I Had A Fight With My Parents

[palemale]

The most important thing is for you to put yourself in a position where you can take care of yourself. Otherwise, as long as you are unable to do so, you will have to eat shit at home. Part of being able to take care of yourself is to get a good education. If that means studying more, going out and socializing less, than you must do that. You have two years to graduate you said. It goes by fast. I put myself through college, paid my own rent and expenses and tuition, took out loans. It took a lot of hard work, but it pays off.

 

[Blatino]

I have read your previous threads as well as this thread and we have so much in common.

I came out to my mom in my junior year of high school and I honestly believe that had it not been for my dad, our relationship would be a little more closer than it is right now. I know it feels like both your parents are against you at the moment but your situation has the possibility to change. I'm 22 and a senior in college, due to me moving in with my partner and making it known, my parents have cut me off completely. I know that once I finish college I will have the opportunity to fully support myself if anything were to happen between my partner and I. Neither one of my parents went to college, so they have absolutely NO IDEA what it takes to be a college student. There are so much more things that we as students have to deal with and to have parents who arent sensitive to our needs can really skew our view about education in general. Even as a senior I still struggle with the idea of wanting to quit and get a full time job.

But let it be known, I am resilient and so are you. If Im not mistaken you went to a two year institution and now you want to go on to a 4 year school and get your bachelor's. I think that is a great idea. I know this is hard but you can get through this. Even though I struggle with negative thoughts in my mind, I NEVER give in to them. Stay strong and know that you are not alone.

 

[hotatlboi]

I'm an only child. And no I have no one else. I want to live on campus but I doubt if they will pay for me to go. I don't really feel like taking out loans either.

They won't pay and you don't feel like taking out loans? I mean NO offense man but you need to suck it up and deal with the situation if you want to get ahead. There is no free lunch in this life.

My parents didn't pay for any of my college, and it had nothing to do with the fact that I was gay because I hadn't told them yet.

So yeah I have 50k in loans now but I finished and got a good job because of it. Would you rather be in a dead end trade job with a low hourly wage your whole life? It's clear from your posts that your parents aren't supporting you very much. While unfortunate, that leaves you with two options, either start looking out for your own interests and making a better life for yourself or sit there idly and wish your parents were different and could take care of everything for you. The first choice will be harder to do but the second choice will probably leave you more disappointed.

 

[xxjason123x]

i can honestly say i know exactly how you feel. my mom cried when i told her and she believes it is a choice. My dad is embarrassed too! besides the whole wearing makeup thing I know how it feels. When I came out to my parents it was coincidental that i was leaving for NYC for 2 weeks the next day so it gave all of us time to cool off from the screaming, yelling and crying. Just give it time.

It's been a year since I came out and though my parents aren't thrilled with my lifestyle they still love me and I can honestly say that I've gotten closer to them than I have ever been before. I'm still pretty sure they won't go to my wedding the state i live in gave me that right but we are living in the same home and it got peaceful after a couple months. just hang in there bud

best of luck to you