I Hate Bisexuals...

[lyconthrope]

Two days ago, my husband of almost 2 years left me for a woman, and has been cheating on me for the last couple of months. I don´t know what to do... I always thought we had the perfect marriage... I´m devastated... He was my life... I can´t live without him... Oh God...

I hate him... and I hate all men and bisexuals...

How can I numb all this pain I feel inside?

 

[RRRalph]

This is so unexpected! I always thought you had everything together, perfect soulmates and perfect lovers. You even talked about how to have children. This will hurt for quite a while. I'm so sorry for you man

 

[hotguy12345]

that fact that 2 other 'bisexuals' here just happily read and responded with friendlyness amazes me, u just got bad mouthed,

 

[lonestar]

There is no such thing as bisexual. People calling themselves bisexual are just to afraid to admit, that they are gay. Being bisexual is like being on the way to gay town (to quote a great columnist).

 

[inlovewithanton]

that fact that 2 other 'bisexuals' here just happily read and responded with friendlyness amazes me, u just got bad mouthed,

He doesnt hate Bisexuals anymore than he hates his husband. He's just hurt right now. Leave him be.

And as for the husband, I say tell him to fuck off. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You deserve way better!

 

[schatzeboppes]

There is no such thing as bisexual. People calling themselves bisexual are just to afraid to admit, that they are gay. Being bisexual is like being on the way to gay town (to quote a great columnist).

bis du ernst? glaubs du wirklich dem?

 

[cynicus]

There is no such thing as bisexual. People calling themselves bisexual are just to afraid to admit, that they are gay. Being bisexual is like being on the way to gay town (to quote a great columnist).

Ah, only 21 and such an expert on sexuality. When did you earn your Ph.D. in psychology? And is it perhaps possible that some bisexuals are really afraid to admit they are really heterosexuals?

 

[dr_beat]

There is no such thing as bisexual. People calling themselves bisexual are just to afraid to admit, that they are gay. Being bisexual is like being on the way to gay town (to quote a great columnist).

(*U*)

 

[lyconthrope]

Sorry if I offended anyone...

We had been together for 8 years...

I need him in my life. I cant function without him...

How can I even start rebuilding my life?

I´m certainly not giving him the divorce

you are upset, its understandable, women do it all the time! ("oh my god, all men are pigs, I hate them")

you can function without him, you did before he came along right? focus on you right now and not him.

there are places and people who can help if you need it, mabe go spend time with family, take a breather.

 

[probeteam1]

Two completely unrelated quotes:

that fact that 2 other 'bisexuals' here just happily read and responded with friendlyness amazes me, u just got bad mouthed,

Well, there's a time and a place. A woman gets dumped by a guy, I cut her some slack when she says "I hate all men," because it's not like she's going to be reasonable about it at the time. Later, when she's calmed down enough to be reasonable, I point out to her that when she proclaims her hatred for men, she proclaims her hatred for me - and that while I might still be decent enough a sort that I don't pick a fight with her when she's already low, that by no means lets her off the hook.

Guy gets dumped by a bisexual, says "I hate bisexuals," I might feel inclined to extend a similar courtesy. Doesn't let him off the hook, but we might at least wait and see if he retracts it on his own.

Also, there's the fact that tearing into him while he's vulnerable is not terribly likely to improve his opinions of bisexuals. Though I suppose I could take a few shots myself and see how that affects the general opinion of gay people.

There is no such thing as bisexual. People calling themselves bisexual are just to afraid to admit, that they are gay. Being bisexual is like being on the way to gay town (to quote a great columnist).

And you know this ... how?
On second thought, never mind. Getting into that debate would serve only derail this thread, when I'm prety sure there's still at least one other active thread already dedicated to this debate.

 

[weasley]

you know, if we need to argue "bisexuality", how about gay people are just heterosexual who never finished puberty in their mind? There was a study on it, go and find it.

 

[glo-unit]

I'm going to get hate responses for this but I don't care. Haven't you been bragging how you and your husband both fuck women, and how you have an open relationship? You also talked about how you once cheated on him, and nearly kicked him out for donating sperm. Sorry but your relationship wasn't nearly as stable as to wished it was, and from the your reacting I think you were a way to dependant on your husband. Also how could he have been cheating if you have an open relationship?

 

[lucius]

that's so sad.

i know revenge isn't supposed to help, but cleaving his dong off might make you feel better and him worse.

 

[dr_beat]

Two completely unrelated quotes:Well, there's a time and a place. A woman gets dumped by a guy, I cut her some slack when she says "I hate all men," because it's not like she's going to be reasonable about it at the time. Later, when she's calmed down enough to be reasonable, I point out to her that when she proclaims her hatred for men, she proclaims her hatred for me - and that while I might still be decent enough a sort that I don't pick a fight with her when she's already low, that by no means lets her off the hook.

Guy gets dumped by a bisexual, says "I hate bisexuals," I might feel inclined to extend a similar courtesy. Doesn't let him off the hook, but we might at least wait and see if he retracts it on his own.

Not exactly the same comparison. Substitute "gays" for "women" or "bisexuals" and you might understand my reasoning.

If a group is marginalized already and you claim you hate the people in that group, it doesn't make you look very good.

 

[lucius]

let him go. if he did this to you, why hold on if there's nothing left for you. he's a scumbag, he betrayed your love!

let him go and let yourself live.

put this behind you and you'll find a future. i remember when my high school bf tom left me...

i cried, i stopped eating, all i did was sleep.

forget it!

he's not worth ruining yourself over.

 

[albar05]

sorry to hear about this buddy, i hope your get through it and that you will be able to move on ... its hard to imagine your life without someone in it after such a long time but your so much more then just your relationship with him.

Go out and find yourself again , and before long you will be able to start enjoying yourself and put this horrible thing behind you .

Your a wonderful person, just remember its HIS loss not yours!

Keeping smileing !

 

[lonestar]

lool, hope you guys don't drive me out of town for that. Don't wan't to anger any of you guys, just my personal experience.

 

[fireside]

lool, hope you guys don't drive me out of town for that. Don't wan't to anger any of you guys, just my personal experience.

man, if you'd seen the last eighty thousand threads that proclaim this from the mountaintops and the constant reminders that it's a pointless thought process, you'd understand where all the flaming is coming from. (Please leave all your puns at home.)


To the OP:

Right now you need to hurt. I know it sounds kind of...macabre, just to stretch the meaning of that word, but right now you need that. You need to go through the process that this grief will bring you; it will spare you the pain you'd feel in the future if you just buried it and went as though nothing happened.

While I've never experienced this sort of devastation from a romantic relationship, I have experienced life-altering devastation. It is not the end; it is merely the beginning of a new era. Your life as you once knew it has ended, but that does not leave you without a reason to continue. This is a mountain--your Everest, if you will--to begin to climb. In time, I would hope that you would allow yourself to forgive him totally--that means forgetting what he has done to hurt you and cancelling the check, so to speak--this way, there is little to no emotional "scar tissue" remaining. I know it's kind of a stretch right now because this just happened and you're probably feeling like there's no reason to live. But just know that at least a lot of us here are sending you as much positivity as we can, and support to help you get through this trying time for yourself.

I slaughtered the notions of grammar with that paragraph. Oops.

 

[miamicoach]

"As of now I´m forsaking relationships altogether. I´m thinking of quiting my job and moving to another city or country."

the forsaking relationships part is a good idea, at least for right now.

But I really recommend no sudden moves - don't quit your job, don't move.

Hang in there and it gets, well, not better, but like other injuries, you figure out how to live with it.

Here's the other thing that you won't believe right now but it's true. Whatever happens next is going to be so much better than what is happening right now. It will be.

In the meantime, just keep your head down and get on with life. You will come out okay.

 

[lonestar]

So you have no idea who was responsible for this?

http://www.ushmm.org/museum/exhibit/online/hsx

Once you make statements such as: "There is no such thing as bisexual." you are not only showing your ignorance, you are also insulting, demeaning and dismissing as non-existent a large proportion of the world's population.

Sound familiar?

Thank god everyone has the right to his own opinion, on JUB, in England and in Germany too