I just reached in and grabbed it

[eberg]

I feel like a lot of young guys on this board tell stories similar to the one I'm about to tell and follow it with stuff like "oh my god I think he's gay" or "do you think he was coming on to me?"

I can assure you this story is not like that, I just think it's entertaining.

I am an openly gay college student. Most of my friends are straight guys, who are all very comfortable around me, some more than others. We talk openly about just about anything, and we're all really close. One of my best friends is this guy named Jay. We've been friends for like 3 years. He's a very good looking frat boy, jewish doctor type. The whole package.

Jay and I have that kind of friendship that is just really no boundries. He's straight as an arrow. We have intense conversations about girls, boys, relationships, sex, we've seen each other naked, and we always make jokes about having sex with each other which are just that: JOKES!

Anyway, a lot of fraternity guys here have this terible habit of grabbing each others balls just to be annoying, and Jay has taken to doing the same everytime he sees me. It's a quick little grab that we laugh off because it's absolutely ridiculous.

Last night, we are at the bar that we always go to on Tuesdays, and it's the first week back from winter break, so we hadn't seen each other in like a month. So I spot him, go over, say hi, he grabs my balls. But I was drinking and feeling confidant, so I said,

"you know Jay, you can't just keep grabbing my balls and not expect me to do it back"

(And I NEVER have) But last night I decided to do it back. So I gave them a little squeeze over the jeans and it was fun. We kept on chatting and drinking.

As I went to leave, I went up to him to say goodbye and he went for my crotch again. I said,

"Keep doing it and I'm gonna reach inside your pants and grab your cock for real"

He bet me I wouldn't do it. BAD IDEA. So I got real close to him like I was telling him a secret, and with my big heavy jacket covering everything, I reached into his pants and gave his cock and balls a nice squeeze.

He looked at me like he could not believe I just did that in the middle of a hundred people and no one noticed, both of us laughing so hard. I told him not to mess with me again if he couldn't handle the consequences, and we left the bar.

Now, think what you want, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions. I just think it's cool to know that there CAN exist a playfully flirty relationship between straight guys/gay guys that doesn't always result in repressed feelings and wishful thinking on the part of the gay guy. He's one of my best friends, and I think it's just one of those... things that exists in any friendship.

I just thought it was a fun story to share.

Peaaaace

 

[Andross]

Eh... none of my straight friends go for another guy's balls...

 

[eberg]

Yeah, I don't know the guy but I just think he's an extremely gay friendly/comfortable straight man.

Wish I had friends like that.

That's what I tell people. Sometimes people bring up the way we interact around each other.

People always go, "he's definitely gay, he wants you"

And I have to be like, "no, you don't understand, we're really close, it's all in good fun"

 

[twardmo]

LOL! Great Story!

 

[perigrine]

Okay, call me up and tell me that story, without skipping a single detail!

 

[REALWILDARKIEHERE]

Wow Eberg,

That's great that you have such a great straight friend. I agree, I think if a guy is totally comfortable with himself, and he knows there's nothing else going on, what the hell..

You go boyfriend !

 

[tonyboy]

That's what I tell people. Sometimes people bring up the way we interact around each other.

People always go, "he's definitely gay, he wants you"

And I have to be like, "no, you don't understand, we're really close, it's all in good fun"

Well man, you've got an unusual straight friend... one to be treasured for sure.
You obviously know him better than any of us, so I take your word for it that he is a straight guy.
That doesn't really matter though does it. You've got good buddy, a damned good friend. Treasure him man.

 

[SunsetsC]

haha awesome, ive got a similar very affectionate best mate who knows about me being gay n all, but unfortunately we havent reached the whole crotch grabbing level in friendship

 

[HarryPotterHimself]

That's what I tell people. Sometimes people bring up the way we interact around each other.

People always go, "he's definitely gay, he wants you"

And I have to be like, "no, you don't understand, we're really close, it's all in good fun"

I'm not trying to impress doubts on you, but that's exactly what I thought about my best friend. We joked about being gay all the time, and he never knew I was gay or anything, and he recently came out of the closet (at least one foot, to some people) as bi. I was right all along, but I'm not saying that's the same with your friend, and even if he is gay, dont expect (and I know you probably dont, I'm not accusing you) anything to happen, ever. What you have is priceless, just like me and my friend. We both know each other's sexual preferences now and we refuse to move on it--granted, we've made out, but that's besides the point. He's straight and he jokes deeply like he's gay. I have another friend like, but I'm almost entirely convinced right now that he's straight.

 

[star-warrior]

Next time, do it in private, and mebbe, just mebbe you might have your evil little way with him, :haha:

 

[eberg]

Next time, do it in private, and mebbe, just mebbe you might have your evil little way with him, :haha:

HAHAHA, we'll see, we'll see.

And HARRY: I see the similarities in our stories, but the only difference is that my friend already knows I am gay, no more secrets. Still sounds cool that you made out with your friend though!

 

[belamy]

That is such a cute story and such a cute friendship

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Congrats on your cool attitude.

You grab my balls, I grab yours. Gay or str8 is beside the point.

You did well by asserting that you have no fear and that you feel comfortable with him.

Keep the reciprocation thing going, no matter where it takes you to.

SC

 

[richardPB1]

I wonder what your friend will do next. This may just escalate. Keep us informed.

 

[eberg]

That is such a cute story and such a cute friendship

That's how I look at it too. It's just a testament to friendship really.

After we come out, I think that, for a long time, we look for the "gay signs" in everyone we meet. We probably don't even notice that we do it, it happens subconsciously. But we all do it.

And I know that, personally, it's taken me a few years of being "out" to get past that and to stop reading in to things and to just take people for who they are.

But I will definitely keep you updated on anything else that happens. Probably nothing though haha.

 

[drhladnjak]

It always brings a little smile to my face when I meet a straight guy like that or hear stories about others who have. For a growing number of young people, homophobia has become very uncool to the point where having gay friends (especially ones that you can sort of innocently flirt and joke around with) is very much in.

It reminds me of a time about a month ago when a (gay) friend of mine from San Francisco and I were down in southern California and decided to hit up the gay bars and clubs one night in West Hollywood. This straight and very hot, but extremely gay-friendly Dutch guy who was a friend of a friend came along with us. By the end of the night, we ended up at Rage and he was dancing with his shirt off in his designer jeans and cute gay-boy belt. Guys kept coming over to chat him up and he'd politely tell them he was flattered but straight.

 

[HighParkLover]

I wonder what your friend will do next. This may just escalate. Keep us informed.

Yeah I am wondering the same thing.... Keep us updated

 

[spreadeagle]

eberg says "That's how I look at it too. It's just a testament to friendship really."

Interesting choice of words that seems to relate to the (disputed) ancient practice of touching the testicles when swearing an oath - see this from the Web:

"There really is a strong link between testicle and testify (as well as attest, intestate, testament, contest and other words) but those who swear by this belief have misunderstood the matter.

The Latin word for a witness was testis, which derives from an Indo-European word for the number three. That was because the Romans regarded a witness as what we would call a trusted third party, one who stands aside from the dispute and can tell it how it really was. The Romans did also use the word testis in a figurative way to mean testicle. The idea seems to have been that a testicle was a witness to a man’s virility. And that’s the whole story of the connection.

One reason for the confusion may be that swearing on the testicles is recorded in the Bible. The practice is mentioned in the Old Testament, though the King James’ version bowdlerised the reference in Genesis to “grasping the thigh”. But there seems to be no evidence that the Romans — a long way away and in another era — used a similar method. In any case, the Biblical reference implies that the person is swearing on the testicles of the king, not on their own."

While this gesture might be generally accepted within your circle of friends - a sort of secret handshake - you should be aware that it could easily be misconstrued or misinterpreted and would constitute a sexual assault in the eyes of the law.

What are you going to do if one of your friends is accused of sexual assault and in court the prosecuting attorney says to you - "Did the accused ever grab your genitals - please answer the question 'yes' or 'no."

 

[eddielee]

I never had a straight friend like that. Most of them were extremely insecure. Other than just being playful, do you think your friend is hinting that he wants to take things a little further?

 

[buzzj]

Thanks for passing along the story! He sounds like a cool friend. And, by the way, I like your homepage--- have you thought about starting a gallery?