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I get extremely turned off by flatulence/defacation/bathroom humor and I hate that I do.

Be with him long enough, and your boyfriend is going to fart in front of you. That's just the reality of a relationship, and you're going to have to get over it. Humans shit, and their feces stinks.
 
Just_Believe18 said:
Be with him long enough, and your boyfriend is going to fart in front of you. That's just the reality of a relationship, and you're going to have to get over it. Humans shit, and their feces stinks.
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So there basically isn't any help for me then? And yes I have tried therapy, my therapist simply told me that everyone has certain things that turn them off and that I'm not abnormal, she even used an example about a cousin of hers that is turned off by the smell of peanut butter and crooked/snaggle teeth. I feel like I shouldn't have posted this thread and shared this with all of you now, because while I honestly do appreciate those who KINDLY offered up advice to help me with my petty problem, I'm really sorry but honestly...nothing any of you has said isn't anything I haven't tried and failed, plus there's other reasons why I wish I didn't post this thread that I won't get into since I don't want to start a flame war.
 
Well with all due respect, it's not our RESPONSIBILITY to solve your problem. You come to us with it, and we take out of our free time to offer some advice if we have any. If it doesn't help, tough luck, but it's very bad form to complain that you didn't get helped. If your problem is THAT unsolvable by any reasoning, perhaps the tough love is the right approach - get fucking over it.
 
Rolyo85 said:
Well with all due respect, it's not our RESPONSIBILITY to solve your problem. You come to us with it, and we take out of our free time to offer some advice if we have any. If it doesn't help, tough luck, but it's very bad form to complain that you didn't get helped. If your problem is THAT unsolvable by any reasoning, perhaps the tough love is the right approach - get fucking over it.
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And with all due respect, no one forced you at gun point to come into this thread and give me help or advice, so it's very bad form to complain about that.

So much for not starting a flame war.
 
I'm sorry, I missed the "if you post advice in my topic, you're my bitch" disclaimer in the OP. if you were hoping for a different answers, don't get angry at us for reading your mind and magically coming up with the solution.
 
Rolyo85 said:
I'm sorry, I missed the "if you post advice in my topic, you're my bitch" disclaimer in the OP. if you were hoping for a different answers, don't get angry at us for reading your mind and magically coming up with the solution.
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You have point with the whole 'mind reading' thing, obviously I should've stated what I've already tried doing before hand so that people would know I've already done to treat my little 'problem' and thus give other advise and ways I haven't tried yet. That was my fault and I'll own that, so I give you that one. You didn't miss the disclaimer, you just misread it. It says: "if you post advice in my topic, don't BE a bitch". But hey, I've been kind of bitchy (yes, I said KIND OF) too, not to mention pretty snobbish and ungrateful, and for that I truly sorry to all of you, even you Rolyo, you did post advice and I pretty much spit in your faces, so I am sincerely sorry for that.

I don't think there is solution to my problem, I'm not doing this on purpose. It's like there's a switch in my head, whenever an attractive man so much as talks about flatulence/defecation, the switch in my head goes from 'interested' to 'not interested' almost immediately. I look at them differently, as if I had some how forgotten that they were human beings and they function the way human beings do. I always try to remind myself that they do that but it doesn't seem to do any good in the end. Oh well.
 
Hey, we all have our quirks. There are any number of things, including bodily functions, I'd prefer not to contemplate and that certainly don't make for good conversation material. I think my only suggestion, or perhaps question, was, if you were in a committed relationship with a guy you really liked, and he accidently farted in your presence and immediately apologized, would you be able to get past that? If the answer is yes, there's really nothing wrong with you. If the answer is no, then this may preclude a lasting relationship.
 
How do you react to admissions from other people that they find these bodily functions distasteful as well? Does that give you a sense of confidence in the person, or does the fact that it was mentioned at all tip them into the "eww" category.
 
loveguys72 said:
Hey, we all have our quirks. There are any number of things, including bodily functions, I'd prefer not to contemplate and that certainly don't make for good conversation material. I think my only suggestion, or perhaps question, was, if you were in a committed relationship with a guy you really liked, and he accidently farted in your presence and immediately apologized, would you be able to get past that? If the answer is yes, there's really nothing wrong with you. If the answer is no, then this may preclude a lasting relationship.
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If he was a gentleman and said 'Oh I'm sorry, excuse me' and didn't throw a god damn parade about it like most men seem to do, then yes I wouldn't really mind. I MIGHT not be in the mood for sex, I don't know, but I wouldn't stop caring about him or stop wanting to get to know him. I think my issue is with how 'open' and 'prideful' a lot of men are about their farts, like it's some grand holy magical thing, like life and all it's majesty is opened up to them whenever they let one rip. It's suddenly a 'sport' for some men now, who can fart the loudest, who can set a match to their ass and make a freaking BON FIRE with their farts, etc. these silly immature attitudes towards the whole thing, I think THAT is what really turns me off about it. And don't even get me started on the morons that take big poops and then take pictures of it with their phones and upload them on the internet, broadcasting their fecal matter like it's the 8th wonder of the world.

I'd like to find a gentleman who isn't so easily amused with his bodily functioned. I know they still exist, they have to. And besides, I did say that if I grew to love someone, their bodily functions wouldn't bother me as much because the love I'd feel for them would outweigh any petty feelings I have towards their flatulence/bathroom habits. I know this because I loved someone before and their bodily functions didn't phase me that much.
 
Fatherghostface............(*8*)
No-one is being deliberately obtuse , and you are right you are not the only one with this problem .
Having said that you come across as a clever guy , so you know that people who think females piss
out of both their urethra and rectal passage are not really at the top of the class .

I for one wish you well in this , but as roly has posted we can ask answers and give advice but we are not Miracle-Workers.
Take care...........A.
 
FatherGhostface said:
If he was a gentleman and said 'Oh I'm sorry, excuse me' and didn't throw a god damn parade about it like most men seem to do, then yes I wouldn't really mind. I MIGHT not be in the mood for sex, I don't know, but I wouldn't stop caring about him or stop wanting to get to know him. I think my issue is with how 'open' and 'prideful' a lot of men are about their farts, like it's some grand holy magical thing, like life and all it's majesty is opened up to them whenever they let one rip. It's suddenly a 'sport' for some men now, who can fart the loudest, who can set a match to their ass and make a freaking BON FIRE with their farts, etc. these silly immature attitudes towards the whole thing, I think THAT is what really turns me off about it. And don't even get me started on the morons that take big poops and then take pictures of it with their phones and upload them on the internet, broadcasting their fecal matter like it's the 8th wonder of the world.

I'd like to find a gentleman who isn't so easily amused with his bodily functioned. I know they still exist, they have to. And besides, I did say that if I grew to love someone, their bodily functions wouldn't bother me as much because the love I'd feel for them would outweigh any petty feelings I have towards their flatulence/bathroom habits. I know this because I loved someone before and their bodily functions didn't phase me that much.
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I'm sorry, but it seems like you really hang with the wrong crowd.
Besides, if you're so grossed out by "shit", why look for pics on the internet/know about uploaded pics?
i'm on the internet almost 24/7 and I've NEVER unintentionally stumbled upon a "big shit pic", nor did I know about people uploading theur (literal) shit §although, I'm not surprised)

What are you doing?! Are you making this "issue" you have bigger in your head, by constantly confronting yourself with it?
Could it be that you are secretly afraid of ANY relationship, so you look for a "trait" every human has (shit) and take this trait as an alibi for not being able to/having to be in a relationship? You understand what I mean?
Has your therapist talked about this?

Really, I know like 2000 guys off the top of my head who NEVER "let one rip in front of me"; bragged about their poo; ... What kind of people do you meet?
 
wikke1 said:
I'm sorry, but it seems like you really hang with the wrong crowd.
Besides, if you're so grossed out by "shit", why look for pics on the internet/know about uploaded pics?
i'm on the internet almost 24/7 and I've NEVER unintentionally stumbled upon a "big shit pic", nor did I know about people uploading theur (literal) shit §although, I'm not surprised)

What are you doing?! Are you making this "issue" you have bigger in your head, by constantly confronting yourself with it?
Could it be that you are secretly afraid of ANY relationship, so you look for a "trait" every human has (shit) and take this trait as an alibi for not being able to/having to be in a relationship? You understand what I mean?
Has your therapist talked about this?

Really, I know like 2000 guys off the top of my head who NEVER "let one rip in front of me"; bragged about their poo; ... What kind of people do you meet?
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That must be it, it's the people *I* meet I guess. And no I'm not deliberately confronting this stuff, it finds me. I've had Facebook friends upload pics of their poop floating in the toilet, many Facebook friends actually. It apparently is some sort of 'sport' for some guys (and even some girls) to take pics of their poo to see who dropped the 'biggest and longest log'. It's disgusting!!! Just because you haven't seen this kind of behavior (be thankful for that) doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
 
FatherGhostface said:
That must be it, it's the people *I* meet I guess. And no I'm not deliberately confronting this stuff, it finds me. I've had Facebook friends upload pics of their poop floating in the toilet, many Facebook friends actually. It apparently is some sort of 'sport' for some guys (and even some girls) to take pics of their poo to see who dropped the 'biggest and longest log'. It's disgusting!!! Just because you haven't seen this kind of behavior (be thankful for that) doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
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Could it be that you are secretly afraid of ANY relationship, so you look for a "trait" every human has (shit) and take this trait as an alibi for not being able to/having to be in a relationship? You understand what I mean?
Has your therapist talked about this?
 
wikke1 said:
Could it be that you are secretly afraid of ANY relationship, so you look for a "trait" every human has (shit) and take this trait as an alibi for not being able to/having to be in a relationship? You understand what I mean?
Has your therapist talked about this?
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No, I do want a relationship, with the right person. I would be pretty stupid to seek out an attractive partner just avoid being with them.
 
FatherGhostface said:
No, I do want a relationship, with the right person. I would be pretty stupid to seek out an attractive partner just avoid being with them.
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Yeah, for me that's not the answer to the question I asked.
But nevermind, I wish all the best and happiness in the world..|
 
Do you think I'm afraid of commitment or something? I'm not, I think you've completely misread me or you're only believing something you want to believe.
 
I wanted some advice on how to get over this petty issue of mine, it escalated into a borderline-flame war, I realized that I wasn't specific enough in my details and caused some frustration. End of story. So...what's you're deal? You're no obligated to give me anything or even respond to this thread.
 
I think maybe try to step outside of it and see it through someone else's eyes...I use that trick as a rule.

You have really strong feelings about the subject but ask yourself...If someone who farted was to look at you...what would they see that might be a huge turn off?

The thing with pointing fingers is that there are always three more pointing back at us.
 
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