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I can't fucking stop thinking about him

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There is nothing worse than being taken advantage of in any way. And more so when it is a supposed friend.
If he was a real friend he may not have done it, but it seems he may have from the get go. So don't feel bad for a loser, which is what it is/was. He just used you for what he need you for, money and a place to stay.

You deserve better and just need to put it behind you and MOVE ON. Soon he will just be a memory( a bad one)

that you will think why did i let it happen. But no need to fret over him, just find someone else that can be a true friend.

My fave saying is " friends come and go in our life's, but it's the ones that stick with you that make the differance"

Don't waste your time to be civil w/him he has said "no contact w/you again--that's telling you something right there. Just let it go and move on.. and remember these type of people so it does not happen again.....
 
Agreed. As much as you remember the good times, etc, it's probably not worth trying to mend that. Your current feelings are likely just a product of how it ended, a bit of guilt that kinda grows stronger since you can't deal with it, given he's not responding to your texts. You deserve better than to be grovelling after someone who took advantage of you. Move on, and you'll find you'll think about him less and less as all the other great stuff in your life squishes him out.
 
Everything Racer and Silverbelt said!

You have to mourn the loss and move on. You've expressed how highly you thought of him and how much you valued him, but he didn't feel the same...or at least he didn't feel it to the degree that you did and there's nothing you can do about that unfortunately. That's why I think trying to meet up with him to explain your feelings is a bad idea. He knows. He doesn't care. He's telling you that with his silence. Heartbreak brings wisdom. At the very least you know more of what to look for in a new friend/boyfriend. You say that you know you deserve better and I agree, but you can't hold on to him and have 'better' too. Good luck to you man..lift your head up and keep it up!(*8*)
 
Let him go for the sake of your mental health. Being overly nice to someone treating you badly gives the message that you're ok with being a doormat. You deserve better.

Make a memory box. Throw in a couple of photos. Write a few lines regarding the good times you had with him and the things he did to treat you badly. Get rid of everything else and close the box, give it a kiss, put it away and forget about it.

Good luck in letting go. Please look to a brighter day.
 
I was going through a situation similar to yours and this fellow told me, "Why would you want to be w/ someone who doesn't want to be with you?" When I thought about it, it really put the whole thing in perspective. It greatly helped me get over the guy, and pretty quickly too.
 
Seasoned said:
Let him go for the sake of your mental health. Being overly nice to someone treating you badly gives the message that you're ok with being a doormat. You deserve better.

Make a memory box. Throw in a couple of photos. Write a few lines regarding the good times you had with him and the things he did to treat you badly. Get rid of everything else and close the box, give it a kiss, put it away and forget about it.

Good luck in letting go. Please look to a brighter day.
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This!

It's all too easy to remember the warm, fuzzy memories. When you get the urge to contact him, remember the retched shit he did to you.

In the end just remember that this, too, shall pass.
 
The fact that he took advantage of you should make it easier, which is better than being the bestest friend ever who never wanted to talk to you again.
 
Don't beg, this is what happens when guys are cunt struck, she tells him what to do and she doesn't want you about taking his (read her) time.
I think the term is "pussy whipped"
In 12mths time when they break up he will suddenly realise and then you can either renew the friendship or tell him to fuck off.
 
Please please please DO NOT CONTACT HIM!!!!! I know it hurts. I know you miss him. I know your remembering and re living he good times but you need to think about what he did to you. You were ready to kill yourself over some guy that took advantage of you, treated you terribly, flaunted his relationship in your face knowing you had feelings for him and then told you to never contact him again. I've been there and I know how much losing someone hurts but this guy wasn't a friend. He was a user. a friend wouldn't do the things he did.

You need to get some therapy and work on your self esteem. you deserve better and need to realize that. he's not worth all of this. your thinking with your heart and not your head. that's a very dangerous thing to do. grieve the loss. cry if you want. be angry if you want but for the love of God.....STOP contacting him. no more emails, texts, calls ANYTHING. you need to move on. I assure you he has long ago.

Steven.
 
Arecibo. Been there. Done that Dude and It just happened to my hottttttttttttttt roommate and I recently. The only thing different is my hot roommate doesn't have GF and his EX GF fat and ugly but She is a real nice person and my roommate has a nicest, longest and thickest one I never seen in my life. I did give him anything and even nicer to him than my best friends. He can drive my nice car, pro live for free at my nice place but He changed his mind and walked away after living with me for 4 years. I almost killed myself when He moved out, saw his empty room, great time We spent together. But I still have a lots of good friends, roommates who care for me but him he doesn't have any good friends and he kinda lonely guy. I feel way better now and today pro the last day I see him but who cares? Very soon I will find a better, hotter roommates and He will never find anyone in this world who cares for him as much as I do. His loss. Lucky me I don't miss him as much as I did any more. My new roommates move in very soon and I hope I will go back to normal and I will be a happy person again. Love you guys. Forgot my roommate is so straight and he likes to play with my head.
 
Had a situation very similar to yours recently. I thought this guy was my friend and so I did everything I could to help him. Then I get an email from him implying that we were never friends and that I needed to leave him alone. And actually I should have read his signals long before that. If I had of, I'd known he never considered me a friend.

Not going to lie here, it rips my heart out when I think about it. But as I said previously in a thread, you can't make people be your friend if they don't want to be. So I'm moving on...and in your case, you need to as well. Just my advice.
 
I've been in a situation where someone took advantage of me financially and emotionally, too. Just move on. I know it's hard right now since it's only been 3 months, but you will get through this.
 
On one of the other threads, someone (I wish I could remember who) said something like - people who are looking for closure, are looking to make things end the way they want them to - and you know what, that's kind of true.

If you do talk to him, and he rejects you again, are you going to have to find "closure" for that?

Sometimes life smacks you upside the head. Do you want to give it another go? Three months isn't a whole lot of time, and you need to stop texting/whatever the guy. Yes sometimes that's hard to do, but that's what growing up is about. You make the hard choice, because it's better for you in the long run, and you follow through, because you're in control of yourself.

Think about it this way, if it requires you to abandon your self respect and dignity, it's probably not the way you want to go.

I don't know how hard it is going to be for you to walk away, and frankly I've never understood the need to go back for more in situations like this, but honestly, I do believe that if you cut him off completely, you'll feel better a lot sooner than if you don't.
 
Seasoned said:
Make a memory box. Throw in a couple of photos. Write a few lines regarding the good times you had with him and the things he did to treat you badly. Get rid of everything else and close the box, give it a kiss, put it away and forget about it. .
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I like this idea. It may seem a bit silly, but it may be really helpful to get over him or for anyone else trying to get over a person in their life. I guess in a way it may be like a time capsule for memories.

Arecibo said:
You guys are awesome. This is what I needed to hear. Next time I get feeling like this, point me to this thread. :lol: What Steve up there said about flaunting his relationship with his girlfriend in front of me is totally true. I'll try the memory box thing, and hopefully that'll do it. Thanks, guys. (*8*)
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