Ok a few months ago I met a really great guy ( i'll call him allan) and instantly had feelings for him, but he had a bf. we hung out a couple of times and he told me how his boyfriend isn't so great (I won't go into much detail, needless to say he does not deserve Allan), some of the stuff genuinely made me heart sick for Allan. I confessed that did have feelings for him but he said he just wanted to e friends, to which I said I would prefer to be friends than have to stop seeing him completely.
More problems occurred between Allan and his bf, and Allan would talk to me about it and it felt like he looked to me for support, which I was happy he felt secure enough to do. It all came to a head a few days ago when they finally broke up, and this time it seemed for good. I was having my birthday party and Allan was ivited but wasn't sure on coming because he wasn't so great, but after going to see him just to hang out and distract him from the pain of the breakup, he decided he did want to come to my party. I ha a great night and tried to get allan mixing with my friends, most of which he has never met before.
After a couple of drinks we went of to talk in my room and I was trying to help him just by listening to what he was feeling, but I must have said something because he asked if I had feelings for him still, which I tried to deflect by saying we weren't talking about me. He pushed the question again, this time saying that he does have feelings for me. I felt a mix of pure happiness with flgrest sadness, because the guy I love likes me back (albeit I don't know how much) but I don't want to act on my feelings too much as I don't want to be a rebound guy. He spent the night in my bed, we only made out really and cuddled, and for me it felt so right I didn't want to let him go. We spent the next two days basically with each other the whole time, with him saying he really enjoys his time with me, that he still has feelings for me and that it wasn't a drunk confession to me. I even joked around about finding him a new bf or FWB, but he said he only wanted one person at the moment, and that was me, but didn't want to rush into anything like he had with his ex.
Last night we were messaging happily, when his ex sends him a text trying to get him back. Allan went to talk with his ex because he feels bad, even though his ex treated him like dirt, and now they are still going to talk.
I have been trying to say do what is right for himself, don't let his ex emotionally blackmail him as he will use that as a weapon in the future. I didn't want him to worry about how i felt because I didnt want to cause him more confusion and pain, but I foolishly said I hope his ex fails at getting Allan back. I wish Allan could see that I care about him so much that I would never hurt him like his ex has, he deserves someone who loves him more than anything, and I feel that person is me. But his happiness means to much for me to say that because should he choose his ex and be happy, that is what I want, for him to be happy and feel loved. I just wish he would choose me, he doesn't even have to be my boyfriend straight away because he doesn't want to rush, but it's obvious he feels for me too and I wish he could see I'm better for him than his ex.
Vent over.
More problems occurred between Allan and his bf, and Allan would talk to me about it and it felt like he looked to me for support, which I was happy he felt secure enough to do. It all came to a head a few days ago when they finally broke up, and this time it seemed for good. I was having my birthday party and Allan was ivited but wasn't sure on coming because he wasn't so great, but after going to see him just to hang out and distract him from the pain of the breakup, he decided he did want to come to my party. I ha a great night and tried to get allan mixing with my friends, most of which he has never met before.
After a couple of drinks we went of to talk in my room and I was trying to help him just by listening to what he was feeling, but I must have said something because he asked if I had feelings for him still, which I tried to deflect by saying we weren't talking about me. He pushed the question again, this time saying that he does have feelings for me. I felt a mix of pure happiness with flgrest sadness, because the guy I love likes me back (albeit I don't know how much) but I don't want to act on my feelings too much as I don't want to be a rebound guy. He spent the night in my bed, we only made out really and cuddled, and for me it felt so right I didn't want to let him go. We spent the next two days basically with each other the whole time, with him saying he really enjoys his time with me, that he still has feelings for me and that it wasn't a drunk confession to me. I even joked around about finding him a new bf or FWB, but he said he only wanted one person at the moment, and that was me, but didn't want to rush into anything like he had with his ex.
Last night we were messaging happily, when his ex sends him a text trying to get him back. Allan went to talk with his ex because he feels bad, even though his ex treated him like dirt, and now they are still going to talk.
I have been trying to say do what is right for himself, don't let his ex emotionally blackmail him as he will use that as a weapon in the future. I didn't want him to worry about how i felt because I didnt want to cause him more confusion and pain, but I foolishly said I hope his ex fails at getting Allan back. I wish Allan could see that I care about him so much that I would never hurt him like his ex has, he deserves someone who loves him more than anything, and I feel that person is me. But his happiness means to much for me to say that because should he choose his ex and be happy, that is what I want, for him to be happy and feel loved. I just wish he would choose me, he doesn't even have to be my boyfriend straight away because he doesn't want to rush, but it's obvious he feels for me too and I wish he could see I'm better for him than his ex.
Vent over.
