I can't flirt

[wendigo3]

I don't know what it is, but I don't seem to have the skills to flirt with a guy. I can be nice and everything, but I never know the correct thing to say to get things moving along. I can't even tell when they're flirting with me!

Maybe I'm just flirting with straight guys. Does anyone have any tips for me? Please?

I'd get on my knees and beg for advice, but I get the feeling I wouldn't get up too quickly...

 

[Martkell2007]

Smiling and showing subtle interest in him in some way, whether it's picking on him, bumping into him, joining in on his conversations. Let him know you think about him ... that's what it's all about.

 

[mascbiguy]

smile, tell jokes, try to be witty and say some interesting things, ask questions about him and then if you know about the topic you can have something in common to talk about, and joke around.

practice makes perfect, youll get the hang out it. just start trying.

 

[G-Lexington]

Flirting isn't "nice shoes - wanna fuck?". Flirting is simply showing some interest in a guy. Ask questions about him, find common ground, and expand on it.

"You had Professor Jenkins for astronomy, too? Did he do that 'you are the stars' thing during your class, too?"

"Oh, you watch Dancing With the Stars? I cracked up last week when the judges..."

"Oh, you work out on a treadmill, too? So do I. God, it's embarrassing, but last week, I didn't put the clip on..."

If you don't find any common ground, find something that sounds at all interesting to you (hint: skip TV and movies), and probe around there.

"I've never actually gone camping. You enjoy being away for long periods of time? Or is one or two nights enough?"

"I don't know anything about kick boxing. Is it mainly just for exercise, or do you actually spar with opponents?"

"You play guitar? I never actually learned an instrument. When'd you get started on that?"

Above all, LOOK and BE interested in what's being said. Don't let your gaze wander to the TV or other passing strangers.

As masc said before me, practice does make perfect. Don't kick yourself if you can't do it right away.

Lex

 

[Bartman]

If I'm around someone I like I tend to bite my bottom lip, wasn't sure I did it until someone pointed it out to me, but that's always been a way of flirting for me. Humour is also a good way into someones heart.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I believe that there are no universal tips, that would really work every dude.

Sure, you want to look and sound interested in him. Beyond that, everything else ought to be personally tailored.

See, asking me for a camping trip would be a huge turn off. I am a high maintainance dude and camping sounds all wrong to me.

One more basic rule may apply to most people: show emotional intelligence. Offer to do something for them. Most people fall for that.

SC

 

[bluedragon4]

It's all about eye contact and a mischievous smile. Guys love a shit eating grin.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>See, asking me for a camping trip would be a huge turn off. I am a high maintainance dude and camping sounds all wrong to me.

I hope this wasn't meant in reference to my comments. I certainly didn't mean one should feign interest in partaking of activities that one doesn't want to. If he loves camping and you don't, then by all means, don't say you want to go with him. All I suggested is that you TALK about his interests. I don't have any interest in camping, either, as it turns out, but I could probably chat about it for awhile.

Lex

 

[sonny10305]

Flirting isn't "nice shoes - wanna fuck?". Flirting is simply showing some interest in a guy. Ask questions about him, find common ground, and expand on it.
Lex

Exactly!

I also love to throw in a few double entendres into the conversation as well.
I love to make a dude blush

 

[neruda]

^ Like?
Coz thats the part I wanna learn

 

[silentalk]

^ Like?
Coz thats the part I wanna learn

Yeah... How do you make a guy blush? Do guys even blush? I mean... I know I blush... I think... but I never saw any other guy do so.

 

[evil_danger]

Its strange, I've never been around flirty people growing up, my family isn't a bunch of flirts yet I am such a big flirt, I can do the subtle flirting, or the in yer face kinky sex talk flirting, my problem is people often dont take it seriously either way.

Just chatting to someone you like, getting to know them, asking about their day, week, lives in a polite and positive way is flirting.

flashing a nice smile, brushing your hands through you hair, even biting your nails can all be flirty things. But even if you find something that works for you unless you actually talk about things it wont do any good.

Doubble entendres are fun! I often do them by accident though

"I forgot to gell my hair today, hey come stroke my head... isn't my hair soft?!" i've said before, got a laugh I think.

 

[neruda]

So any ordinarily friendly guy is a flirt then?
And all this time I thought it was somehow sexual
Dumbass me..

 

[Oden_grey]

smile, tell jokes, try to be witty and say some interesting things, ask questions about him and then if you know about the topic you can have something in common to talk about, and joke around.

If that's flirting then I must be some kind of bisexual manwhore?

 

[maxpowr9]

Flirting isn't "nice shoes - wanna fuck?". Flirting is simply showing some interest in a guy.

LMFAO!!! Added that quote to my on going list of interesting sayings I have found on the web (I'll post it after).

Flirting can be quite difficult, especially if you are shy. Overcoming shyness is something that you have to do on your own. Practice on your friends. Thats my best advice. If you turn them on, then it works. Just make sure they know you're joking.

interesting phrases found across the web...

We have questions, too, and we want answers to those questions.

oh my!
Not only did you actually find that most elusive of all creatures in the wild... the gamer chick... but it seems you have even gone so far as to domesticate one, effectively forming a most singular fauna of even greater rarity... the gamer wife!
Kudos my friend... kudos...

That was awesome but put on some pants next time. Men are preverts

(uninteligable Japanese)

Sometimes I fill up the bathtub and then turn the shower on. I like to pretend I'm in a submarine that just got hit.

I didn't watch it. Something better was on, "Murder She Wrote."

she harasses you for staying there for more than a few seconds.

When a rabbit is scared, its hair stands on end. When a human is scared, he or she calls the police.

I don't know WHO Britney Spears is

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Did you know that Chinese herbs can easily treat Precocious Puberty?

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"its sound like your are tap dancein lol"
...Are you educated past the third grade? I tend to refrain from making inflammatory remarks in comments, but the number of errors you managed to make in just seven words and one acronym is rather impressive. Please do not use a computer until you are able to form complete, written sentences.

They found out that not only does an icky fungus live on your head and cause dandruff-- but it could be having sex. On your head. Right now.

Britain-the land of warm beer and bowler hats

I tried Yoga in the office, but discovered I could get the same benefit and more from sex in the office.

 

[rareboy]

See, asking me for a camping trip would be a huge turn off. I am a high maintainance dude and camping sounds all wrong to me.

ahhhhhhhhhhhh. This is the source of your problem. You are so self absorbed that you really don't give a rat's ass about others so you can't imagine engaging them in the type of delightful exchange that Lex has set out for you.

Get over yourself first. Actually want to learn about new things and other people and their interests.

You'll be the perfect flirt.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Wendigo,

Mate... theres one sure way to get to meet a guy and to get to know him... just talk to him... and be honest. Dont play games or lay it on thick...

Believe it or not, its normal to be nervous and even a little self conscious when you first meet someone. You notice the awkward silences (or so they seem at the time) and every little stutter and pause.

But you know what? He most likely feels the same way. You're human... so's he. You don't know every little thing about each other... thats what this is about. Just start with small talk about where you are, whats going on right in front of you... and listen to his answers.

Unless you are supremely confident theres nothing worse than someone trying to be something they're not... a comedian or a smooth operator. Its far better to come off as nervous than a complete tool!!!

Just talk to him the way you'd like someone to talk to you. Sincerely, honestly ... but most of all listen. That will lead you where to go... you'll find out what he likes and wants to talk about.

Dont try too hard or to plan it... it never goes the way you want and you'll be lost before you start. Dont look to far ahead... you're just saying hello and to meet the guy... worry about the rest as it goes along.

Just be you Wendigo...be natural. Because after all you want the guy to know the real you... not some charade. Take it slow... pick your target... and remember that you're a great decent caring guy that people are happy to know. Before you know it you'll be talking the house down!

 

[kevbo]

You know those things that pop into your head when talking to someone that make you ask yourself if it is alright to say?

Don't ask yourself. Just say it.

 

[vincentfalkenberg]

This is just one of the many things you can try. There is this thing we call "intellectual flirtation." and that´s when you engage in a conversation with your type, where you both try to test each other´s intelligence. It works for me, cause I get turned on by a guy who is not just physically attractive, but capable of doing so many things.

 

[boy0boy]

This is just one of the many things you can try. There is this thing we call "intellectual flirtation." and that´s when you engage in a conversation with your type, where you both try to test each other´s intelligence. It works for me, cause I get turned on by a guy who is not just physically attractive, but capable of doing so many things.

Wow if only people like you were more abundant.

To a certain point of course, not like a "I know more than you" but to actually listen and learn new things from each other. That's hot.