I’ve maybe got a problem in only being able to feel close and intimate with people I’ve had sex with. I feel I can reveal anything to them – but with other people I’m quite guarded and defensive – but maybe this is a culture thing.