I feel guilty & sinful after I ejaculate

[JayQueer]

Does anyone else have this problem?

Once in a while, I feel a little horny so I "stimulate" myself and then I release, but then immediately afterwards, I feel really dirty (in a bad way) and really guilty and sinful. All these feelings of "Why are you attracted to men? That's so sinful and wrong" and similar thoughts come into my head, and then I feel really disgusting, as if something is wrong with me. Then I tell myself I need to think about and do something less sinful..........but then a couple days later, the same thing repeats all over again.

I don't know what I can do to address this? Has anyone dealt with this before, and if so, how did you deal with it?

 

[Benvolio]

I think that after ejeculation there a hormone change which suppresses the libido and may cause some degree of depression. Apparently you libido no longer overrides any pre existing negative feelings about sex. Many men often feel sleepy. It is a hormonal thing.

 

[Mariatenebre]

Does anyone else have this problem?

Once in a while, I feel a little horny so I "stimulate" myself and then I release, but then immediately afterwards, I feel really dirty (in a bad way) and really guilty and sinful. All these feelings of "Why are you attracted to men? That's so sinful and wrong" and similar thoughts come into my head, and then I feel really disgusting, as if something is wrong with me. Then I tell myself I need to think about and do something less sinful..........but then a couple days later, the same thing repeats all over again.

I don't know what I can do to address this? Has anyone dealt with this before, and if so, how did you deal with it?

There is nothing wrong with being homosexual or having gay fantasies. It is mainly the Abrahamic and Zoroastrian shit that causes this idea. Masturbation and sex is wonderful and shouldn't be hated. You should not feel bad for being a healthy sexual human.

 

[KaraBulut]

There's a physiological reason for it. It has to do with biochemical changes in the body that happen with and immediately after orgasm.

You can't change the chemistry of the event.

You can change how your brain interprets them. For guys who still have issues with homophobia, self-esteem, anxiety, et al, the brain seems to interpret normal chemistry into "post-orgasmic remorse" or other behaviors like the compulsive need to shower. For some reason, a side effect of dealing with the psychological issues is that that remorse feeling turns into more more pleasant feelings- like wanting to sleep or just feeling good.

 

[lonnie1]

Not sure, but it sounds like many years of Catholic guilt.

 

[Telstra]

Not sure, but it sounds like many years of Catholic guilt.

Yes, what was that guy's name who used to be a jub member from England.
He felt the same after ejaculation.

Oh i remember now, dig up and read AndrewD's threads about that would be good.

 

[ludolfo]

Does anyone else have this problem?

Once in a while, I feel a little horny so I "stimulate" myself and then I release, but then immediately afterwards, I feel really dirty (in a bad way) and really guilty and sinful. All these feelings of "Why are you attracted to men? That's so sinful and wrong" and similar thoughts come into my head, and then I feel really disgusting, as if something is wrong with me. Then I tell myself I need to think about and do something less sinful..........but then a couple days later, the same thing repeats all over again.

such feelings are forced on some of us via patriarchal belief systems which over generations have tried to make people feel guilty and 'sinful' about sensuality.
Thing you could also try is looking into how they did this and doing that undermines it because you are finding out how they have done it in history. In Christianity it goes far back. I was only re-deading about this yesterday. It begins coon after christianity becomes a State religion in the 4th century. The church begins trying to "the clergy recognized the power that sexual desire gave women over men, and persistently tried to excorcise it by identifying holiness with avoidance of women and sex..." later they have this book called the "Penitentials' which try and tell people what sexual positions are allowed. ONLY one---can you guess? These people are CONTROL-FREAKS.
So that is an attack on 'straight' sex, now for gay people it begins proper in 1179. It is all about sexuality becoming politicized.

But yeah, I suggest looking at the real history of this deliberate-guiilt-making and in doing so you will better get over this thing you feel which is not natural, but this conditioning of the control freaks --- the book is Caliban and the Witch:Women, the Body and Primitive Accumulation, by Silvia Federici

I don't know what I can do to address this? Has anyone dealt with this before, and if so, how did you deal with it?

Start caressing yourself soon after you cum--regardless whats going through your head. Get off on that amazingly sensual post climax feeling. FEEL it, LOVE it, WELCOME it and encourage it

 

[kallipolis]

There's a physiological reason for it. It has to do with biochemical changes in the body that happen with and immediately after orgasm.

You can't change the chemistry of the event.

You can change how your brain interprets them. For guys who still have issues with homophobia, self-esteem, anxiety, et al, the brain seems to interpret normal chemistry into "post-orgasmic remorse" or other behaviors like the compulsive need to shower. For some reason, a side effect of dealing with the psychological issues is that that remorse feeling turns into more more pleasant feelings- like wanting to sleep or just feeling good.

This..........

 

[Special K]

You shouldn't feel guilty and sinful after you ejaculate, because masturbation is one of the most natural acts in the world, every man on earth masturbates, some more than others, and anyone who says otherwise is lying. In fact, scientific research has proven that regular masturbation reduces a man's risk of developing prostate cancer by flushing out the disease-causing toxins that naturally build up in your urogenital tract, so in effect, masturbation could save your life; think of it like that, that way you won't feel guilty about it.

 

[Kulindahr]

There's a physiological reason for it. It has to do with biochemical changes in the body that happen with and immediately after orgasm.

You can't change the chemistry of the event.

You can change how your brain interprets them. For guys who still have issues with homophobia, self-esteem, anxiety, et al, the brain seems to interpret normal chemistry into "post-orgasmic remorse" or other behaviors like the compulsive need to shower. For some reason, a side effect of dealing with the psychological issues is that that remorse feeling turns into more more pleasant feelings- like wanting to sleep or just feeling good.

Worth repeating.

Don't stress too much over it, JQ -- at your age, I felt guilty and dirty for having a random hard-on... or any hard-on, for that matter.

 

[travis82]

To the OP,

I understand how you feel.


Everytime, after I masturbate, I feel so guilty, sinful and feel like a "dirty" boy. I feel as though I have lost my innocence and purity.


But then a few days later, I will start to masturbate again and feel remorse afterwards. The cycle continues......I can't stop masturbating.

 

[Telstra]

^ thats what "sin" do to your head and its real.

 

[kallipolis]

There's a physiological reason for it. It has to do with biochemical changes in the body that happen with and immediately after orgasm.

You can't change the chemistry of the event.

You can change how your brain interprets them. For guys who still have issues with homophobia, self-esteem, anxiety, et al, the brain seems to interpret normal chemistry into "post-orgasmic remorse" or other behaviors like the compulsive need to shower. For some reason, a side effect of dealing with the psychological issues is that that remorse feeling turns into more more pleasant feelings- like wanting to sleep or just feeling good.

Well noted.

 

[cgymike]

I keep a glow after if the orgasm is really good. But just a quickie has the blah feeling after and I usually nap to get over that. You kinda feel that "the best has happened" and then think about the shit going on in your life (always plenty of that of course!). That's why jerking off before bed has advantages.