I decided to come out!

[jbrock585]

i posted awhile back about possibly coming out but was afraid to, well over the past couple months i have come out to my closest friends who have supported me through it all, i thought one person would be mad but nobody has been.

i then told my parents, my dad didnt care one bit we just dont talk about it, with my mom i told her she couldnt believe it and says now i cant have a family, i did call her bluff saying just because im gay dosent mean i cant have a family. so far my process has gone great, a couple small bumps have happened but i was expecting as much. i figured id share with everybody now if i can either have some more fun in life or find somebody for something serious i feel id be set for life

 

[dhchitown1984]

congratulations! I'm happy that you were able to experience such a liberating moment.

Your family will come around. It's important to remember that this is something you've been understanding and preparing for over a few months if not years. You just told your family. Maybe they had a bit of a clue, maybe they didn't, but regardless it wasn't "official" until you said it outloud, and now it is. Give them some time as well.

Congratulations!

 

[landers]

Congrats. Now you can put some serious effort into gaysex, which anyone here will tell you, is just fantastic.

 

[Eagle653]

Congratulations! As others have said, give your family time, hopefully they'll come around. At the very least, you've got it out there and there's nothing to pretend or hide.

Now, good luck finding that Mr. Right and soulmate!

 

[jbrock585]

thanks everybody, i do feel in a way blessed it went as well as it did, i was expecting the worse

 

[vforvendetta]

Congratulations - it's been about a year and a half since I came out to my immediate family and friends, and I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Even if there are short term issues, in the long term it pays off big time. Being able to just be yourself and not having to hide who you are from those who you care about takes a whole load off of your shoulders.

 

[jbrock585]

oh it has helped so much, i feel like i can be more open, you know how long i wanted to play i know what boys like in my room really loud? lol

 

[vforvendetta]

oh it has helped so much, i feel like i can be more open, you know how long i wanted to play i know what boys like in my room really loud? lol

Haha, given my parents didn't try to kill me (I half expected they would given they were both more or less religious), I didn't want to push the envelope any further personally. When I moved out to work on a bachelor's degree a while ago I really was able to do some of those things though.

I guess a lot of it has to do with what kind of environment you're in when you do come out...obviously if you're young and still live with your family your situation is different than if you live independently.

And yeah, I had pretty much the same issues...my father and I don't talk about it too much, although he accepts me for who I am, but my mother wasn't all that happy. I really should have come out as gay, would have stopped a lot of her suggestions afterward (only try to date girls etc....I'm like a 4 or 5 on the kinsey scale...).

 

[jbrock585]

i hope at some point soon i can move out so i can become independent and do what i wanna do and not have to have any judgments if i wanna bring somebody home or if i want to do other things

 

[Seasoned]

I am so happy for you and the outcome you experienced. I still remember the feeling. You are smiling more and walking lighter and taller. Your mother will surprise you the minute you bring a nice guy home.