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I Had Unprotected Sex

mbamike

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I met a guy online and we agreed to hook-up. We clicked on sooooo many different levels that this hook-up turned into a weekend together.

The first few times he fucked me he used a condom, but I felt as if I was missing something. I wanted more of him!

We discussed our status. I had not had sex with anyone in a few years. (This is a story in itself and is not the purpose of this post). He tested NEGATIVE in August 2008 and his previous BF tested NEGATIVE in October 2008. They had a monogamous relationship. My guy had not had sex with anyone since September 2008.

We agreed there was little chance of us getting HIV from each other. So, we had unprotected sex with the stipulation that he would not cum in my ass. This happend over the weekend, January 3-4, 2009.



The question is:

Do you agree with our conclusion that there is little chance of us getting HIV from each other?
 
eunuch said:
The question is:
Do you agree with our conclusion that there is little chance of us getting HIV from each other?
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So, in other words you're asking if it's okay to put a pistol to your head because the person who gave you the gun told you that there wasn't a bullet in the gun the last time he checked.

You know what I'm gonna say, right? :grrr:
 
Not a smart thing to do---you don't really know him and even if he was in a monogamous relationship it doesn't mean that his boyfriend never cheated on him.
 
As I understand it, if neither one of you came inside the other, the chances of getting HIV are pretty low--still possible, but very low. You could, however, still get an STD of some sort. As mentioned, it's best to use a condom. Get tested and put your mind at ease.
 
Nephelauxetic said:
One word: irresponsible.
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I find it silly when people try to put a romantic spin on "bareback" sex.
You wanted more of him? What is it more you wanted? HIV?
And why do you think you should trust him when he says he's monogamous?
It's so easy to lie. Anyways, I really hope you didn't catch anything. Don't do this again. (if you care for your health, that is).
 
I agree with your conclusion that, if everything you said was true, there wasn't a great chance to contract something.

I don't agree with your decision to have unprotected sex, however. It takes almost no time, no money and (in my experience) means next to no loss of sensation to do it with a condom on. So to me, there's absolutely no reason to forgo the condom.

Lex
 
I agree with Lex, it never hurts to be safe. You should get him to get tested to make sure that he is still clean to date and that would rule out the possibility, if he has been totally honest.
 
G-Lexington said:
I agree with your conclusion that, if everything you said was true, there wasn't a great chance to contract something.

I don't agree with your decision to have unprotected sex, however. It takes almost no time, no money and (in my experience) means next to no loss of sensation to do it with a condom on. So to me, there's absolutely no reason to forgo the condom.

Lex
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eunuch

What Lex said............
 
IMO, it is never a good choice to have unprotected sex. Since you did, I would recommend getting tested. If there is any doubt at all, and since you're asking, there's some doubt there, you need to get tested. Just in case.
 
marleyisalegend said:
:=D::=D::=D::=D:

This whole "Long term=safe" mentality can be pretty dangerous. Just because someone has been with you for years (or decades) doesn't mean they won't cheat.

Not to mention the infection you could get from unprotected anal sex. That shit is not sexy.

Listen to all the other guys, get yourself tested to be safe. Worst case (but still possible) scenario if you contracted something it's better to find out sooner rather than later.
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You're right. HIV is the highest but not the only risk. The normal rectum is full of bacterias that can enter the urethra and cause infections. So the condom is a must, regardless of your partner's health status.
 
This "get tested again in six month" is overkill. In the clinic where I get tested every year the doctor promised 100 % sure results in 4 weeks/1,5 months. The time depends on what kind of test you chose. She said that the 3 or 6 months window period was true about 2 years ago but now they have better tests and this info is outdated (of course in this clinic, other hospitals can use other, older methods). I trust her becase she is the best HIV-testing expert in the country, and certainly saw as much HIV blood in her life that she could bath in it like Bloody Mary.
 
fjancsi80 said:
This "get tested again in six month" is overkill. In the clinic where I get tested every year the doctor promised 100 % sure results in 4 weeks/1,5 months. The time depends on what kind of test you chose. She said that the 3 or 6 months window period was true about 2 years ago but now they have better tests and this info is outdated (of course in this clinic, other hospitals can use other, older methods). I trust her becase she is the best HIV-testing expert in the country, and certainly saw as much HIV blood in her life that she could bath in it like Bloody Mary.
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Europe is doing an antibody-antigen test called the CMIA that includes testing for an extra antigen that is detectable earlier in the infection cycle. US still does the antibody test ELISA which does not test for this extra antigen.

That is why in the US, we still recommend that the person repeat testing at least 4-6 weeks after the high risk exposure.
 
eunuch said:
I met a guy online and we agreed to hook-up. We clicked on sooooo many different levels that this hook-up turned into a weekend together.

The question is:

Do you agree with our conclusion that there is little chance of us getting HIV from each other?
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Absolutely not. This is definitiely high-risk activity. My advice is to consider this a learning experience and use protection for any subsequent activity.
 
Probably KaraBulut gave you the right answer above. The doctor is not misinformed, she uses other tests than the Americans. She said that at least two types of test are used now, one looks for the antibodies and one for the virus itself. I think the second one is that has the 4 weeks period but I am not sure. She certainly gave up the ELISA test which was used 2 years ago with a 3-6 months window period.

Now when you ask for a 4 weeks test you have to wait a bit longer because the test is more elaborate. The older type with the 3 months window is ready in 2 hours while the more accurate needs about 5-6 hours. They gave you a certificate that you were tested negative which is official because the hospital is a big public health institution, not some obscure private clinic.
 
I met up with my guy again over the weekend. He had a check-up on 1/12/2009. He has no STDs and is HIV Negative.

My guy felt the need to show me all of his papers. I thought that was very considerate of him.
 
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