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I have a Date Tommrrow

altlover85 said:
Besides you not paying, it sounds great. Did you explain to him why you didn't pay? Did you tell him you would pay next time?
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No... I didn't tell him any of that.!oops!

I think he let it slide, since it was a quick pick up and go place and the guys behind the counter were kind of gruff (Not the most romantic place but the walk through Central Park evened things out). Small things like that count though. He was understandably nervous so maybe he didn't remember.

As for when to call. I'm not going to call right away but I don't want to wait more than a couple of days but also don't want to bother him when he's working on the weekend. We're planning on going to sandwich place for now.

BTW, he mentioned all his roommates would be gone the entire weekend, the same days he's going to be working though, maybe a subtle hint?
 
Wander said:
ooooo,, this is getting very interesting! :D

i don't even know you and i'm happy for you! Just take it slow son, don't be a man-whore! Make him work for it, he'll appreciate it more.
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Well, I don't want to take it too slow and send mixed messages. I think the old rule used to be on and or after the third date is fine.

Though, my personal rule is after the first date if I feel comfortable and trust them enough. I've only been on two or three first dates (that I know of) so I'm still new at this.
 
Agree with you. Don't wait 3 days to contact him. You could text him "Hey, It was fun getting to know you in Central Park. Thanks for coffee! Look forward to our next date."
 
I'll email or text him tomorrow morning to plan the next date.

I hear people say not to send a message the next day as you don't want to appear clingy or desperate. (That's kind of BS if there's mutual interest but I guess it's one of the unwritten "rules" of the dating game.)
 
erobert said:
I'll email or text him tomorrow morning to plan the next date.

I hear people say not to send a message the next day as you don't want to appear clingy or desperate. (That's kind of BS if there's mutual interest but I guess it's one of the unwritten "rules" of the dating game.)
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Do what feels best to you. Fuck the rules.

For me personally, if we had a great date, I'm going to email or call you the next day just to let you know that and ask about another date.
 
Just for those following we went on our second date Wednesday. It was nice, we went to lunch and walked around Prospect Park in Brooklyn a bit.

Though, I'm not sure if I should call or let him call to set up a third date, or let him know I had a nice time... He told me "we'll do this again as we were saying goodbye so maybe he's leaving it open. (Refers to "Dating for Dummies" book).

I know he's busy with work and his schedule changes on a weekly basis. Should I wait for him to call?
 
What do you guys have in common so far? What days does he have off from work?
 
In my time, you would have already have had sex many times by now, and you both would have probably moved on.

But that was then....
 
RazorzEdge88 said:
Definitely go for another date. Don't even be afraid to initiate it. He was telling you he wants it.Move to Shady Pines and tell someone who cares?
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And get over your new found (or is it just inborn) prudishness.

At least we knew how to have fun and didn't spend weeks "pussyfooting" around.
 
Uh...back on topic to ERobert: If you were planning your next date, what would you two like to do (besides sex)?
 
Erobert, I am so glad things are going well with you and this guy! I am curious as to what kind of signals you two are sending each other.

Did you two kiss good bye at the end of the second date? Do you hold hands while walking through the park? Did you pick up any suggestions in the conversation?

Fingers are crossed for you and the third date. :goodluck
 
mbamike said:
Erobert, I am so glad things are going well with you and this guy! I am curious as to what kind of signals you two are sending each other.

Did you two kiss good bye at the end of the second date? Do you hold hands while walking through the park? Did you pick up any suggestions in the conversation?

Fingers are crossed for you and the third date. :goodluck
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We haven't kissed goodbye or hello at all. He shook my hand, I don't think that means he not interested necessarily. Just that he's a bit shy (like me) and respectful. That's probably normal for a lot of people going on initial dates.

I'm not really giving out any obvious signals, they're more subtle. Paying for lunch, making sure to smile and laugh when some humorous comes up (believe it or not being nervous can make you forget to smile when appropriate), body language, what and how I respond to his questions, direct eye contact, etc... I don't want to over think how and when to give out signals as they're released subconsciously and are more natural that way.

I'm think about a dinner date for next time because we've been out to lunch twice already. We have a lot in common actually, I'm interested in a lot of things but we both like architecture and photography. He's the cute geeky type of guy. Maybe dinner and a museum free day...? I'll have to contact him today or tomorrow about that because hasn't contacted me so far.

As for sex; he lives with two other roommates and works mainly on the weekends. I'm staying with relatives while I look for my own place. So finding a time for that might be a bit difficult. He did ask how my apartment search is going so I think that might be a subtle hint at something. Of course everyone has their own pace of how they progress through the dating phases.
 
If you want to have sex on the first date, fine. If you want to wait a while, fine. Do what feels comfortable for you.

I don't get these arguments over when people should first have sex.

It sounds like things are going good erobert.

Did he say he'd call you or did you say you'd call him in regards to another date?
 
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