I dunno what to do =(

[electroxstatic]

I met a guy through a friend last year. We were just on Facebook and I saw his (we'll call him Alex) profile and was like 'he's really cute'.
So I added him and we didn't talk for ages. I found out he lives in another state, but I figured it's always nice to have a new friend.

About mid-July I realised I was falling for him. He was different, sweet and funny. I work in the queer club scene, so I've been jilted by every ass hole out there. Eventually I told him I liked him and that I didn't expect anything from him, given the distance.

So we carried on and I began to fall deeper in love with him, and more depressed that he could never love me back.
Then one night he said "if we lived near each other we'd already be going out"
My heart lept and we started dating-ish that night.
Eventually we 'broke up' cause he apparently only did it to make me happy.

I know I should get over it but it's the things he says... he calls me babe, says how the highlight of his night is talking to me. If i'm not on Facebook he'll text me wondering where I am and that he misses me.

I just don't know...

 

[hotatlboi]

unless one of you can consider relocation, move on

Long distance never works.

 

[electroxstatic]

Coincidently the school I wanna go to is in his state, but that's not for another 3-4 years =(

 

[greyhorse]

Yea electro, long distance is very hard to deal with. At least if you make a good friend then that is a great bonus. Wishing you all the best and hope Mr right comes along for you. Good luck with everything. Cheers, G

 

[hylas]

did i get that right, you guys never even actually met?
so called 'e-relationships' dont work, and people shouldnt attempt them.

 

[electroxstatic]

we're not in a relationship. I know it wouldn't work the way things are. But he keeps giving me signals then denying it

 

[hylas]

so? how does that change anything?

 

[Seasoned]

It's real easy to get very close emotionally online. And even though you may know what each other looks like you don't know how each other acts. You know how they think and feel. I believe that's why it's easy to fall for someone.

 

[electroxstatic]

I just wanna move on.... but to what? No-ones shown me the kindness he has. The gay community is incredibly cold where I live and I feel I won't find another like him

 

[KaraBulut]

I just wanna move on.... but to what? No-ones shown me the kindness he has. The gay community is incredibly cold where I live and I feel I won't find another like him

You've created an idealistic online person who is better than any real life boyfriend could ever be. And that's the problem with online situations like this- you never know whether it's real or just something that you have created because you want it to be real. You're not going to find another one like him because he's largely something that you've created as an ideal in your head. It's not real.

What do you move on to? Real life.

If you're going into this assuming that the gay community is incredibly cold then you're already going into this with the wrong attitude.

There are no perfect gay people. There are no perfect boyfriends. What you have to find is someone whose good points outweigh their bad points. And you have to find someone that makes you want to be a better person, too.

 

[electroxstatic]

I try to be positive but the truth is every single person I meet guy or girl isn't interested. I'm never pretty enough or I don't weigh 43kg...

Iunno... maybe I'm crazy

 

[Erasto]

I try to be positive but the truth is every single person I meet guy or girl isn't interested. I'm never pretty enough or I don't weigh 43kg...

Iunno... maybe I'm crazy

its about confidence, believe you me, i never considered myself pretty enough (I have high standards but doesn't everyone?) but i started to work out, tone myself, build up, be more confident, more social and voila i have a enviable status in my university, a hectic social life and more friends then i care to count...also a heck of alot of opportunities has arisen even though i turned them down lol

What im saying is have some confidence and move on, there are incredible guys out there and im not just talking about me