I Fucked This Guy Who Turned Out To Be the Boyfriend of a Girl I Met through My Friends Friend

[ilovejstrokesdonk]

So I won’t confuse you guys about what I’m saying, I’m going to give the people I’m talking about fake names

J - My friend “her name actually begins with a J”

Claire –J’s Friend

Tori – Claire’s friend and Dave’s girlfriend

Dave - Tori's boyfriend and the guy that I have been Fucking

Last week my friend J was going through her Facebook friends profiles, when J landed on Claire’s Facebook page and she started going through Claire’s friends, and J landed on Claire’s friend Tori (who I met once) page and started looking at her pics. I noticed that Tori had several pics with a guy name Dave that I know…Dave and I have actually fucked twice.

Thinking before I speak and based on how the pics of Tori and Dave looked, I ask J “who is the guy in all the pics with Tori?” and J responds “oh that’s her boyfriend Dave, they’ve been dating for about almost a year now.” After J said that, I just kept my mouth shut and didn’t mention anything about Dave and me fucking.

Finding out that Dave has a girlfriend, I willingly forgot about everything that happened between us and I even stopped calling him and texting him, but unfortunately Dave was repeatedly texting and calling me this past weekend non-stop and he's still texting me as I speak. I have been ignoring his text and call but he keeps on. I still do like Dave but I know I can’t see him anymore and I’m trying to move forward with that, but he isn’t making it any easier by constantly texting me things like “thinking about you” “when can we see each other again” “thinking about you naked” and shit like that. I know tori and I aren’t really friends but I do know of her and she is friends with Claire who I’m cool with and who is friends with J, which is one of my closes friends.

I have a problem because I'm the only one that knows what's really going on...J and Claire no nothing...Dave doesn’t know I know he has a girlfriend (who I have met BTW) and his girlfriend (Tori) doesn’t know I know her boyfriend or that we’ve fucked several time among doing many other sexual things to each other or that he's texting and sexting me.

What should I Do?

What would you do if you were in my situation?

 

[darden]

it's a friend of a friend of a friend... I'd cut off contact with the guy and stay out of it.

 

[ArseYouLikeIt]

What she doesn't know wont hurt her....sound advice That`s a great pic btw, don't shatter my illusions by telling me that it isn't you.

 

[rareboy]

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Congrats...?

 

[HunterM]

^ .....

 

[FuryOfFirestorm]

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

Bingo. He's going to keep on pestering you until you explain why you washed your hands of him. If he keeps pushing it after that, then tell him he should leave you alone unless he wants his girlfriend wants to know about how "close" you two really were.

 

[LeicsDom]

Even tho he is quite remote in your chain of friends these things do tend to percolate back over time.
If you value your friends then you need to back off, ignore him

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Bingo. He's going to keep on pestering you until you explain why you washed your hands of him. If he keeps pushing it after that, then tell him he should leave you alone unless he wants his girlfriend wants to know about how "close" you two really were.

You only fucked twice. It's not like it's a LTR

 

[RaKroma]

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

x2 be honest with the guy, and remind him to at least practice safe sex to not expose his girlfriend while he will continue to sleep around in secrecy.

 

[ronboy]

Exactly what Sir Ron advises.....

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

it's a friend of a friend of a friend... I'd cut off contact with the guy and stay out of it.

Bingo. He's going to keep on pestering you until you explain why you washed your hands of him. If he keeps pushing it after that, then tell him he should leave you alone unless he wants his girlfriend wants to know about how "close" you two really were.

x2 be honest with the guy, and remind him to at least practice safe sex to not expose his girlfriend while he will continue to sleep around in secrecy.

 

[star-warrior]

Sound advice from everyone.

Chances are, you're not the only one he's seeing too. Maybe you're best off getting tested for std's etc...

 

[palbert]

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

^ This.

 

[Scealle]

Agreed with what members here mentioned. Better not contact him anymore.

 

[ibill1]

Again, like others have stated, you need to have a brief conversation with Dave explaining what you know. Whether you believe he is wrong in what he is doing, he deserves to know why you don't respond to any calls or texts. If you don't want to talk to him at all, at least text him on what you know and you don't want to hear from him again. It's not right what he is doing, imho, but no one needs to be cut off without any reason being given.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Get Dave and find out if he's an adulterer or one of those hipster bisexual polyamorists.

 

[HunterM]

Be honest with Dave why you can't see him any more.

I also agree with this advice! Tell Dave to call me though. I'm available.

 

[dereperez]

Telling him what you know and why you want to stop contacting with each other seem like sound advice.

Another example of everyone is sleeping with everyone. I wonder how many JUBbers I've slept with indirectly.

 

[HunterM]

Another example of everyone is sleeping with everyone. I wonder how many JUBbers I've slept with indirectly.

 

[KnucklesEchidna]

x2 be honest with the guy, and remind him to at least practice safe sex to not expose his girlfriend while he will continue to sleep around in secrecy.

Agreed because that is risky.