I did it

[Pushover]

I just sent the email to my mother, explaining everything.

I have extreme difficulties talking out loud, mostly because I stutter a lot, and I've had trouble expressing myself in the past. It's partly the reason I never said anything before.

So, I sent the email to her. I told her I was gay, and explained some things to her; how it wasn't her fault, and it really had nothing to do with her raising me. I know she'll get the email, because she usually gets up early and checks it before I get up in the morning. I'm hoping she'll check it tomorrow.

It's kinda of funny because we live in the same house and I sent her an email. But, it's difficult for me to talk for longer periods of time and I felt this was the best way to do it.

Somebody please say I did the right thing, because I think I'm on the verge of a panic attack right now.

 

[Dejajb]

I think that if you feel this is the best way to communicate, then I congratulate you 100%. I just hope you both can have a real conversation about this, because it is very important for YOU to be open especially with your loved ones. I came out to my mother first too because I felt she already knew, and after we had the conversation, although there were many many tears, we have become even closer, if thats possible.

best of luck!!!

 

[Corny]

i suppose you also wrote her why you are doing this by e-mail instead of having a talk. as you mother, i do believe she will understand your reasons .. however don't wonder, IF she insists on a talk with you

 

[jft245]

No matter how you do it, the important thing is that you are confident enough to tell her. Your mom will understand why. And I'm sure she will still love you.

 

[ozguy]

I think you are very brave, and I totally applaud you for coming out to your Mum. Like Corny said, though, be prepared for a follow-up talk with her .... I think she deserves that, at least. Now that you have 'come clean', so to speak, you may well find it a lot easier to express your feelings. One question, though ... is there a Dad involved in this situation?

Good luck, and please let us know how things go.

 

[Eagle653]

Congratulations! Don't worry about sending an email--I'm sure she'll understand. Besides, there are many of us who sometimes prefer to write things out that are difficult to say, so that we have precise control over our words and don't have a face an immediate reaction. The first two people I came out myself, I did over email instead of picking up the phone. I just wanted to do it that way.

Check back in here after she's seen it and let us know how it goes.

Congratulations, again!

 

[Pushover]

Odd...

...she didn't mind at all.

She said some things were a little obvious, and she had an inkling that I was gay.

I'm rather embarrassed now, I didn't know I was obvious. We didn't even have a real chat; more like a two minute chat and we went through all of the 'I'll support you no matter what' thing. We agreed that she'll tell my father tonight, because I just can't talk to him about the weather without getting annoyed.

Actually, and I know it's kind of corny, but I feel a small portion of that 'proverbial weight' lifted off my shoulders.

 

[landers]

One thing you should have realized if you read the coming out forum at all, is that mom's always know. A lot of us (me included) like to think that we aren't obvious at all, but we are.

And if feels great doesn't it with that weight gone? You probably feel liberated too.

Now the only thing you have to watch out for is another sex talk. For some reason some parents think gay sex is different enough from straight sex that it necessitates another talk... *shudders*