If you were able to be with him for two years straight, and another off and on, without becoming infected, it seems that you're doing a good job. Maybe you should focus your efforts on not letting your worries drive you away, rather than on trying to separate yourself.
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I can't move on.
- Thread starter LoveIsNow
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Man, you love one another. Few people in the world get such a wonderful gift. He has an illness, you both know about it and how to deal with it. You are letting fear dominate and ruin your life. Everytime you walk across the road you risk your life, everytime you walk down the stairs (check the stats for the number of people who die in simple trips). You need to have a long hard look at yourself and your life. What are your priorities - if it is love, you will have to be prepared to take the minimal risk; if you turn your back on this relationship, you risk living a sad life away from someone you care deeply for. It is a hard choice. But that is what life is about. And it is also about taking risks.
There's just no easy answer here and, no matter what you did, there would be adverse consequences from your perspective. You tried to give it a go and could not get past some harsh realities, so you did what you needed to do in order to move on.
This won't be easy, and you'll second-guess this forever, probably. But, this is not a decision-on-a-whim, rather, it's been coming for a while.
Take some time and regroup and get over it all and then move on.
This won't be easy, and you'll second-guess this forever, probably. But, this is not a decision-on-a-whim, rather, it's been coming for a while.
Take some time and regroup and get over it all and then move on.
On another note, and I'm not trying to be a dick but, how would you feel if you contracted HIV from him? And how would he feel if he knew he was the one that passed it on to you?
You might end up completely hating him, and he might end up completely depressed knowing that he was the one that gave you it.
I think if you're paranoid about it, and it's the only thing coming between the two of you, then you either need to work through it, or cut him loose.
You might end up completely hating him, and he might end up completely depressed knowing that he was the one that gave you it.
I think if you're paranoid about it, and it's the only thing coming between the two of you, then you either need to work through it, or cut him loose.
I think obviously the HIV issue is NOT the "main" issue the issue it seems to me is that you have a fear of committment. You are definitely stringing your boyfriend along and that's not right. You obviously need more education about HIV because if you practice safer sex all the time you will be fine.
I think you are using your partner's HIV as an excuse due to intimacy issues. You say you both practice safer sex and for the past three years you are not infected. Since you both practice safer sex HIV should not be the problem if you get tested and are negative the HIV is not the issue.
The issue is your own biases and prejudices are ruining a good relationship. The problem is obviously you because due to your prejudice and bias you ruined a good relationship. I understand HIV is a sensitive issue but I think you are cruel to your boyfriend making him feel it's HIS FAULT when in fact it is YOUR FAULT. You are the one that is making HIV the issue NOT him.
I think your boyfriend is better off without you he deserves someone that will LOVE HIM UNCONDITONALLY. If you want an HIV negative boyfriend go find one but to string along your boyfriend like this just because he has HIV is abhorrent.
I feel sorry for your boyfriend he has HIV but the way you are treating him you are making him feel worst about himself as a person and that's disgusting! He doesn't deserve someone that makes him feel bad because he has HIV. I hope your boyfriend finds someone better then you someone that will love him for him and not use his HIV as an excuse for fear of committment.
I think you are using your partner's HIV as an excuse due to intimacy issues. You say you both practice safer sex and for the past three years you are not infected. Since you both practice safer sex HIV should not be the problem if you get tested and are negative the HIV is not the issue.
The issue is your own biases and prejudices are ruining a good relationship. The problem is obviously you because due to your prejudice and bias you ruined a good relationship. I understand HIV is a sensitive issue but I think you are cruel to your boyfriend making him feel it's HIS FAULT when in fact it is YOUR FAULT. You are the one that is making HIV the issue NOT him.
I think your boyfriend is better off without you he deserves someone that will LOVE HIM UNCONDITONALLY. If you want an HIV negative boyfriend go find one but to string along your boyfriend like this just because he has HIV is abhorrent.
I feel sorry for your boyfriend he has HIV but the way you are treating him you are making him feel worst about himself as a person and that's disgusting! He doesn't deserve someone that makes him feel bad because he has HIV. I hope your boyfriend finds someone better then you someone that will love him for him and not use his HIV as an excuse for fear of committment.