I don't really like kissing guys... but im gay/bi

[yehme2]

When I kissed a guy for the first time I did not really like it, and not because I hate my sexuality, I just didn't like the feeling of the stubble, mustache, lips... I kissed girls before and i think i prefer it much better, a lot smoother, romantic and i get butterflies... but then again, I have only kissed one guy maybe i will like it if its the right one. Is this unusual, or does this make me more bi that I had initially thought?

 

[yehme2]

Also, could i be emotionally and sexually retarded? Where my emotions and sexuality differ in gender??

I fancy girls but i lust guys (and rarely fancy them).

If this is true then i could never be in a relationship and completely be happy (unless I marry a shemale lol)

 

[European]

I think it could also depend on as to whether you are 'really' attracted to a guy. Attraction does go a long way in wanting to kiss someone, even if the other guy has a mustache or a beard. Maybe it is just a matter of finding the right person?

At the same time, it could also be just a preference. Some people don't like it all too much if they are feeling the facial hair while kissing someone.

As for your follow up post, it is possible to have different levels of attraction to males and females. It could be that you are more physically attracted to males then females, but connect with females on a different level more so than with other guys.

Given that you have only kissed one guy, I wouldn't come to any conclusions yet. He might have not been the 'right' one. It also really depends on the other person.

I'd say get out there and really explore your sexuality. Try to date a few guys and perhaps a few females. Explore all aspects of your feelings and see where it leads you. You already have a few clues. Work on them.

 

[jude swings]

When I kissed a guy for the first time I did not really like it, and not because I hate my sexuality, I just didn't like the feeling of the stubble, mustache, lips... I kissed girls before and i think i prefer it much better, a lot smoother, romantic and i get butterflies... but then again, I have only kissed one guy maybe i will like it if its the right one. Is this unusual, or does this make me more bi that I had initially thought?

i totally relate to everything you said. i only like topping dudes and them rimming me. i don't kiss them though. i've tried and i just didn't like it. dudes are too rough in general and their lips and tongue isn't as soft as a girl's (their breath isn't as nice either). i also don't feel emotionally connected to dudes which is another reason why i don't enjoy kissing them.

 

[jude swings]

I think it could also depend on as to whether you are 'really' attracted to a guy. Attraction does go a long way in wanting to kiss someone, even if the other guy has a mustache or a beard. Maybe it is just a matter of finding the right person?

that's what i thought at first so i tried kissing all types of dudes and found it all to be the same. i just didn't like it. for me it's the same thing with dick. i don't like sucking it. i don't get hard from giving a dude head. i love pussy though which is why i'm upfront with dudes on what i will and won't do just so they don't get mad later on when they find out i don't kiss, give head, rim or bottom.

 

[Daximus]

I don't enjoy kissing in general. I only do it to make my boyfriend happy. So, you're not sexually retarded. It's just how some of us are.

 

[rain09]

I think it all depends on who you find attractive. If you're with someone you don't find attractive enough (or not clean enough?) to kiss, stop.

Find someone who is clean-shaven, has nice smelling breath, and overall just turns you on. I like kissing, too, but only if I'm kissing someone with a mouth as clean as mine . If there's any hint of bad breath, I'd rather not... haha.

 

[youngnihilist]

Never understood why some guys don't like kissing. It's the best, most intimate act. In your case try kissing smoother, less rough guys

 

[MindBlast]

Find a guy that shaves closer. I hate stubble too. I hated my first time because it was like kissing sand paper. A quick kiss isn't so bad anymore, but now I just let a guy know ahead of time that if he wants to make out with me he needs to shave first. It's usually no big deal.

I, on the other hand, LOVE kissing rough guys. It turns me on like nothing else.

Try kissing a smoother guy with softer hairs, who shaves close. Blond guys usually have less thick hair (I say usually, since it's not always true).

 

[JackFTwist]

I've known some guys who were great kissers, and some just lousy. Like in everything. I had the same experience with women in my former straight past.

It depends on what emotional connection the guy has for you. Now maybe you don't like kissing at all. That's one thing. I don't like to kiss anyone that I am not feeling passionate about. But when I have deep affection (or at least great attraction), it is glorious.

I like the natural stubble, etc in kissing a man - it means I am kissing a real man.

 

[hotb0d]

well since you have only experienced with one guy...I don't think you should make any concrete judgment just yet. Give it a few more tries, maybe you'll meet a guy that knows what's he doing with his lips and will make you shiver.

I actually had the same experience with the first guy. I didn't know what to expect since I've never been kissed before but I knew it was a sloppy kiss. I was kinda disappointed and thought I didn't enjoy kissing. BUT a year later, another guy kissed me and OMG. I got goosebumps. ELECTRIFIED.

 

[Lube]

If you're on a gay messageboard asking about a guy you just kissed...

 

[ChicagoNormalGuy]

I was never into kissing guys until last year. Then I had a boyfriend who was a FANTASTIC kisser. I just couldn't get enough of kissing him.

I think, at least part of it is skill. A good kisser is a good kisser. And a good kisser can inspire better kissing.

I saw a story recently that one thing guys want most is to feel desired. Perhaps showing more passion to the guy you are kissing will inspire him to be a better kisser. And then you can look past some of the roughness.

And yeah, find smoother guys to kiss. That helps a lot too.

 

[lostnfound]

Maybe he was a bad kisser and it's unfortunate that your only male kiss was with him.

My first kiss was not that great. I think he had black coffee before hand because there was this awful metallic taste. Anyways, he was slobbering all over me. I don't like long kisses, I prefer a series of short kisses, with sensual body contact in between.

 

[xdudex123]

i totally relate to everything you said. i only like topping dudes and them rimming me. i don't kiss them though. i've tried and i just didn't like it. dudes are too rough in general and their lips and tongue isn't as soft as a girl's (their breath isn't as nice either). i also don't feel emotionally connected to dudes which is another reason why i don't enjoy kissing them.

my face, when shaved and tongue(?) are really smooth or so I've been told and I'm ocd about my breath, therefore I propose that you sit in a chair while I sit on ur lap and kiss you and see if you change ur mind...

then ill blow and rim you and let you top me.

 

[jude swings]

my face, when shaved and tongue(?) are really smooth or so I've been told and I'm ocd about my breath, therefore I propose that you sit in a chair while I sit on ur lap and kiss you and see if you change ur mind...

then ill blow and rim you and let you top me.

my ref to tongue was about how the few guys i've kissed have been so fucking rough literally ramming their tongues down your throat. just not into it sorry but it's cool that you're confident that you kiss well.