"I just want you to experience a woman."

[-Lance-]

My friend called me the other day and brought up a very strong topic.

She told me that she wishes me to experience a woman before I die. She said everyman man, gay or not, should have knowledge of this.

I laughed it off and told her I highly doubt that would ever happen. But she persisted, saying that it would be for my best interest so I never ask myself "What if....??" in the future.

Now, I think people should have fun and experiment, but I also believe after a certain point in your life you should know what you are into.

I feel like I'm over experimentation with females. I've only dated females in my life, when I believed to be bisexual, but my desires changed. As I observed my thoughts and attractions few and few were of women. They were all men. And even when I thought of myself as bi it was always men primarily on my mind.

This is what I was trying to explain to her, that trying girls out again would feel like I am going back in life...and all I want is progress. She said she understands, but still disagrees with me.


Have any of you guys had a similar situation with a friend or parent who wants you to try playing it straight?

 

[theFallenGod]

Ask her if she thinks she should try a woman before she dies... or if every straight man should try a man before they die...

Hold her to her own... if thats the thought process she's going on it should be all defining...

Also ask her if she's willing to be the woman that some man should try before he dies...if that man is insanely grotesque and not likely to ever have a chance with a woman?

 

[-Lance-]

Ask her if she thinks she should try a woman before she dies... or if every straight man should try a man before they die...

Hold her to her own... if thats the thought process she's going on it should be all defining...

Also ask her if she's willing to be the woman that some man should try before he dies...if that man is insanely grotesque and not likely to ever have a chance with a woman?

I did ask her that actually.

She gave off a viewpoint that everyone should experiment bisexuality.

I laughed at her. Personally, I think she was trying to cover her ass from being a hypocrite. She fooled me.......

*sarcasm

 

[Horschallen]

Never tried, never will.

 

[JOHN B]

I've never had it since it had me. And I don't plan to either.


Sounds like she just wants to get into your pants herself....

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm guessing she has the perfect candidate for you to experiment with, as well...

I have no issue with people who want to experiment with both sexes (or with those who decide they're attracted to both sexes). But nobody should feel OBLIGATED to experiment with both sexes. Hell, why stop there? Make sure you have at least three threesomes - one with two guys, one with two women, and one with one of each - just so you don't start asking "what if I should be in a triad?" in the future. Make sure you get tied up and beaten (by both a woman and a man), and find yourself a woman and a man to tie up and beat. Make sure you sleep with at least one fat guy, one extremely muscular guy, a "barely legal teen", a 70-year-old, a giant, a midget (AND a dwarf), a eunuch, a vampire, a werewolf, and a gargoyle. Get yourself a furry costume, and head off to the next furry convention to pair up. And hey, if the fox costume don't do it for you, go to the next one as a rabbit - better safe than sorry, right?

Tell her you'll let her know how things went once your experimentation is done...sometime around the time you turn 50.

Lex

 

[SilverRRCloud]

#1
Friendships, strong as they may be, always stop before the bedroom doors. This is how far they go and not an inch further. Bedroom advice is not for anyone to give, unless asked to do so. Offering such unsolicited advice always smells of serious manipulation.

#2
I know a few dudes, who officially subscribed to the 'I'll try anything once policy'. It sounds much better than it really is and has only served as a cover up for them to do whatever they really wanted to do in the first place but were not having sufficient courage to admit that.

Haven't we all run across a dude or two in our lives, who would solemnly swear that they had never sucked a dick in their lives but would 'try it only once with you'; only to discover that they were genuine pros? Couple of beers later, they would actually ask you to 'go all the way'? Sure, they had never done this before, but hey, they were willing to try everything once, if you promised not to spread the word.

#3
It is your life and your sex. You call the shots. And no one else.

SC

 

[Pringle]

I'm guessing she has the perfect candidate for you to experiment with, as well...

I have no issue with people who want to experiment with both sexes (or with those who decide they're attracted to both sexes). But nobody should feel OBLIGATED to experiment with both sexes. Hell, why stop there? Make sure you have at least three threesomes - one with two guys, one with two women, and one with one of each - just so you don't start asking "what if I should be in a triad?" in the future. Make sure you get tied up and beaten (by both a woman and a man), and find yourself a woman and a man to tie up and beat. Make sure you sleep with at least one fat guy, one extremely muscular guy, a "barely legal teen", a 70-year-old, a giant, a midget (AND a dwarf), a eunuch, a vampire, a werewolf, and a gargoyle. Get yourself a furry costume, and head off to the next furry convention to pair up. And hey, if the fox costume don't do it for you, go to the next one as a rabbit - better safe than sorry, right?

Tell her you'll let her know how things went once your experimentation is done...sometime around the time you turn 50.

Lex

Lex sorry to be a pain but next time you write such a useful checklist can you be sure to put it in bullet points so I can print it off and lamanate it for future reference.

Jeez - I'm starting late so I hope I can get it all done before I die



Tell this so called "friend" that as touched as you are that she is concerned for your sexual adventure, that it is none of her concern and let her worry about her experimenting and you will deal with yours.

Perhaps some subtle post-it notes on the fridge with the definition of a gay man might help her out.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Unfortunately a lot of gay men do not realize how safe we seem to some women. You know you are past experimenting, so do not experiment. It may be flattering to have someone come on to you, but you do not need this. So tell her no.
Shep+

 

[-Lance-]

I don't think she wants to have sex with me! haha

She's just putting her nose into business that is my own.

She wants me to try being bisexual. And thats not going to work. I don't try to be anything. In the past I thought I was bi, but now I know that I am gay. So that's the end of that.

She's still being stubborn though. I know she means well, but she doesnt realize how hurtful that conversation was to me, I tried to explain but she truly does not understand why I am angry with her.

Is ok to be angry with someone who doesn't know better? I ask myself that a lot.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Is ok to be angry with someone who doesn't know better? I ask myself that a lot.

I try to give the person credit for good intentions, even if they end up being annoying. Don't argue with her. Just say, "Thanks - I'll keep that in mind." Then change the topic.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

Why stop at women? Isn't the logical extension that one would then have to try everything before they die? Tell her you're thinking about trying sheep and a variety of vegetables first, but you may get around to women when you're about 75 years old.

She sounds like the kind of woman who thinks that they can turn gay guys straight.

Barf.