I feel so stupid!

[new86]

I finished school last june but last day I went to my now ex-school to visit some teachers, greet some people I know there and to sell some books.

At a moment I meet Steve (it is not his real name), a guy that has to repeat the last year. We had just one clas toghether, volleyball, and he even was not there everytime... but I like him. Not because he is hot, not because he continuously touched himself while showering, but also because he seems really friendly and sweet.

I'm aware that maybe he is straight (he give me gay vibes, anyway), but i would really like to be friends with him.

During the summer I met him for case once in the city and he was very kind... and last day I met him at school and he was very friendly, asking me questions and so on... and then i really missed an occasion to ask him for his number!!!

I am so stupid!
that's not a big deal... I mean, i will return to school soon, to sell other books and so on, but I don't know if I will meet him again for case, and if he will be alone so I can ask him out and his number.



what do you suggest?
next me I'll have to wait him near his classroom to meet him?

 

[spooger]

it sounds like a great part of your motivation is simple friendship....as well as a possibility of intimacy....

if your heart speaks honestly, you'll know how you should proceed....

if you move too agressively before you know your true intentions, you may regret your behavior....

you can't expect him to respond favorably to ambivilent signals....be sure you know what you want...and what you offer to the relationship...

 

[TNGayGolfer]

Hey ShyStud, don't feel stupid... just be resourceful! If you really want to connect with this guy, make it happen. If you don't want to wait until the next time you visit your old school, maybe there's a school directory you could pull some contact information from, or visit myspace.com (or an equivalent online service in Sweden) to virtually connect first.

 

[new86]

I'd really like have him firstily as friend... he inspired me. Of course I'd like to have more, but starting with a friendship is better, aslo because i do not know if he is gay or not. Sometimes a friend is better than a lover.

The fact he seems very sweet gave me the sensation he could be gay but who knows? Important is, having the possibility to go out with him. So I'll ask him if he wants to go to a movie or eat something together and then I'll see what happens.

I'll let you know, guys, for now thanks!

 

[sissyboy]

I'd really like have him firstily as friend... he inspired me. Of course I'd like to have more, but starting with a friendship is better, aslo because i do not know if he is gay or not. Sometimes a friend is better than a lover.

The fact he seems very sweet gave me the sensation he could be gay but who knows? Important is, having the possibility to go out with him. So I'll ask him if he wants to go to a movie or eat something together and then I'll see what happens.

I'll let you know, guys, for now thanks!

Don't overthink it,just ask the guy if he wants to get together for coffee,movie, whatever.Don't waste a lot of time wondering if he's gay or not.Don't put too much pressure on yourself or him.Think with the head on your shoulders, not the one in your pants.And yes, friends can be very nice.Good luck.

 

[Rand]

.....snipped....
Sometimes a friend is better than a lover. ...snipped....

For both of you. I hope you find a good friend and are one in return

 

[3nipples]

Don't be troppo complicato. Have you tried the phone book? If you have any friends in common, ask them....

Then give him a call and ask him if he's doing anything and if he wants to meet you for an apero or coffee?

 

[new86]

I tried... there are more than one persons with his last name, but he is not included (here in switzerland you can choose if your number must be shown or not, and often cellphones are not included. Take aldo note that he is stil young. Usually we just show parents' names).

The best way is going to my old school (I'd go anycase, so it's a plus ;-) and wait to see him in person. I found on the web the week plan of his class, so I can reach him easily ;-)

Hehe i'm a little sherlock holmes ;-)

 

[SilverRRCloud]

There is no harm is hooking up with your ex-school friend. Simple invitation for coffees or something.

You'd be surprised what a simple 'Wanna hang out together some time?' does to people.

Do not jump on any conclusion here. Take it nice and easy and see what comes out.

SC

 

[3nipples]

Well of course I meant the phone number of his parents, but I see you have the situation in hand.

In boca al lupo, Sherlock.

 

[new86]

Rhanks Chance!

Silver, you are absoilutely right, it is something that I was always scared to do... I mean, I thought that it was intrusive ask such a thing (how silly was I?) but in fact it is a good way to start knowing someone!

3nipple, I remember you already gave me some useful suggestions (also the others, don't be offended ;-))... the fact that I don't know him very good would be embarassing if he remembers who I am but not my name when calling him home (and what I a try the wrong person with his same last name?

I'll go to my old school tomorrow I think... It'll be the good occasion, maybe to join him while lunch. Stay tuned!