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I Have No Idea What To Do!!!

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He's been very clear where the line is drawn.

He'll do stuff on cam, but not in person.

If he was interested in taking it to the next level, he would've responded to your nudges by now.

Either accept it for what it is, or cut it loose.

Lex
 
Well, he is confused and scared so I think the blame cannot be entirely on him. It wasn't really his choosing. Whatever comes out of it, at least for now, be there for him. Be a friend. If more develops, great. If nothing else, you know you've been there for him. I'm not asking you to be the samaritan forever, at least, until he comes and lives with you, talk to him in person and get to know him better. Then make the decision. Be honest with him if at all possible. Good luck.
 
TheRageWithinMe said:
I do not want to bore u all with my lame story so I will make it short....I have a friend who I have liked for the longest time.... I never been with a dude and neither has he.....he claims he is straight and just cant be with me but the deal is.... he has no problems what so ever umm... doing certain things on the phone, Cam, Mic...etc. He says he dont want to hurt my feelings and thats why he does it. we have been at this for over a year and i do love this person a whole hell of alot. I know he feels the same but I think he is so scared and I have no idea how to deal with this situation becuz if I push to much we stop talking for a little bit because he tends to get VERY pissed when I push the issue but yet he comes to me to let stress off if U get my drift. He also talks about how he wants to lose his virginity to a woman and i know this plays a huge role in it but when he talks to women, he stilll runs behind their backs and comes to me lol..... god someone please shoot me in the face becuz i am BEYOND confused :(
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I think he feels something for you, but is just scared to act on it.
 
Talking on the internet, through emails, or seeing one another on cam, people can get mixed signals! Sometimes there might be a misunderstanding as to what each wants especially if they speak different languages. My bf is latino and he self-taught himself English, and sometimes he misunderstands what I say to him.....(trying to learn Spanish here to smooth things out!)

Anyway, if he is coming to visit you for whatever time he is coming, be his friend, take it slow, communicate to one another! If he has feelings for you and you love him, just go with the flow and go from there.....explore the possibilities mate!
 
You may or may not like this piece of advice, so you can decide to take it or leave it if you want. ;)

I've been in a somewhat similar situation (although not nearly as extreme as your case) where a "straight" friend of mine would flirt with me all the time. So once I decided to play the game and flirt back a little. He was immediately weirded out and gave me the "this is too weird, I'm straight speech." So the next time he decided to try to flirt with me, I jokingly cut him off, laughed and said, "come on dude, I'm not a girl." I think he got the hint.

I'm assuming your friend is a grown man (or close to it). He may also be confused about what he wants, and that's ok. But you can't nudge him in any particular direction nor is it your job to pacify his sexual needs when you want completely different things. The next time he asks you "what he wants done to him," try to politely (maybe even jokingly) respond, "You might have more fun if you asked a girl."

You should continue to be his friend and stay on his side, but it may do you (and him) some good to lay off the sexual internet shenanigans until he figures out if he's really straight or not.
 
Yea...i had the same experience, but I had a personal experience with him. He told me he's not gay. In the end, I felt really hurt.
 
I agree with Jasun.

Life is too fucking short as it is to be playing stupid games with other people's heads and hearts. Only the young and psychotic seem to think it is the way to behave.

Cut him loose right now and spend time looking for a real friend and soulmate instead of some lame-assed virtual courtship with a closet case.
 
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