I Couldn't Cum !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[torontoguy22]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! 19 year old in a mini-crisis here...

In a nutshell: A friend and I fooled around, but I couldn't come and eventually got soft.

Now to put it in context: It happened this afternoon around 5pm. I had come to campus to workout, which I did do, and then study. Previously in the day I jerked off 3 to 4 times at home while watching porn. I ate breakfast and lunch, but didn't eat anything after my rather intense workout.

I met a friend of mine, and we found a cozy place to study. We ended up watching porn, and one thing let to another and before I knew it he was jerking and sucking me. This went on for maybe 15 minutes. He came, I kept jerking and whatnot but just couldn't come. After maybe 20 minutes I just lost my hardon.

Funny thing was though, at so many points it felt like I was about to have an intense orgasm. I even started shivering/shaking in intensity! Then after awhile my whole body got all tingly (weird feeling), and soon after I lost my erection.

I was and still am thoroughly embarrassed. He said it's not that unusual, especially considering I'd jerked off 3 times already. But even still, I can typically jerk off upwards of 5 times a day with no trouble! I'm most worried that word will get out to our fellow group of friends (I'm sure it will), and I'll get the name as the gay guy with E.D. or something!!! Ahhh!

I think it was a combination of:
a) cumming 3/4 times earlier in the day
b) an intense workout, and not rejuvenating with food after
c) i swear i have low blood pressure. for instance, sometimes when i'm jerking off my legs will get numb!!
d) general nervousness at hooking up with a friend. this is the first time anything like that happened
e) i have a midterm exam monday, and have been stressed lately.

I'm really pissed cause I really like this guy, certainly as a friend, and maybe more (ie. I'd go all the way with him).

What the hell is wrong with me? I'm 19! This shouldn't happen! I'm usually the horniest shit on the planet! lol.

Please advise. All advice is welcome!
Thanks

 

[hopnung]

I think you just exhausted yourself.

If I've ever gone at it for more than 3 or 4 rounds I've run out of juice (pun intended).

Give yourself a day to refuel.

 

[racer2438]

You answered your own question.

Thake time and relax, then have fun with him again

 

[G-Lexington]

You may have had a dry orgasm. No big deal. Just tell the guy, "I already came three times today, so I'm probably spent for the day." Then make arrangements for another time.

Lex

 

[ThankGodforBeef]

That happened to me when I was fooling around with my friend too...
and he told me the longer you have sex, the harder you can get off...
I really like that guy, but I just couldn't get off for some reason,...

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>he told me the longer you have sex, the harder you can get off...

True, up to a point. If you let it build, if you do some edging, then the final orgasm is majorly intense. But if you've got performance anxiety and/or have already had sex a couple times, you may never reach it.

Lex

 

[boredman321]

I can't offer advice, but I can say Bravo! on your Grammar/Punctuation.

 

[EvilForce]

Sex drives and penises are funny things. Sometimes they work when they aren't supposed to, like when standing in front of a classroom. Sometimes they don't work when they should. I think your penis was showing your ego who is really in charge. But seriously, it happens sometimes. Usually rarely, but sex is funny so just roll with it. As long as you have fun and enjoy it, that's the main thing. Besides, now it gives you a reason to go hang out with him again "to make it up to him". Don't jerk off for 3 days before hand and then you can shoot 5 seconds after he touches your penis. LOL

 

[torontoguy22]

I can't offer advice, but I can say Bravo! on your Grammar/Punctuation.

lol, thank you. I'm no longer in high school, so I find it necessary to type with at least an iota of proper English. It's a habit I oughta practice now before I enter the workforce. =P

I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that maybe I'm not entirely disfunctional. Hopefully my friend doesn't think I am. I think at the time I overreacted and made matters worse. If I just brushed it off with an "I'm worn out" it would have been wiser. Ah well, you live and learn.

 

[genthree]

i think you have got to stop being a wanker, you spend too much time looking down the eye of your dick .....................

 

[rareboy]

What the hell is wrong with me? I'm 19! This shouldn't happen! I'm usually the horniest shit on the planet! lol.

I think it was a combination of:
a) cumming 3/4 times earlier in the day
b) an intense workout, and not rejuvenating with food after
c) i swear i have low blood pressure. for instance, sometimes when i'm jerking off my legs will get numb!!
d) general nervousness at hooking up with a friend. this is the first time anything like that happened
e) i have a midterm exam monday, and have been stressed lately.

Ok...got it?

 

[fjancsi80]

It happens sometimes. Yesterday I had sex with a guy (our second time) and I was anxious about some work and deadlines. My cock was hard for about 45 minutes when he proposed that I should fuck him. I agreed although I'm more of a bottom but why not? But at this point my cock went limp... It simply happened. Uh, it was really embarrassing. But there was nothing to do so I took off the condom. My cock was hard again after 5 minutes. It was obviously against to fuck the guy

ps. I'm sure he will never call me again

 

[PhoenixRandall]

If this guys really is your 'friend' and you have had sexual relations, why can't you just talk to him? If you're big enough to engage in adult activity, then be adult enough to talk about honestly too. Every man on the planet, regardless of age, has this problem from time to time. It's just a part of life.

Explain it to him and ask him for round two. If it happens again, it is probably all nerves....you're fine physically. Relax buddy, it's just sex!