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I don't know what to do!!! Follow my heart or my head....opinions wanted (long read, sry!)

Wow, Tx....falling in love with the situation and not the person...never thought of it from that angle. That helps, really does, thank you!!
 
Just to make it simple and to the point....You are married, and have made a life-long commitment, and you have a kid...Don't ruin what you already have. Cheating is cheating even if you are Gay, Bi, or str8.
 
Now that you think you may have fallen for the situation and not necessarily the person the question that you might want to ask yourself is this. Can I live a contented life without looking for a repeat of that situation. People make sacrifices all the time, but if they were to leave you resentful or longing or lead you to more sneaking around you'll become someone other than your true self. I still think you ought to sort things out with the help of a therapist. You are dealing with more than just insight and intellect. Feelings and emotions, and sexual needs and wants are also part of the equation.
 
Seasoned, you've been so kind and helpful to take the time and reply.....thank you!

Yesterday was difficult, watching the news and not knowing if he was involved in the law enforcement efforts in Boston.....but I got through the day. I'd think of him and worry but it would soon pass.
I am, though, going to talk with someone. I need to hear answer, or questions, to my thoughts. I still believe that I'm mis-directing my feelings from my wife on to someone who gave me the emotional uplift just when I needed it most. I look at my wife and can't imagine any day without seeing her; and I get the same gut aching feelings if I imagine anything happening between us. So, I'm thinking that from feeling a little resentful of the lack of romance, not sex but those tingly little feelings, I chose to go look elsewhere. I want to have those moments at home, again. I need to find out how to do that, while getting over the thought of him.
I just wish I could forget about him, or put the thoughts of him out of my everyday thoughts and into memory.
 
I'm glad you're thinking of therapy. That really is the first step. Try to put your focus there and try not to get ahead of yourself. I appreciate your kind words. I'm a fairly old guy with a lot of history. I'm content and happy most of the time, but it took and takes work. Good luck on your journey. Send me a pm anytime.
 
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