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I got it BAD

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So I'll just jump right in. Theres a guy I'm my lectures who I happen to find EXTREMELY attractive. And right now, he's all I can think about, and it's been like this for at least a month. Basically, I got it BAD. I look forward to going to class just to look at him, I get annoyed when I don't see him and I count the days till I can see him again. Sad, I know. But it wouldn't actually be so bad if I didn't think he liked me too.

The first time he saw me, I was walking directly towards him, he was shuffling through his bag, I think, and when he lifted his head our eyes kind of met, he stopped dead and just watched me until I had left the room. Most of time, it's little things like him turning around while pretending to stretch to look at me ( I always sit to the back-left of him during class) that give me the idea he might be into me too. They all add up.

A few things have stopped me from actually trying to talk to him. Most of the time, he's pretty much inaccessable. He's always flanked by this guy and a girl. They go everywhere together, and make getting him alone rediculously hard. Secondly, (this NEVER has happened to me before btw) I turn into a nervous fool when I think he's looking at me/ in my vicinity. It's kind of pathetic. Thirdly, I think he's one of those guys who's maybe afraid of the fact that he may be bi/gay and goes to great lengths to hide it.

I only have a few more (under 10) times to see him before terms out and he's gone forever. I used to get very annoyed when I tried my best to strike up a conversation with him and it never panned out, but now I've kind of resigned my self to the fact that nothing is going to happen. I don't know what feels worse, honestly. I feel like we may as well live on different continents considering we have different friends, play different sports, live in two very different parts of campus, and I have basically no access to talk to him.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Did it suck as much for you as it does for me?:(
 
I've learned my lesson. You don't want suggestions on how to go talk to him. You've already decided you're not going to to go talk to him. You just want people to empathize with you, and say "Ooo, God, yeah, that really sucks."

Ooo, God, yeah, that really sucks.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
I've learned my lesson. You don't want suggestions on how to go talk to him. You've already decided you're not going to to go talk to him. You just want people to empathize with you, and say "Ooo, God, yeah, that really sucks."

Ooo, God, yeah, that really sucks.

Lex
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actually, before you come to conclusions based on your well worn experience you should realise that giving me advice based on the limited information I've given over the internet does not work in the majority of cases. While I welcome advice, I didn't specifically ask "how can I talk to this guy?" Also, whereas I don't want people trying to make a porn fantasy out of life by saying things like "just talk to him and he'll suck your cock" etc, doesn't necessarily mean that I just want people to comment by saying"ooh, thats too bad". Not that i'm negating your input but I just wanted to know if any one has been in the same situation. Which I stated in the original post.


Thanks for the input guys, so far Noiro's advice is looking the best. If only I wasn't such a bumbling ass around him it would make it so much easier
 
I sure had a hard time initiating the conversation when I was college age and beyond. Seems that things get easier with time.
 
This sounds exactly like my situation from my first semester at University this year.

I ended up being very lucky and as of now we are well accquainted. We don't hang out outside of class.. but when we do have class we always sit next to each other and talk and talk for a while after class. I think we are both in the "should I ask him to hang out outside of class or are we not that accquainted yet?" phase.

I get the same vibe from this guy too.. and some others who know him think he is hiding his sexuality.

I only have a few more times to see him on top of that before I probably wont ever see him again..so who knows. I might just tell him how I feel on the last day.

I struck up conversation with my guy by just coming in late and by luck the room was full with the only empty seats being near him.. so I sat there and pretended like I needed help with some of the lecture material. From there.. its history.
 
Here's the thing guy, someday you will look back on this and laugh that you didn't have the courage to step up and just say hello and make friends with him. If he looks at you, you look at him, then obviously he wants to be friends, he's just as scared as you are.

Go up and talk to him and/or his friends, even if his friends are standing there. As long as you don't walk up and say something totally over the top, I am sure they would be interested in meeting you too. College is an awkward time and you learn, (people who learn faster get further ahead), that people are just people and they are as unsure about themselves as you are.

If he's rude, then he's not a nice person and you don't want to know him anyway. I assure you in 10 years, if this guy is an ass, it will have NO EFFECT on you. If you are friends or who knows, even more, then you have everything to gain.

Stop thinking about what others think about you, it's dreadfully narcissistic, and step out there - no risk - no reward. Again, if it works, it works and you are all the better for it. If he and/or his friends are asses, then you will waste no more time obsessing, find the next cute guy in class!

Walk up to him and his friends and have two or three questions ready to go. And just relax.

Good Luck
Jeff
 
In fact, I was stoked upon reading your post. Precisely because you DIDN'T ask for advice. It sounded like you were resigned to your fate, and whereas I couldn't sympathize, I could empathize. Because I've never been in that situation, but yeah, I imagine it does indeed suck.

...but then after pointedly NOT asking for advice, and then stating that attempting to glean advice from the internet is a rather fruitless endeavor, you, you point out which of the advice that you received you thought was best. So perhaps you were looking for advice after all...

...I'm going to shut up now.

Lex
 
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