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I have a Date Tommrrow

erobert

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I'm meeting a guy I met online tomorrow for a date. I've only been on one or two dates in the past, so I'm still new to the dating game. I feel like Meg Ryan in You've Got Mail.:D

I'm so nervous and I already have the pre-date jitters. What if he invites me back to his place if it's going well? What if there's an awkward break in the conversation and I can't think of anything to talk about or say something stupid? Should I bring a gift? I've never brought one before...

I'm sure more experienced members have some suggestions and tips.
 
Lucky bastard. ;) Well, I can't really offer any advice as I don't know much about dating, but I wish you the best of luck!
 
Meet someplace low key like a coffee shop. Don't make plans for the entire evening, initially. That way, you can end the date early if it's not going well.

If coffee does go well, you can suggest moving on to another place like a restaurant, theatre or dance club.

Don't be afraid to reject someone, and most of all, don't be afraid of being rejected.
 
Glad to hear it! Hope it all works out for you. I know nothing about the dating scene, so I have no advice. All I can say is HAVE FUN! :D
 
erobert said:
I'm meeting a guy I met online tomorrow for a date. I've only been on one or two dates in the past, so I'm still new to the dating game. I feel like Meg Ryan in You've Got Mail.:D
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Nice reference!

erobert said:
What if he invites me back to his place if it's going well?
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You can go if you feel comfortable. What you will you be doing on the date?

erobert said:
What if there's an awkward break in the conversation and I can't think of anything to talk about or say something stupid?
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I wouldn't worry about that too much. A little silence never killed anyone on a date. If you run out of things to say, say something about the environment you are in.

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Should I bring a gift?
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No.

Feel free to ask more questions or PM me. I'll be happy to help!
 
First of all RELAX!!! Be yourself....most likely that is how you got the date in the first place!!! Remember to enjoy yourself...everything else will flow from there! Good luck!
 
Snuffy, we are meeting at a coffee shop. I wouldn't meet someone I met online at their place or mine for the first time. Public places always for initial meetings.

Almost forgot, pay together or individually?

Thanks for the advice so far. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
 
I would split the check, but get his input too.

Are you only going to do coffee for the date?
 
Don't settle for anything less than you are worth, don't try to be anyone you're not, and if you get a strange vibe, then head for the door stat.
 
I don't have too much experience with dating but I really hope it goes well. Make sure to show him what makes you awesome and try not to get too nervous before the date (I know it's next to impossible to control that). Let us know how it goes and have fun! :)
 
Here's the game plan:
1. Agreed with a previous post...don't plan the whole evening. This will give you an excuse to end your date if you two don't hit it off. Meeting for coffee or happy hr is a great plan for the first date!

2. List a few fun topics for you two to talk about. Write them down if you have to (as in a cheat sheet) and put it in your pocket for inconspicuous reference during your date. This is helpful for people who are nervous on a date and tend to "blank out." Avoid discussion of religion and politics! Save that for your fifth or sixth date. Fun topics would include: favorite food/restaurants in the city, hobbies, sports, memorable vacations, concert/music, favorite movies/TV shows and why, etc.

3. Ask open ended questions to give your date a chance to express his thoughts...in length. "If money is no object, where would you go on your next vacation? and why?" This will give you a chance to listen and eat your dinner while it's still warm ..|

4. If you're attracted to him and want to see him again, BE A MAN! Grab the check and pay for the first date. You could say, "This one is on me. You'll get the next one" while smiling and making eye contact...with your date...and not the hot guy sitting by the next table (I know there will be distractions around you). Generosity is a great attraction. It shows confidence as well. If there's no chemistry between you two and the date is not going well, go ducth or split the check. Then...you can smile and make eye contact to the hot guy sitting over there :D

5. If the date is going well and you want to see him again, suggest a fun activity in common for you guys to do next time...like dinner, a football game, bowling, sex, happy hr, movie or whatever. Don't end the date without setting up the next date. Based on his answer, you will know if he's interested in seeing you again or not.

Relax and HAVE FUN! Report back to us on your date :-)
 
erobert said:
Snuffy, we are meeting at a coffee shop. I wouldn't meet someone I met online at their place or mine for the first time. Public places always for initial meetings.

Almost forgot, pay together or individually?

Thanks for the advice so far. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
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Sorry, what I meant is to not plan for an entire night in advance. You may realize it's not going to work two minutes after meeting. It's easy to end it quickly if you've only agreed for a drink. It's not so easy to end it quickly if you've made dinner reservations and bought tickets to a show.
 
Make sure to bring boxing gloves, pepper spray, combat knife, and a pair of shoes to kick ass in. My advice is the ONLY advice.
 
We had a pretty a pretty good time today, I think it went pretty well.

He paid for coffee and we talked and walked around Central Park for an hour and then took the subway down to grab some pizza. I felt a little guilty when I didn't pay for his pizza because the guy behind the counter was rushing customers along and he wasn't ready yet. (He paid for me so I should pay for him. Next time.)

Hung out around Union Square and someone approached us and asked if we were brothers... I guess that's a good sign. I also noticed some mirroring of body language which is probably also a good sign.

I made sure to set up a second date before he got on his subway line, though he needs to confirm a day next week because of his work schedule.

Overall he seems like a genuine, nice guy who I'd like to get to know better.
 
erobert said:
We had a pretty a pretty good time today, I think it went pretty well.

He paid for coffee and we talked and walked around Central Park for an hour and then took the subway down to grab some pizza. I felt a little guilty when I didn't pay for his pizza because the guy behind the counter was rushing customers along and he wasn't ready yet. (He paid for me so I should pay for him. Next time.)

Hung out around Union Square and someone approached us and asked if we were brothers... I guess that's a good sign. I also noticed some mirroring of body language which is probably also a good sign.

I made sure to set up a second date before he got on his subway line, though he needs to confirm a day next week because of his work schedule.

Overall he seems like a genuine, nice guy who I'd like to get to know better.
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Besides you not paying, it sounds great. Did you explain to him why you didn't pay? Did you tell him you would pay next time?
 
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