I have issues

[hotguy22]

i like guys and girls. most of the time i like guys more. i act really straight though.

so here's the problem, of course like any other guy, i would want to have my own family one day, but the problem is, once i find a girl, we always just end up being really good friends. what's crazy is, i don't even find girls that attractive unless i talk to them. don't get me wrong, i like girls. but maybe i just don't know how i feel about them. maybe i am attracted to them but it's just not translating into romance or something that has to do with love like a gf-bf thing. i would always like girls and be friend with them because they're NICE and FUN and not find them hot or something. i don't even think of having sex with them anymore. i know when i see an attractive girl but i just can't get over that FRIEND hump. i was inlove with this girl back in hs but since then, i havent felt that feeling again. i just like them for being nice and fun. i consider myself fairly attractive so i don't really have trouble with meeting or talking to girls. i have a lot of friends that are girls mainly because they think i'm nice, funny and fun to be with.

when it comes to guys, when i see a hot guy im attracted to, and interact with them, either sexually or not, i fall madly in love with them. well maybe it's just infatuation. but still, it's different. like now, i like this guy, and i'm like really attracted to him like crazy.

help! how do i tell girls or give them an indication that i like them and not give off the friend vibe? how do i stop myself from easily falling in love with guys?

 

[CudDULL]

I think your more into guys and probably not even bisexual if you don't feel attraction towards women.

 

[hotguy22]

i like women. the problem is, i can't find someone to fall in love with that's realistic and someone i know. i like girls. but they have to be extra hot for me to pursue them. last girl i liked was about 2 years ago. we we're on again off again for a while before she found someone else. how can i just go for it and not be too superficial?

I think your more into guys and probably not even bisexual if you don't feel attraction towards women.

 

[rricoo]

man im going trough the same thing, your whole story is mine as well, and about feeling a sexual attraction to girls it happened today, i have not been attracted to a girl for a long time until today i saw this girl she looks like Jessica from the pussycat dolls hot as hell she was looking at me really flirty and then she appeared out of nowhere in front of me and her smell got me tingly lol oh i felt like a horny dog for a minute. it hard you know especially when u really like a guy and its hard to tell if hes gay bi or not and u dont know what to do, maybe he is but hes afraid of what his peers would say, you know. i understand u and i wish i would have an answer for this problem. you just gotta not care about anything,when u feel attracted to someone weather is a girl or guy well go for it and if you find a girl who can give u a family and u love her well thats fine too but if fall in love with a man well u gotta follow ur heart

 

[flixelblix]

I like pussy, I like dick. I like pussy more though.

I did find a girlfriend who is the same way so it could benefit me in the end

 

[Seasoned]

Let nature take it's course. No matter who you find be honest if you stilllean both ways. It wouldn't be fair if you were hiding a secret while someone was committing to you. By the way, may same sex families raise children.

 

[nautiboyjeff]

Be lucky that you give off the "friend" vibe. Because you are very young and getting into a relationship with your feelings could leave a girl very hurt. Read the stories on here about the men who marry - because they want a family, their "brain" says it's the right thing to do - MESSY.

You should just be friends with people and follow your feelings within reason and re-shape and change your picture-perfect-life as you go along.

Just remember if you get serious with some girl and marry her and you have these feelings you WILL ACT on them at some point and cause a lot of hurt and pain.

 

[hotguy22]

well you know what, i've kinda figured myself out. like i said, girls have to be hoooooot for me to like them sexually...but you know what, i think its the same thing for guys. i dont fall in love or am attracted easily unless he's my type! i don't go crazy or infatuate over guys just because they have dicks. i only fall for the chill cute ones that act the same way i do..straight. when i hookup with guys it's just for fun mostly. but of course some are special.

as for girls, maybe i'm just not looking for one to love. and i don't think hooking up with a girl is good unless i get to know her deeply. i have a lot of respect for women and i simply cannot hookup randomly. ive fucked a girl once but the feeling wasn't good afterwards because we we're in the same class and she'd always try to avoid me after that. dont know why, maybe i sucked. maybe she just didnt know how what to say to me after that. so i chose not to talk to her as well. i've had my first love before, her name was maxine. she was soo hot that i asked for her number and called her that night and told her i loved her. she didnt love me back lol. and now that i've thought about it, why would she? i still regret that day because we weren't as close after that incident. it got awkward for a while..for like 6 years. yep i was 12 then. well what can you say, first love never dies. she's even prettier than ever.

 

[hotguy22]

I like pussy, I like dick. I like pussy more though.

I did find a girlfriend who is the same way so it could benefit me in the end

man your lucky.

 

[hotguy22]

You keep thinking you want and need to like girls and therefore use your "brain". With men since you're gay, your body reacts in a way that it doesn't and never will with females.

Just sayin. *shrug*

i don't think i need to like girls. because i do.

 

[hotguy22]

Let nature take it's course. No matter who you find be honest if you stilllean both ways. It wouldn't be fair if you were hiding a secret while someone was committing to you. By the way, may same sex families raise children.

no disrespect to gay couples but, sorry, i'd like my own child. from my own sperm you know? the natural way..

 

[hotguy22]

man im going trough the same thing, your whole story is mine as well, and about feeling a sexual attraction to girls it happened today, i have not been attracted to a girl for a long time until today i saw this girl she looks like Jessica from the pussycat dolls hot as hell she was looking at me really flirty and then she appeared out of nowhere in front of me and her smell got me tingly lol oh i felt like a horny dog for a minute. it hard you know especially when u really like a guy and its hard to tell if hes gay bi or not and u dont know what to do, maybe he is but hes afraid of what his peers would say, you know. i understand u and i wish i would have an answer for this problem. you just gotta not care about anything,when u feel attracted to someone weather is a girl or guy well go for it and if you find a girl who can give u a family and u love her well thats fine too but if fall in love with a man well u gotta follow ur heart

thanks man. seriously, who was that chick? did u talk to her atleast? i bet she's taken. lol. there was this hot chick in my spanish class today. nice tits on her...too bad she's taken! all the good ones are!! whhhhhhhhhhhhhy?

 

[Lewis1]

so i'm 18...i like guys and girls. most of the time i like guys more. i act really straight though.

so here's the problem, of course like any other guy, i would want to have my own family one day, but the problem is, once i find a girl, we always just end up being really good friends. what's crazy is, i don't even find girls that attractive unless i talk to them. don't get me wrong, i like girls. but maybe i just don't know how i feel about them. maybe i am attracted to them but it's just not translating into romance or something that has to do with love like a gf-bf thing. i would always like girls and be friend with them because they're NICE and FUN and not find them hot or something. i don't even think of having sex with them anymore. i know when i see an attractive girl but i just can't get over that FRIEND hump. i was inlove with this girl back in hs but since then, i havent felt that feeling again. i just like them for being nice and fun. i consider myself fairly attractive so i don't really have trouble with meeting or talking to girls. i have a lot of friends that are girls mainly because they think i'm nice, funny and fun to be with.

when it comes to guys, when i see a hot guy im attracted to, and interact with them, either sexually or not, i fall madly in love with them. well maybe it's just infatuation. but still, it's different. like now, i like this guy, and i'm like really attracted to him like crazy.

help! how do i tell girls or give them an indication that i like them and not give off the friend vibe? how do i stop myself from easily falling in love with guys?

I totally know what you mean. I have stopped befriending girls because of this.
My standards for girls are different Certain qualities lol but with guys almost anyguy i can be attracted to but.

I see what your saying U dont mind being friends with girls but dont want them to completly see you as the friend/brotherly type like youd want them to see you as bf material as well. I have found that you really cant take the frienship route with some girls you have to act like you want to date them an if that doesnt work out then try the friend thing.

As far as falling in love with guys goes. it is hard to remedy especially if your a sucker for romance & love lol. You cant deny what u like the most (guys) so naturally you will have stronger feelings for them

I would say to slow down the falling in love phase you might have to practice seing them as just friends lol that you would never date and once u get that in your mind things can be clearer

 

[TaigaStar]

First, let me preface this by stating a fact (one that a surprisingly large number on this board don't seem to want to acknowledge): your sexuality is a very personal, individual happening.

I'm very similar to you in the regard that women turn me on, but there needs to be a certain something about them. It sounds to me like you're looking for a companion with a woman, someone to talk to and be friends as well as partnered with. In long-term relationships, that bond is best. While I should say that you should apply this to guys, too, let's face it: guys don't need to be romanced to have sex with. I agree with Lewis1 about the slow down with the falling in love part. Love needs nurturing and time to prove its strength. Just relax and go with the flow, and don't sweat who you're with.

 

[rricoo]

thanks man. seriously, who was that chick? did u talk to her atleast? i bet she's taken. lol. there was this hot chick in my spanish class today. nice tits on her...too bad she's taken! all the good ones are!! whhhhhhhhhhhhhy?

OH i wish i knew who she was, my college campus is a very big place, so only God knows if i see her again lol i didnt talk to her because for some reason i'm more shy about getting flirty with girls that with boys, i feel they judge u more than guys do. yeah she's probably taken and why? because they're hot. the thing is that i saw her drooled and then i got to my english class and there is this boy that im extremely atracted to, man hes hot and this confuses me even more lol.

 

[Marky7511]

bro, we're so alike its crazy. im the EXACT same way. right now im crushing on the same dude for like 2 years its crazy, but we're just friends, i never tried to do anything with him. but im like madly in love with him. and all of my best friends are girls, but i liked each one of them before we became friends, but i always end up being their "besty"!

 

[youngnihilist]

lol.. come on guys... you try to meet girls and they end up becomes your BFFs/besties (or, better, "fag hag") and you're infatuated with guys... there's no issues here... you're just gay. embrace it!

 

[hotguy22]

lol.. come on guys... you try to meet girls and they end up becomes your BFFs/besties (or, better, "fag hag") and you're infatuated with guys... there's no issues here... you're just gay. embrace it!

well you can say what you wanna say. but you can't tell me what i am. i know who i am. ok? i don't end up being besties with every girl i like. i've had a gf before and i still like girls and that's not gonna change.

 

[spunk-junky]

If you truly believed you were in to girls, you wouldn't be have posted on this blog looking for advice. Believe me, I lived what you are describing. I had the same thoughts about girls, really enjoyed spending time with them, became good friends, sometimes really, really great friends. However, I could never figure out why things didn't progress further, even when they clearly were interested in me. I rationalized this for years, thinking I just hadn't found the right one. I am good looking, a bright guy, successful, funny, etc. I started wondering if there was something wrong with me. What was "wrong" is that I am gay. I can't even say I was in denial because I really believed I was straight. This may sound odd, but one day in November at the age of 27 it hit me: dude, you are gay. The very first time I got physical with a guy I knew with 100% certainty I was gay. Why? I finally experienced the feelings, emotions and physical attraction I thought I should have been feeling whenever I had been physical with a woman. You are 18 and still figuring yourself out. Hopefully it won't take you until you are 27 before you can tell yourself, "Dude, you're gay."

 

[itsmeagain]

no disrespect to gay couples but, sorry, i'd like my own child. from my own sperm you know? the natural way..

You have a choice to make.
Choose women; always want to be with a guy.
Choose guys; always want to be with women.

Sorry.

Suck it up; decide which way will fit into your needs, and go. Just try not to destroy anyone on your way down the road.

I realize people have said "you are young and just trying to find yourself"...I disagree. You know who you are and what you want.