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I guess I'm not in the closet anymore

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withoutaname said:
Hey!

I live with my parents now, because I'm looking for a new apartment for myself. I was at a gay bar yesterday with my friend. It was my second time there. Before I went there, I said that I might bring my friend back here if he doesn't want to go home. Mom asked if my friend is a girl and I said no. My friend didn't come with me, cause he had to go to work the next morning.

I woke up about an hour ago and heard my mom and dad talking. He wants me out, but my mom doesn't, cause I've got nowhere to go.

So, I guess I'm not in the closet anymore.

Fuck him! That's all I can think now. I'm not going to speak to him ever again. And when I move out, I don't have to see him ever again. I don't need that shit from anybody.

Guess, I'll better be finding that apartment soon.

Thanks for listening.
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I think you left something out of that ^.
How did your mom know that the friend you wanted to bring home was gay? And what would have been the matter if you'd brought him home anyway.... and since he had to go to work the next morning why did you bring it up to your family anyway. And how did your dad know about it all?
So, I don't know if you need to move out just because you wanted to bring home a friend for the night.
Does your dad have other issues with you?
 
Just remember - you've had years to come to grips with your homosexuality. Your father might have had...what? Two minutes? He may actually feel that way about you, but that simply may be the anger and/or ignorance talking. Do keep looking for another place to live, but don't write your father out of your life completely just yet. There's a chance he'll come around.

Lex
 
withoutaname said:
Mom didn't know that my friend is gay and I didn't tell that I was going to a gay bar. I haven't told anything gay to them. So it seems to me that they guessed that I was gay. Don't know. I guess she told him that I might bring a boy with me. I didn't knew then that my friend had to go to work. I don't have to move out right now, but I think it would be easier if I could find a place for myself as fast as possible.

Me and my dad don't really talk. I don't really talk with anybody about my personal stuff.

Sorry, my english is little messy.
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I'm not surprised ur folks "guessed" - just as well

now it's out there

hopefully they'll figure out that u r the same person u were

sorry about ur dad - I think ur relationship with him is not disimilar to others - ur not alone

u need to talk to someone about ur personal stuff - good to get it out

best of luck to u

ur on the right path now - and "things do happen for a reason" so hang in
 
Are you sure your Dad was bitching because he thinks you are gay, from your first post, and second I can't make the connection that he knows you are gay and wants you out? Having a guy friend to sleep over, does not imply you are gay, as he could just be staying over for convinience?

I do however think its probably time to move out and find your own place and live your own life, especially if you are 28, but just be careful before burning all the bridges with your Dad, always try and leave a way back, and don't be to harsh in him.
 
Guess, I'll better be finding that apartment soon.
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Yes, you should. Time to grow up and be an adult.

What parent wouldn't be a little surprised if their kid said they wanted to bring their boyfriend home....although it shouldn't necessarily be a big deal since it doesn't necessarily connote sexual relations.

Fuck him! That's all I can think now. I'm not going to speak to him ever again. And when I move out, I don't have to see him ever again. I don't need that shit from anybody.
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But get a grip on yourself and your feelings. I also have the feeling that there is a lot more to your relationship with your father if this is the degree of hostility you have.

You must be very rich indeed if you can afford to just throw away relationships with parents.
 
at the risk of sounding like an asshole............you are 28 its time you moved out anyways.
 
Talk t your mum like an adult, your dad will come to terms with it eventually
 
I suck at dealing with people.
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I suspect this is the case. Work on it. As someone has pointed out, you're way too old to be living at home anyway.
 
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