I don't want sex

[winterknight]

... at least, not yet. It might be nice at some point down the line, but I'm certainly not in a hurry. And if it never happens, what the hey.

Anyway, since most other people seem to be obsessed with it, I thought I'd offer a different point of view.

You may now call me strange.

If you're not already, that is.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Look, it is your life and your body. It is really all about your sense of what's right and wrong for you.

Your views on the subject expressed here might not find the greatest level of universal acceptance due to the nature of this board, but no one ever said you have been seeking any acceptance to start with.

So, this is your boat and you float it the way you like it.

SC

 

[belamy]

www.erados.com

 

[davy]

perhaps if you explained your reasoning that led you to this decision, we could show you where you went wrong.




i kid.... i kidddd.

 

[D-Base]

Sex isn't all that important for me either, I much more prefer love in general...

 

[winterknight]

Like I said, I'm not ruling it out entirely.

Just... Not now. And not until I've got my head on straight, however long that takes.

(Belamy, thanks for the thought... but what part of "I don't want it" did you have the trouble with?)

 

[antdak]

I applaud your decision! I also gave up sex, until I get into a serious relationship! how ever long it takes! I don't think it strange or weird at all!

 

[Christopher123]

Anyway, since most other people seem to be obsessed with it, I thought I'd offer a different point of view.

I'm not sure what being "obsessed" with sex would be. Do you mean like people who will screw anything that moves and/or watches porn all day long? I suppose that would be an obsession, although that's not my judgement to make. Maybe they just really love sex

I haven't had sex for 9 months. After my last boyfriend and I broke up, I just never got back into another relationship. And yes, I have my moments of OMG, I need to get laid RIGHT FREAKING NOW.

But sex isn't something I need so badly that I'm willing to go out and fuck just anybody and end up in a bad situation or pick up some weirdo disease. I have to know somebody before I'll go to bed with them.

So I think the decision NOT to have sex is a very personal decision and nothing wrong with it at all.

 

[3nipples]

Like I said, I'm not ruling it out entirely.

Just... Not now. And not until I've got my head on straight, however long that takes.

(Belamy, thanks for the thought... but what part of "I don't want it" did you have the trouble with?)

Maybe it was the "not yet" part in your first post

 

[secondmonkey]

Can I have yourse then?

 

[gotdimples77]

hehe....but maybe sex wants YOU...mwahahahahhaahahaha

 

[KennyD]

The decesion to have or not to have SEX is your individule right ... and decesion ,
for whatever the reason ... Don't be pressured by ANYONE to ever do something that you feeel that you are Not ready or comfortable doing ...

 

[teh_nathan]

winterknight: I share your point of view, so you're not alone. *hugs*
There's no rush at all. I don't get the whole preoccupation with sex anyway.

 

[Tongue_Me]

Good for you. I must admit, i've never had the problem of not having sex but over the last couple of years i've started to get quite bored with it all and sought out more productive things to get to grips with instead. Me and my partner have a wonderful relationship outside of the bedroom but I think we've reached the point where we've burned out the sex for a while and this is perfectly fine with me. Do I still find men sexually arousing? HELL yes. Do I go out of my way to make it happen with them or succumb to their advances? No. Right now I feel for the first time in my life that other things have taken on a deeper meaning now that the emphasis has been taken off sex.

 

[KentuckyPython]

I think it's your body and your business, ain't no body's business but your own.

As to having your head on straight, it sounds like you might be further along than you think.

 

[dw8038r2]

Good for you, Winterknight. Your post makes you sound pretty mature and intelligent.

 

[teh_nathan]

Yes, I agree, it does.

 

[trawler69]

I don't care if I never have sex again, friendship means far more to me and sex often just comlicates things. However I don't rule it out completely.

 

[teh_nathan]

I can identify with that too. I have some great friends and I wouldn't be able to get through the tough times without them.

I briefly thought of going further with one of them but that would just complicate matters.

I don't care if I never have sex again, friendship means far more to me and sex often just comlicates things. However I don't rule it out completely.

 

[winterknight]

As to having your head on straight, it sounds like you might be further along than you think.

Believe me, my head is about as far from "on straight" as it's possible to get without actually being clinically insane.

And untill it is, sex would probably make matters worse, not better.