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I just want to be loved.

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Im 18 years old and I started going to college, right now Im in a community college.
I have never been in a relationship with anyone.
At my school, there are some guys I like, but it turns out they have girlfriends. And here im thinking there gay.
how stupid im I.

Guys, who are in a relationship right now.
how did you meet your boyfriend.

Iam tired of seeing people holding hands and kissing and such.
I hate love.:(:confused::mad:
 
You sound so desperate. Even if you do find a gay man to love you, you will be at risk of being taken advantage of. I can not help but wonder what has not happened in your life until now?

Why do you not feel loved? I wish I could spend some time with you and help you through this. You are eighteen years old, and the ability to enter into a loving relationship with a gay man will depend upon your being in a good place with your love issues.
You may PM me if you wish.
Shep+
 
I met my boyfriend at a PAWS charity event. At the time I was not looking for any kind of relationship. I had guys that I messed around with, but none that I had, what I call heart and soul feelings for. I feel in love with him as soon as I saw him, and I nearly went into orbit when one of my friends told me he was gay. I sat with him at his table when the dinner was served and we talked for over three hours. From that day forward I found and used every excuse to just be around him. Three months after we met he asked me to move in with him, and we've been living together since.
Don't give up on Love, its out there, sometimes we just have to wait for the right moment.
 
i was 15 and met this amazing guy
nothing happened until about 5 years later
we met again on the subway
and spent the entire night just talking
no sex
boring it may be
but fantastic it was

was i in love ..... oh yea
i miss him
 
I dont know.
I just want to be with a guy, i hate when people ask me. "when are you getting a girlfriend." so annyoning.
and im afraid to tell them i dont like girls.
IM GAY.
so yeah.
 
Boy do I know that feeling! And twenty years older than you, I still don't have a boyfriend!

But I'm perfectly happy alone. Though I don't have any personal proof of this assertion, you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with another person. Being happy is attractive, you know? It's why guys in relationships get hit on more than they did when they were single... the confidence of not having to find a mate attracts people.

So don't sweat the boyfriend bit, and don't begrudge those who've found the love you want. Right now you're in a place of envy, which is not good as it's (sad to say) horribly unattractive and tends to keep you single; get yourself to a place of loving others, free of the need of a very specific kind of relationship, and love will find you... maybe not in the way you think, right now, that you want: but in ways that will bend your mind.

The thing is to be a good person, do good things, and goodness will float toward you. It's tried and true, my friend! Just ask dogsbestfrend... you meet worthwhile people when you're doing worthwhile things. So get on out there and help your fellow man (and beast) and you'll meet other people like you who are also engaged in doing something for their fellows... and one of them might just dig you. No guarantees, but at least you'll be increasing your chances and feeling good about yourself.

Good luck, young friend!

PS: I had to laugh at the juxtaposition of this thread title with your username! Great irony! :D

PPS: One other thing... come out and start hanging out in places with other gay people. You'll never meet another boy if he doesn't know you're gay. You know?
 
If I saw a hot young guy with "leavemealone" on his T Shirt....thats exactly what I'd do !

If you always do what you've always done then you'll always get what you've always got.
 
Well, young brother, I hope your screen name is not an indication of how you present yourself in the offline world. Did you mean to be ironic by choosing a screen name that goes against what you supposedly want from others? If not, then is it possible you're sending out a signal to others that is counter-productive to what you crave?

A wise man once told me to watch my body language when I was around other guys who I thought might be gay. He asked me to just act like I normally did, but to step outside of myself and watch to see how I handled it. When I was able to do that, I realized that any time I was around a guy I was attracted to, my body language and vibe said "don't notice me/stay away/i'm not interested." I was putting out a scared, stiff, closeted vibe that was not open to anyone being interested. Once I figured that out, I started trying to relax more.

I don't know if that is the case with you, but sometimes our fear of being found out makes it extra hard for people to find us, even if we want to be found.
 
lol.
I picked Leave me alone as my screen name is because many people in my life have hurt me.
That is why i picked it.
but now those people in my life are gone.
and i want to be happy again.
 
Also, you cannot set in your house on the computer or watching TV and expect the man of your dreams to come knocking at your door. You need to get out and about and let the world know your available. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
But prepare yourself, some guys will rip your heart out and laugh in your face. There will be heartbreaks and tears.
But fortunately...love seems to win.
 
Leavemealone said:
I just want to be happy.
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Can you be happy on your own? Do you love yourself? Do you have confidence? When you talk to yourself, are you kind and encouraging in what you say, or are you more likely to down yourself?

How you see you will greatly influence how others see you and treat you. If you've had a great deal of pain in your life, caused by people who were supposed to love you, you may find yourself drawn to others who will hurt you too.

We really do create the outside world to match how we see ourselves inside. While justdoitinj's words are spot on, I liked how it's expressed in 212, The Extra Degree:

"To get what we've never had, we must do what we've never done."
 
Leavemealone said:
Iam tired of seeing people holding hands and kissing and such.
I hate love.:(:confused::mad:
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i know how you feel.

you want to feel that connection that everyone else around seems to have. it's very frustrating. you get sick and tired of being happy for everyone else and most of the time it just wears you down. i try not to carry that frustration with me but to be honest it's very hard to dispel. i really have no advice for you myself, all i can do is validate what you yourself feel as i share the same. hopefully things will change for you sooner than later.
 
There are some wise words in this thread. When I was your age I dated a lot, no relationships, just fun. Fast forward twenty years later and a lot experience under my belt :badgrin:. I finally have the man I want to be with. I'm not saying you should take as long as I did, but do give yourself time, the right guy will come along. While your waiting, learn to love yourself.
 
Despiration leads to hooking up which leads to STDs. Relax and the right guy will come along.

I really do not like doing this but Im gonna link Phil Collins. /cry. But here's what I have to say summed up in video.

 
Leavemealone said:
Im 18 years old and I started going to college, right now Im in a community college.
I have never been in a relationship with anyone.
At my school, there are some guys I like, but it turns out they have girlfriends. And here im thinking there gay.
how stupid im I.

Guys, who are in a relationship right now.
how did you meet your boyfriend.

Iam tired of seeing people holding hands and kissing and such.
I hate love.:(:confused::mad:
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Just try to do your best in school. If it happens it happens. If not, don't get bitter and upset. I hear love is overrated anyway.

But that doesn't stop me from wanting a piece!

LOL

I don't know. Guess I'm no help at this particular moment!!
 
Leavemealone said:
I dont know.
I just want to be with a guy, i hate when people ask me. "when are you getting a girlfriend." so annyoning.
and im afraid to tell them i dont like girls.
IM GAY.
so yeah.
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Well start standing up for yourself, sweetness.

Tell em, "I wanna swing ding-a-ling with someone - some guy." They'll prolly laugh, and then they'll know where you stand!!

I bet it rarely fails!! ;-)
 
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