I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Help I Don't Know What To Do

[kevinsexh8]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

You are young and resilient - pour yourself into other aspects of your life particularly college, meet lots of new people, be very active, etc and the headspace he occupies will diminish shortly....

wow thanx bro.

i think that i need to start:

1. stop reading the old beautiful text message he send me

2. stop watching his profile and pix in facebook

3. stop imagine all the thing with share in msn and talk by phone

4. stop imagining him in every love's song that i listen

5. I think I have to try to sleep a little bit more cuz i can't

 

[friendlyboy90]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

I have the same problem man. I'm in love with guy who I obsess over way too much but your story is much less pathetic because my guy isn't even gay. Or at least I think he's not. We're friends for now but I am just like you. I think about him every minute, I always want to be with him...but anyways enough about my stupid life.

The thing with obsession is you can get over it easily when you obsess way too much. All of a sudden you'll find youself not even interested in him anymore. Trust me, I had many experience with this. I'm a guy who obsesses over a lot of things.
You have to ease yourself, try to think outside him, try to meet other people too. This is the only healthy way to deal with this.

Put yourself in my situation....I dont even have my guys email address, or facebook...nor did we ever even hang out outside of school. I'm sure you'll feel a little bit better. I'm in a way more depressing situation than you. lol!

 

[kevinsexh8]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

I have the same problem man. I'm in love with guy who I obsess over way too much but your story is much less pathetic because my guy isn't even gay. Or at least I think he's not. We're friends for now but I am just like you. I think about him every minute, I always want to be with him...but anyways enough about my stupid life.

The thing with obsession is you can get over it easily when you obsess way too much. All of a sudden you'll find youself not even interested in him anymore. Trust me, I had many experience with this. I'm a guy who obsesses over a lot of things.
You have to ease yourself, try to think outside him, try to meet other people too. This is the only healthy way to deal with this.

Put yourself in my situation....I dont even have my guys email address, or facebook...nor did we ever even hang out outside of school. I'm sure you'll feel a little bit better. I'm in a way more depressing situation than you. lol!

lol but I think that's what make him, he don't like me

i was honest so i told him my truths

like, I don't have real friends, i don't go party, I don't drink alcohol, I'm vegetarian, etc, etc

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

1. [STRIKE]stop reading[/STRIKE] delete the old [STRIKE]beautiful[/STRIKE] manipulative text message he send me
2. [STRIKE]stop watching his profile and pix[/STRIKE] delete him in facebook
3. [STRIKE]stop imagine all the thing with share in msn and talk by [/STRIKE]delete his number out of my phone
4. stop [STRIKE]imagining him in every[/STRIKE] listening to love's song that i listen
5. I think I have to try to sleep a little bit more cuz i can't

Fixed your list for you. But let me add #6.

6. Work on building up my self-esteem and make some real friends who like me for ME not for the chance to get inside my pants.

Lex

 

[kevinsexh8]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

UPDATE

We were talking those last days, Today he sent me a kiss, I told him that I like him, he told me I was charming but he was still in love with another boy.

Well, I finally done, now it's time to start from scratch, but now i don't believe in love and i think is imposible to find somebody to love or just someone like him

 

[hanzosword]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

UPDATE

We were talking those last days, Today he sent me a kiss, I told him that I like him, he told me I was charming but he was still in love with another boy.

Well, I finally done, now it's time to start from scratch, but now i don't believe in love and i think is imposible to find somebody to love or just someone like him

I'm sorry it didn't work out kevinsexh8. That was just one guy though. Don't think that you can't find somebody to love. You will find someone else someday much better than him. You seem really sweet and somebody is going to love you for it...

 

[friendlyboy90]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

UPDATE

We were talking those last days, Today he sent me a kiss, I told him that I like him, he told me I was charming but he was still in love with another boy.

Well, I finally done, now it's time to start from scratch, but now i don't believe in love and i think is imposible to find somebody to love or just someone like him

Aw Im so sorry to hear that. But don't give up. There WILL be eventually be someone that will love you for who you are. It's tough, it feels like love is the one important thing you need in your life but it's not. Love can hurt. It does hurt. But being young....I mean just go out and live your life. Love will come someday. Try to look at everything in a positive way, dude!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>now i don't believe in love and i think is imposible to find somebody to love.

Oh, come ON. Two weeks ago, you found "love" online and every guy was sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. That guy ended up being a user and a creep, and now they all are.

Sorry you got a hold of a loser, but don't get pulling the emo bit, curling up in the corner of the room saying you'll never find love and you'll never let anyone in again. Just because the first guy was an asshole doesn't mean we all are. Take some time to feel crappy about it all, then resolve to get back out there and meet some more guys. Just apply some of the hard-earned wisdom you've gained from this experience.

* Guys sometimes lie to get into your pants.
* If you think it might be more than just a one-time hook-up, spend time with him without heading for the bedroom.
* If a guy asks if he can bareback you, tell him to go to hell.

Lex

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

If that pic in your profile is you then hot damn I don't know what you are all desperate about, I don't even need to see the rest of ya!

 

[kevinsexh8]

If that pic in your profile is you then hot damn I don't know what you are all desperate about, I don't even need to see the rest of ya!

hehehehe

Yeahh is me, but I gonna work out super hard to get a better body.

 

[kevinsexh8]

>>>now i don't believe in love and i think is imposible to find somebody to love.

Oh, come ON. Two weeks ago, you found "love" online and every guy was sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. That guy ended up being a user and a creep, and now they all are.

Sorry you got a hold of a loser, but don't get pulling the emo bit, curling up in the corner of the room saying you'll never find love and you'll never let anyone in again. Just because the first guy was an asshole doesn't mean we all are. Take some time to feel crappy about it all, then resolve to get back out there and meet some more guys. Just apply some of the hard-earned wisdom you've gained from this experience.

* Guys sometimes lie to get into your pants.
* If you think it might be more than just a one-time hook-up, spend time with him without heading for the bedroom.
* If a guy asks if he can bareback you, tell him to go to hell.

Lex

WOW, Bro, Thanx 4 evrything, thanks for helping, I appreciate ur words. yeahh it's time to move on.

and I don't wanna go through life lookin for love, if someday come it will be welcome. but what I hate the most about that guys is that i always asked if he still be in love of his ex and he always told me that I was everything he could see in his life.

but whatever now i'm focusing in the Gym and try to start a new life in other country

 

[friendlyboy90]

WOW, Bro, Thanx 4 evrything, thanks for helping, I appreciate ur words. yeahh it's time to move on.

and I don't wanna go through life lookin for love, if someday come it will be welcome. but what I hate the most about that guys is that i always asked if he still be in love of his ex and he always told me that I was everything he could see in his life.

but whatever now i'm focusing in the Gym and try to start a new life in other country

Good! With that hot body, maybe you'll meet someone in the gym. lol!

 

[irydion]

It's a sad story.
Please, do that test. It's important for yourself.
Hopefully, the only souvenir from this history will be vital experience, not STD.

 

[Ringfinger]

I must admit, I have been the other guy in your story many a time. However, in my situation, they have been craigslist hook-ups. I do not feel obligated to remain in contact with them or hold their hand through the process of forgetting about me. Not sure how harsh or egotistical that sounds, but as I said, nothing was promised at the start.

Now, I'm not sure if this is the case with you. In my opinion, it sounds like, considering how quick it all happened, it was for the most part about sex; at least in his mind and that's something you had to have known. This holds true even more so considering he didn't show up for the first date at the movies but did for the second at the motel.

In my opinion, he used you, but was polite about it and in my mind did nothing wrong unless he made a promise for a relationship or something more. According to your post, he said that he really likes you and that he had an amazing time. That's still not a promise. At this point, I highly doubt you will ever have the opportunity to go on a 'date,' whether sexual or not, with him again. Because of this, you have no loss in asking him outright whether a relationship is possible.

And my advice.. I would say to do exactly that.

EDIT: Didn't read the rest of the thread, so I guess my advice is now moot. I will add this though: if it was safe sex, I don't believe he was in the wrong at all; at least from what your post says. He convinced you to bareback, though. With this being the case, how exactly did you respond?..

1. Yes, I will bareback.
2. No, I will not bareback.

If it was ANY variation of 1, which I honestly believe is the case, then you both were in the wrong. If it was ANY variation of 2, then he manipulated you into doing it and he is an asshole.

 

[That70sJoe]

Re: I Have A Crush On A Hot Guy, Please Hep I Don't Know What To Do

People lie to get sex. You are a good guy who made a serious mistake. Don't bareback during casual sex. Try to remember that sweet talk is not the same as sweet actions. Please take better care of yourself, emotionally and physically.

They sure do. Just remember it as a fun time and move on!!!

 

[kevinsexh8]

I must admit, I have been the other guy in your story many a time. However, in my situation, they have been craigslist hook-ups. I do not feel obligated to remain in contact with them or hold their hand through the process of forgetting about me. Not sure how harsh or egotistical that sounds, but as I said, nothing was promised at the start.

Now, I'm not sure if this is the case with you. In my opinion, it sounds like, considering how quick it all happened, it was for the most part about sex; at least in his mind and that's something you had to have known. This holds true even more so considering he didn't show up for the first date at the movies but did for the second at the motel.

In my opinion, he used you, but was polite about it and in my mind did nothing wrong unless he made a promise for a relationship or something more. According to your post, he said that he really likes you and that he had an amazing time. That's still not a promise. At this point, I highly doubt you will ever have the opportunity to go on a 'date,' whether sexual or not, with him again. Because of this, you have no loss in asking him outright whether a relationship is possible.

And my advice.. I would say to do exactly that.

EDIT: Didn't read the rest of the thread, so I guess my advice is now moot. I will add this though: if it was safe sex, I don't believe he was in the wrong at all; at least from what your post says. He convinced you to bareback, though. With this being the case, how exactly did you respond?..

1. Yes, I will bareback.
2. No, I will not bareback.

If it was ANY variation of 1, which I honestly believe is the case, then you both were in the wrong. If it was ANY variation of 2, then he manipulated you into doing it and he is an asshole.

well 4 the last things you said , I think it was like 1, but everything was like...

he told me he wanna fuck me, then I take the condom out and We was having sex with condom, then he said

Hey, I don't feel nothing with the condom on, and he take the condom off his dick. and I was like, I never, ever had have sex without protection, he said: neither did i. soo I let myself gooo.

 

[kevinsexh8]

UPDATE (I gonna name tha man I have a crush on... Jason)

oohh guys, but I CAN'T get him out of my head yet. I invent a false account in MSN to continue talking with him and I realized that for him it was just SEX and HE told me he has a crush on a workmate but there is a problem, the guy that he loves is straight. he told me the name of the another boy and I desperately seek him everywhere on facebook, myspace, hi5 to see if he was prettier and had better body than me. then i found him on facebook( He don't accept men in Facebook, just him normal friends and girls) and hi5 ( I could see him pix) and He's a normal kid. but Jason have a huge crush on the str8 guy like i have for him. Jason saw him everyday but the str8 guy don't pay him attention (wow, the str8 guy is a fool). the str8 guy didn't accept Jason on Facebook I knew because he told me in my false MSN.

Last sunaday I decided to talk with him In my normal msn account I asked him how was his romantic life, he told me everything was going wrong because his ex don't love him cuz he didn't have gay friends and I told him but tell me the truth, tell me about the boy that you're in love at your job. he stayed in shock and he wanted to know how i knew thatt, i told him that once he told me about him althought he didn't believe everything we keep chating

then he told me the name, i told him that maybe i konw this guy, I told him I knew through a friend and i pass Jason his Hi5 of him to see his pix ( I think it was heaven for Jason), He confessed me that he is in love with this co-worker before he met me, he tryed to know me just to see if he could forget him workmate but he could not, which means that everything i lived with him was FAke, i lived a lie, him beautidul words, calls and kisses ( and sex) were a lie, but I understand that no man had treated me like he did. I said him I wanted him to be happy with the straight guy and he should leave it all to the hands of God as I was doing with him, he told me that I am a great kid, he wished to meet me before but could not force his heart, besides i wish him Merry Christmas, trying to tell him that i don't wanna talk to him for a long time, i left him and he said he wanted to continue talking to me and he told me i wait for u tomorrow, but I haven't could, for more I want to talk to him it is better to give him some space. that sunday when I closed my msn, for the first time in my life, I felt so bad that I began to mourn, but I prayed to god that he will be well. I have not chat with him since that day, maybe i will do it today and hopefully all his life is well because I want him to be happy

the only thing is that I'll never forget him and he framework my life. I will always love him.
i don't wanna find a man cuz i know that i will never find a guy with his body and kind of person like him, i don't wanna open to another man.

I wanna share that I don't like lady gaga but he like, so now i listen Bad romance all day long and i remember him ( he loves that song). i told that he loved Better man by Robbie williams. and he put in his msn message : Send someone to love me, i need to rest in arms, keep me safe from harm, In pouring rain, ( hey jason I'm here) but u need a better man, right, you deserve someone great, bro

sorry my english and thanx so much guys for listen to me, I appreciate it so much...

 

[TX-Beau]

Jesus Christ. You had a fairly standard little hook up with this guy who you don't know and never have, and now you're creating fake personas to stalk him?

That's creepy, and it's deceitful, and it's wrong.

OF COURSE, you can walk away from him, you just won't.

You know he's not interested in dating you, you know he isn't going to be your boyfriend, so anything that happens to you from now on be it heartbreak or restraining orders is on your own head.

Walk away and salvage your pride, before this turns into something sordid, needlessly plaintive, and histrionically dramatic.

 

[kevinsexh8]

Jesus Christ. You had a fairly standard little hook up with this guy who you don't know and never have, and now you're creating fake personas to stalk him?

That's creepy, and it's deceitful, and it's wrong.

OF COURSE, you can walk away from him, you just won't.

You know he's not interested in dating you, you know he isn't going to be your boyfriend, so anything that happens to you from now on be it heartbreak or restraining orders is on your own head.

Walk away and salvage your pride, before this turns into something sordid, needlessly plaintive, and histrionically dramatic.

you're right, I talk again with him and i think it's time to say good-bye. I will write him a letter, telling him everything and in the future i wanna be his friend, u know what, yeahh it's time to walk away from msn for at least a month; I wanna hear his voice but I'm Not able to call him, and I know i will never do it, I really need to salvage my pride, and need my life back. I know it gonna be soooooo hard and paintful but i will do it before it start to be dramatic.

No pain is forever but i know myself i will never forget him

 

[friendlyboy90]

The best thing is to do forget yeah. That is what I am currently trying to do but it's hard. Yeah, I am depressed and I even had tear in my eyes. Seriously. You never forget the persons you have loved BUT you can certainly move on to others within time. Life is too short to worry over a guy for a long time...it's painful to accept the facts but there's no other choice.