I don't think there's anyone like me!

[Bartman]

Hey,

I posted another thread today about good places to meet gay people in London, and as I was writing it made me realise how outside of things I feel.

I'm bisexual, but I act reletively straight. No one knows that I have a gay side and I think it's because the way I am. I listen to Led Zeppelin, watch horror films and like typical guy things, except football. I don't like the nightclub scene, not my kind of place or music. Also, I only seem to be attracted to straight guys. Is there anyone else out there like me? I'd just like to know I'm not alone.

I wish I could go to a place that had a relaxing atmosphere, no pressure, and I could just generally meet people and make good friends.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I'm bisexual, but I act reletively straight. No one knows that I have a gay side and I think it's because the way I am. I listen to Led Zeppelin, watch horror films and like typical guy things, except football. I don't like the nightclub scene, not my kind of place or music. Also, I only seem to be attracted to straight guys. Is there anyone else out there like me? I'd just like to know I'm not alone.

I listen mostly to rock music and have season tickets to a contact sport. So yes, we're out here. I'm not attracted to straight guys, though. Oh, sure, many straight guys seem cool, and may look nice, but there's something about them that I find offputting. Namely, there's no fucking chance in hell they'll ever have sex with me. That makes them unattractive to me.

Here in Colorado, gays come in all shapes and sizes. Sure, there are effeminate guys, theater/artsy guys, drag queens. But there are also bears, leather guys, professionals, sports fans, health nuts, you name it. I can't imagine that it's different in London.

Idea. Instead of looking for a generic gay group, why not look for a specific one? Do an online search for gay groups in London, or pick up a gay London publication. (If Denver has one, London has to have at least twenty.) You'll probably be able to find gay biking groups, gay sports fan clubs, gay bowlers, gay concert goers, you name it.

Or perhaps try a few "regular" gay bars. Yes, a few are meatmarkets. But many aren't. And yes, you'll find some guys there that aren't your type. Chances are, you won't be their type, either. But you'll probably see gays of all stripes there. If it ends up you don't like the vibe, or don't find what you're looking for, fine - go to another one. Give a bunch of them a try. See what happens.

Lex

 

[switchboyad]

I'm relative similar... I don't like the things, usually called, gay things... I'm bixesual and I'm attracted to straight guys, too. I don't like being the tipically guy who be with anyone, and don't care about. I need a link, a relation...

I don't like as guys usually are... straight or gays, they only want you to.... sex... and I don't find no-one who care about that...

 

[Bartman]

Cool, cheers guys.

I listen to a lot of obscure stuff too, juno106, especially prog rock from the late 60's-70's, most of the bands I like released one album then fell into obscurity. It would be cool to hear about who you listen to. I mostly listen to vinyls, I hate CD's.

 

[evil_danger]

Im quite similar, people are shocked when tell them I'm bi. I like any type of music, but mostly pop and rock. I cant do the clubbing scene it gives me a headache, and after working in a pub just watching people getting pissed isn't cool.

I'm not a big film person, like sci-fi films most, and play a lot of video games, I hate all the games people play when there in love/shagging around, why cant people just get to the point?

 

[3nipples]

You are very mainstream.

The people that you look upon as typically gay are simply more visible than the rest of us. Moreover, many only act like that on "special" occasions; it's not necessarily who they are.

 

[luminum]

Again, clubs aren't the only place to meet gay/bi guys and certainly not the places to go if you want to make friends or find lovers. If you want to meet gay people, it's always right under your nose: go to where the gays are. Almost every major city has a gay village. If you go during the day, you can chill out at a cafe, go to a bookstore, or ask for in on a game of soccer. You can go to a resource center or community center and see if they have any activites, like game nights, card game nights, art classes. Getting involved with these activities when they're made to tailor to the LGBT community surrounding are great low-pressure ways to make good friends who happen to be gay, lesbian, bi, or transgendered. Clubs are all about fun or sex, but an art class, a cup of tea, or a game of basketball are about people and enjoyment.

And no, you're not alone, as you can see. I'm gay, and I hate drama/romance films. I love comedies or zombie movies. I listen to punk rock or alt rock most of the time. I hold my own at college drinking parties, and I love watching college football. But I also love to go clubbing and I love playing sports. If you think you're the only one, you're not, and if you think everyone else is the same, you're wrong, and if you think everyone else is something different, you're wrong.

 

[G-Lexington]

Yeah, where are you living where nobody likes Norah Jones? I can't get to work without tripping over one of her CDs...

Lex

 

[luminum]

Erm, dude, like seriously, I like horror films, and dont like football or nightclubs (for the music especially), and everyone Ive ever been attracted to was straight.

Stop pretending to be me.

I like to chill out to Norah Jones. Do you like Norah Jones cos no one that I know does

*punches Juno106 in the face

I like Norah Jones. Loved her first album, got bored of it, never bought the second. Now I'm head over heals with her third "Not Too Late". It's amazing.

 

[VICTORIADON]

Hey,

I posted another thread today about good places to meet gay people in London, and as I was writing it made me realise how outside of things I feel.

I'm bisexual, but I act reletively straight. No one knows that I have a gay side and I think it's because the way I am. I listen to Led Zeppelin, watch horror films and like typical guy things, except football. I don't like the nightclub scene, not my kind of place or music. Also, I only seem to be attracted to straight guys. Is there anyone else out there like me? I'd just like to know I'm not alone.

I wish I could go to a place that had a relaxing atmosphere, no pressure, and I could just generally meet people and make good friends.

Quit sending confusing messages...I don't mean your post, I mean in life, if you want to meet a gay guy for a relationship and you are claiming to be bi, it won't happen.

Think about it.

It won't happen.

You could be 6', 150 lbs, light curly brown hair, smooth body, uncut with low hangers...

It won't happen.

You will be a boy toy, nothing more, nothing less...

Think about it.

It won't happen.

 

[VICTORIADON]

^^

OMG,

I just checked out Juno106's profile...



Seriously, I did not check it out before I posted...

 

[luminum]

It's Not Too Late to start listening to good music

It's Not Too Late to suck and die! Have at you! *stabs Juno106 with a rapier

I'm serious. She's great. You've no appreciation for blues and jazz. ;P

 

[luminum]

*sigh it would seem so. Oh well. Better twist the blade. It would be inhumane to let you live without Norah Jones in your life.

Either way, Bart, I hope our banter has shown you that gay and bi boys have wide and varied interests, some overlapping and some, unfortunately, not.

 

[Bartman]

Thanks for all the advice guys, it's been great.

I don't mind Norah Jones, but I wouldn't buy her music, the only person I like, leaning towards that way, is Joni Mitchell. She rocked at the Isle of White Festival in the 70's; she way pretty cool I have to say.

 

[Tizinsane]

Hey,

I posted another thread today about good places to meet gay people in London, and as I was writing it made me realise how outside of things I feel.

I'm bisexual, but I act reletively straight. No one knows that I have a gay side and I think it's because the way I am. I listen to Led Zeppelin, watch horror films and like typical guy things, except football. I don't like the nightclub scene, not my kind of place or music. Also, I only seem to be attracted to straight guys. Is there anyone else out there like me? I'd just like to know I'm not alone.

I wish I could go to a place that had a relaxing atmosphere, no pressure, and I could just generally meet people and make good friends.

Yep, im just like you! Love rock/metal music (im seeing Disturbed in Aug), hate the club scene, watch horror films, love to hang out with straight guys, im more right wing than liberal, attracted to only straight guys etc. etc. You wouldnt know I was bi unless I told you. And still you might not believe me at first...

I wish you the best!