i kissed a random guy being drunk..

[Louis1992]

the sunday i went to the club with my current date.. we got 1 month dating hes 36 im 20 , i accidentally got drunk .. yes im young.. but i always controlled my drinks and actually never got drunk.. till 2 days ago.... the thing is i dont remember how it happened but i was dancing with another guy.. i gave him my number... and then i kissed him..... my date saw me.. got insane and he left... a friend whispered in my hear.. YOU MESSED UP.. hes gone... when i heard that.. i was shocked.... even drunk i knew something was wrong.. i ran downstairs and he was on the car... i got into the car.. he yelled some things to me that i dont remember and i cried so much. he picked up my things from his place and then he left me at my mom house... i sleep for like 3 hours.. then i woke up crying... 2 days have passed and im still crying for what i did to me and him.... i love him so much.. i dont want let it go..., i know that he's hurt ... i understand why hes still angry..
but i dont get why he doesnt want to talk to fix the problem...
omg... and he told me before we went to the club.. that some guys would be hunting me... and he said that he would be protecting me the whole time.. but he didnt at all.... a friend of him did...---

later on that day.. i texted him that i left my wallet at his car and a few clothes...
he said that he would bring them to me .. and then bye bye...
we meet near a mall.. i picked up my things, the strange thing is that he folded my clothes.. i said thanks... with tears .. i wanted to cry.. but i was in public.. he didnt said anything and left...

we chated... tons of thing where said... i apologized on many ways...
today in the morning i texted him "good morning baby, have a good day"
he replied. "baby? you know that im not.. we are still being friends.. you have done wrong, for the moment is all i can do.
i was like what?

on the midday.. i told him to have a nice meal
he said. " have a nice meal to. how was you morning?. you already have called that guy?. ..... i was like wtf are you serious?.... hes playing with me, or still jealous?. i dont even remember that guy.. and if he text me .. i would reply an apologize...

.. like 3 hours ago.. he said.. " you are already forgiven.. but i lost my trust on you.." i cried and writed the longest message that i ever did.... explaining all again.. that i care about him,about what i did while i was drunk and that still hurt me... that I will do everything I can to restore the trust.. and i know it will be hard but it worth..

then i said good night rest . he replied .. "same."


he still care about me?, that why he still replying me?... if he didnt wanted me anymore he could easily said "dont text me anymore". right??..

what i should do to get back the trust


sorry for my bad english

 

[MoltenRock III]

He's just mad he'll get over it. Just keep being honest, open, and remorseful. No one is perfect and assuming you stay together one day soon he will mess up and will be begging your forgiveness.

 

[dhchitown1984]

You're 20 years old. Don't beat yourself up. You've been seeing the guy for a month, you haven't invested your entire adult life in the relationship.

That being said, I'm not going to badger you for drinking when you shouldn't have been - I've done, a lot of people have. That being said, you don't want to go to a club or a bar and discover what your limit is.

I do think for a 36 year old, he's a little too far distanced from the mindset of a 20 year old drunk kid. But it happened, you apologized. As much as you need to control your intake so things like that don't happen, he needs to remember where he was when he was 20.

I think things will blow over - he's still talking to you, after all.

 

[ariesstar89]

Its happened before, and it'll happen again. Not your situation just the situation in general to others. You've done all you can, and he did say he forgives you yet doesn't trust you anymore.

It comes down to this: do you want to keep beating yourself up trying to earn his trust again when there is, and hopefully there isn't, a possibility he may not again or do you want to be somewhat mature, and try to start things off again building off the friendship level and letting it get back to where it was?

As you said, the two of you have been together a month. And as someone above said, that isn't a major amount of time, IMO, to be fully invested in someone. But everyone is different. What I'm getting at is that you both may have already been rushing into things a bit too quickly than either of you realized. This may be a reality check for you both. On your level, you ended up making a mistake and you are sorry for it, and want to start back again. On his, he saw you drinking, drinking too much, being drunk, and dancing with another guy when this unfortunate accident happened. He should understand first off that you were drunk (which isn't itself an excuse but to me is understandable for actions), and that he was not 'protecting you' like he said he would.

I'm not trying to be a negative Nancy about things, and in fact I think I'm just rambling on about my opinion on it all. Just take a step back from it all and think for yourself too. Let your mind get completely settled on an opinion, and go from there. If he doesn't want to understand and move on, its his loss. If he does, just show him that you truly are sorry for what happened and prove that it won't again. I guess its just as simple as that.

 

[Seasoned]

This sounds like it's not going to work, partly because of your age difference but mostly because you're not on the same page. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just the way it is. You have different temperaments.

Alcohol lowers inhibitions; it doesn't plant seeds. Those seeds are already there. Don't confuse the safety of a relationship with contentment. A 36 year old who storms off because his 20 year old boyfriend drunkenly flirted is immature unless this is your usual pattern. If this was the first time it happened he left you alone in a potentially dangerous situation. If this is repetitive behavior you need to examine your use of alcohol.

 

[Louis1992]

@seasoned. no, is not a repetitive behavior.. i actually never got drunk. i always had control of it.... but it was my mistake, and his fault somehow.. because he knew that guy was looking for me from the beginning, and he said that he would protect me... i assume my responsibility, also i understand why hes angry and pissed off, because that hurt him, things looks good, as someone above said.. he is still talking to me.

it worths fight for him , it will take time.

im young yes.. but hes a great person and i found peace.

 

[TX-Beau]

One month? You both sound emotionally unstable. You're weeping for days, he's having jealous rages.

Frankly, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Should you have kissed that other guy, probably not, but then the emotional angst and drama that resulted is way over the top.

 

[rareboy]

I'm with TX-Beau.

 

[Araigu]

I assume the OP speaks Spanish, like I do, but it wouldn't be nice to leave out people who don't speak the language, so I'll stick to English.

I know this is not what you wanna hear (or read, the same) but: why should HE be "protecting" YOU from yourself? I mean, let's face it, even if there were some people "after" you, it's still YOUR choice whether to answer their advances or not, we're not children anymore. (I'm 21, so I'm not scolding you, I do understand)

You've done your part, you've apologized for a drunken mistake, now, please learn from this whole thing. And wait for him to be cool with it, he seems to need some time, and you really need to assess how mature both you acted.
I'm with TX-Beau and rareboy. For me it sounds you're quite manic about your relationship, and that's cool as long as everything's working, but take it easy, one can easily overlook the big picture when madly in love.

My advice: let everything fall into its right place, it eventually will.