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I used to love that song despite the stupid Inglewood slang... need to find it on youtube...![]()
For some reason, reading his title for this thread reminded me of that song. I like this part:One carefree night would not make you a whore. Nor would it make you a slut. I would suggest NOT doing the drunken part--why not enjoy it with your full faculties about you?
I don't think it has anything to do with your morals, and more to do with your own internal judgment. And perhaps fear.
While you sit here judging yourself, you're still alone.
Assuming that is you in your avatar, you appear to be young, in good shape--can you not meet other young men in your area to date? Is your fear holding you back on just meeting others and seeing if something can develop?
Yeah, that's me.
I'm not into the whole gay bar scene and I don't know where else to find gay guys. I'm not one of those guys either that will ask another guy out... they have to make the first move. I have a fear of putting myself out there and then being rejected. I also have fears about being rejected by my family.
I'm a complete mess.![]()


I'm sorry to hear that. I can empathize. It is difficult at first--but you have to realize some day that the most important person you need not be rejected by is yourself. Everyone lets you down in some way at some point, so you can't count on anyone but you as far as making yourself happy.
I can say, that while you're sitting there in fear and judgment, you're losing years that you'll wish you could have back later.
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One carefree night would not make you a whore. Nor would it make you a slut. I would suggest NOT doing the drunken part--why not enjoy it with your full faculties about you?
I don't think it has anything to do with your morals, and more to do with your own internal judgment. And perhaps fear.
While you sit here judging yourself, you're still alone.
Nothing wrong with allowing yourself some fun here and there.
It doesn't make you a whore.

