I don't know waht to do!

[kevinsexh8]

*sigh* ok,I met this guy, In our first date I went to his house and we just talked like 5 minutes, after it we stared and then we kissed and had sex twice (the sex was the best I have had so far ) we kept in touch in msn and set for another meeting a week after our first time. the second time was even better than the first one, we had sex twice again. I was really confused because I knew that he had an account in manhunt.net, so I tho, "my god he just wanted to have sex we have another date and we went to the club, it was an amazing night tbh but he kept opening his profile in manhunt and it made me feel insecure so, I stayed away a while but I still sent him some text message and he texted me back... after a month I couldn't get him out my head, I felt in love but he was he was distant with me and I call him to let him know how I felt, and he told me that he needed to tell me something too, well he told me that he thought that i wasn't into him, so his brother introduced a guy, and he was dating him, this day my heart was really broken I told him that I love him but at this moment his boyfriend came to his house, and they started to have a showdown in from of me, they broke up this day and this night he sent me a message telling me that he want me.

2 week later, he started to call me again and he started to told me that I really wanted to see me again, we set a day at the park, we talked for a while (no sex), after this date, I was sending message and calling him but he started to act distant/weird again, a week later I called him and I told him that we needed to face our situation a see if we are gonna be just friends or something more, he told me: "don't worry, we can talk tomorrow" but he never did it. aweek after it i sent him an email asking what was going on with us and if he want me to stay away, he replies me with something like : "I was taking a time for myself, I don't have any ploblem with u, you're nice" I was ok, I'm gonna let him alone to he kept having his time for him. this last friday he called me and we met again in the park, we talked and then we came to his house and we were watching a movie /No Night Is Too Long ) and we couldn't resist, we had sex and we were ok, he even me, the night was amazing!

3 days have been since friday and I don't know what to do, i texted him today but he didn't texte me back , I feel I'm In love, his in my mind 24/7, I have tried to date others guy but I think he's the only right man for me, i don't know what should I do

idk if I have to let he call me or just go for it and ask him what he want, i don't wanna lose him

any advice
D lol I know it very long and I have a flop english but i wanna know another point of view I haven't have a relationship so far in my life and I'm really insecure about me)

 

[ziliphin01]

At this stage I think it's best you moved on. Let him chase after you, I get the impression he's pretty confused about what he wants and isn't ready for a relationship. Casual friends / f.buddies might work out but yeah, start looking elsewhere for the lover. It's clear he doesn't feel the same and even as a friend he isn't treating you like one giving you the silent treatment. Stop the messages and let him approach you when he's ready.

 

[rareboy]

Throw your text machine away.

He isn't that in to you. But he knows you are available for sex whenever he wants it.

If the sex is amazing and that is all you want out of your friendship, then go for it.

But if, as you imply, you are hoping for more from him, I can guarantee, from what you've written, you're not going to get it .

He's shopping for someone else.

I'd fuck him one last time and then say goodbye. At least you'll have memories of some fantastic sex.

 

[Seasoned]

Try to reframe your thinking. What you are doing is dating. Dating is the process by which you are able to see what type of person and which qualities are important to you. You have a strong attraction, physical and emotional, to this person while he seems to have only a physical attraction to you. This is not uncommon, in fact, this is how it typically is unroll two people find the mutual physical/emotional bond and are willing to add a spiritual component.

Try not to call it love until you get more back from a partner. At this point it is a strong attraction and possibly a mild obsession. You'll see the difference when someone exhibits to you what you are exhibiting to this current guy.

It's impossible for anyone to control who they are attracted to. Just as other guys in your past didn't quite do it for you, you don't quite do it for him. Do not take it personally. We each have our own tastes. If we were all attracted to the same thing there would only be one of each thing.

Wait for the magic of real love when the person looking at you is sending the same messages with his eyes as you are sending him.

Continue dating to learn more about the qualities that are most attractive to you. In the process you might shed some tears and will need friends who can support you.

Things will work out for you. Be protective of yourself without becoming hardened as you meet new guys. Good luck to you. Someone, sometime will be thankful to have you in their life as a partner.

 

[racer2438]

I think you need to leave this one alone and just be friends, if that.

He sounds like he might be a player and leave you high and dry.

And dont say the I love you so soon, that can push away people faster than anything else.

 

[mbamike]

It sounds to me that he is using you as his backup guy.

Whenever he can't get a date for sex, he calls on you. You need to determine if you are happy being a booty call or if you want more. If you want more, then you may need to leave this guy behind and move on.

 

[kevinsexh8]

@ziliphin01 thank you, bro, i'm gonna wait to see if he chase me, I really think too that he's confused.

@rareboy yep I have been hoping more from him. maybe he's shopping for someone else. cuz he's still vising his manhunt account it piss me offf so bad. and I love the idea to fuck with him again

@soreknees i don't know if we are dating because we talked an everything in his house, in the park and we were clubbing once but idk his intentions, i tho he was into me but like u said he don't feel an emocional atraction for me, just phisical. well, all my friends are str8 and they don't know a damn thing about my sexual interest, you're so sweet

@racer2438 well I think I'm in love with him, but I don't gonna make the mistake to tel him that I love him, I only have told him that I think he's an amaazing man, If he wanna be my friend I will be happy cause I think he's so nice and I want the best for him but what is killing me if the doubt of what do he want from me!

@mbamike yes I thin it's time to move on, maybe you're right that just want me and using me as his backup guy

omg guys thank you so much for ur words, I tho nobody was gonna read it, mah gawd it's very long

I appreciated ur time and ur advice

I'm such a fool and I have bad luck for men but well life goes on , thank u again

 

[Nomenclature]

He's a player.

He's only around you when it's convenient, because he knows you'll give him exactly what he wants.

He has no commitment to you, and doesn't have feelings for you in return; he's constantly checking his Manhunt profile to see who else will be willing to fuck him.

When he has someone else to fuck, you never hear from him. Then, when he doesn't, he's right up your ass (probably literally).


Sweetheart, he isn't on a HOOK-UP LINE to fall in love and stay committed to someone. He's an ass, so do your best to recover from this - however long that takes - and start making yourself available to people who will want the same thing you want.

 

[kevinsexh8]

He's a player.

He's only around you when it's convenient, because he knows you'll give him exactly what he wants.

He has no commitment to you, and doesn't have feelings for you in return; he's constantly checking his Manhunt profile to see who else will be willing to fuck him.

When he has someone else to fuck, you never hear from him. Then, when he doesn't, he's right up your ass (probably literally).


Sweetheart, he isn't on a HOOK-UP LINE to fall in love and stay committed to someone. He's an ass, so do your best to recover from this - however long that takes - and start making yourself available to people who will want the same thing you want.

it's really hard to listen waht u say, maybe is true and he's a player

thank you

I feel really down but I guess i'm learning alot from this experiance

 

[CristianoRonaldo]

oh you poor guy.

I was in the same situation two years ago with a guy I felt was prince charming.

We met, and it was all a fairytale. He called me constantly, we texted constantly and it was just going really well.
Then we had sex. It was amazing, very animalistic sex. And we went for it twice.

Shortly after that he stopped answering my texts and calls, and we never really been together on a date ever since. Only when I pressured him to do so he would meet me and have a quick meal at the shopping mall.

His main excuse was work. Since he works a lot. But then I would see him on the clubs and such and pretty much bragged about that. That was when he explained to me that after we'd been together he had to solve the issues he had with his ex-boyfriend and his head was a mess back then. Not only that he confessed to have fucked with the ex, and that he had a new fuck buddy.

I felt ridiculous but it was a great lesson to learn. I still talk to him, because I'm not rude, and I did wanted to fuck him one last time, just a final step until I let it all go. But he was just full of excuses so I eventually let that go too.

So yeah, what I want to tell you with this is, move on. He just wants to be wanted and fuck every once in a while. It's not worth the trouble. Give it sometime and you'll find somebody new

 

[kevinsexh8]

well, CristianoRonaldo I though I was the only person in this kind of situation, thank u for share ur story. I don't know what to think of men at this point of my life, seem all the men are the same

YES it's a great lesson for me too and I think he's so charming that i want him at least as my friend

I think that It's time for myself, I don't want someone new I have failed with the lasts 3 men I have put my eyes on. looks like love wasn't made for me <3

it's time to move on

 

[Just_Believe18]

Your connection with him is one that is based on sex. You've spent more time together hooking up than actually dating or being in a relationship. Yet, you say you are in love with this guy and spend your whole day thinking about him?

If you want a relationship and to be in love with a guy, you need to do it right. Avoid looking for a guy on the internet, hooking up with him within five minutes, and then expect something more out of it.

 

[CristianoRonaldo]

well, CristianoRonaldo I though I was the only person in this kind of situation, thank u for share ur story. I don't know what to think of men at this point of my life, seem all the men are the same

YES it's a great lesson for me too and I think he's so charming that i want him at least as my friend

I think that It's time for myself, I don't want someone new I have failed with the lasts 3 men I have put my eyes on. looks like love wasn't made for me <3

it's time to move on

I also had that in mind. "Oh he's marvellous, I want him at least as my friend". No. He's never gonna be a good friend, he just won't be there.

I know you may be lost and confused by now, but seriously give it some time. I took some time until I realised how ridiculous was my situation. But I moved on. I never had a relationship, but I moved on. I also thought men were all the same, but I moved on.

Just give it some time and you'll be fine, trust me...

 

[Menagerie]

He doesn't want anything other than NSA sex. If you want to settle for that, go for it. If not, find someone who can fulfill your needs.

 

[TX-Beau]

Just about every time I come across someone in your situation saying they don't know what to do, my gut reaction is that they do know what to do, they just want someone to tell them not to do it.

He's not acting like he's all that interested. You can try to push him there and take the consequences - or you can do what you already know you should be doing.

Walk. He was a good time, not a relationship. You're not in love, you don't even know this guy.

You're not losing him, you never had him in the first place.

 

[KaraBulut]

Cut your losses.

You gave it your best shot. But this one needs to grow up a bit before he'll be boyfriend material.

Time for you to move on and find someone grownup who knows what he wants.

 

[kevinsexh8]

@Just_Believe18 @Menagerie @TX-Beau ( I don't wanna push him but If he call me again I wanna ask him cuz I don't wanna live with that doubt all my life) @KaraBulut

maybe is because I'm 21 and I haven't been in a relationship, so I don't know how to act I was just letting my feeling flow. yes maybe everything between us was based in sex, and maybe I'm just sacred to lose him as my lover ( a lover that I only have had 4 times )

@Cristiano you're right i know he's no gonna be my friend I know thatdeep inside me I say friend to don't lose contact with him

i really need somebody to love and be loved, but I don't have rush I mean I have been alone all my time, so I have been thinking if I just need to become in man whore or keep waiting for love, it's like my biggest issue, cause i don't wanna regret when I'm older

thank you guy, for ur time again and made me realized the best for me <3