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I lied about my age! Please help!

borg69unimatrix said:
Maybe he just uses the older guys for drinks and $$$, but only wants a relationship with younger guys ?
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I'm thinking this may be true. Alternatively, he could be telling you he isn't into older guys because while he may be attracted to older guys, he thinks it's a weird trait about himself. I know I used to feel that way when I was younger.

Regardless, I really don't see it as that big of an issue. If you do think it's an issue, then talk to him, but I would approach the subject in a light manner.
 
HEY GUYS. Another update. The ex thing was an old issue, it didn't even matter.

So the last time I saw this guy was last Thursday. The morning of, he texted me saying he was sad because his dad just had a bypass surgery and was confined to a hospital. The operation was a success, he was sad because he won't see him until a few days after. But he still came over my house, we watched YouTube videos together, I gave him a massage, touched his back lightly after, then we had oral sex. Then after, we sort of had a standing up arm fight playfully. He called me a "girl" jokingly because I fight "funny". He was laughing but I was too tired to laugh along. After that night, around 2 am when he got home, he texted me saying, "That was great. Thanks for the great night. Sorry if I was playing with you, you're fun to play with." I replied and that's that.

So on Friday I initiated texting him, inviting him to a movie/dinner. He said he can't because he has to visit his dad. I said "Oh I forgot. Sorry. But use me as your distraction." He said "Lol ok great."

Then on Saturday night, before going to bed around 11, I texted him with a joke. He said "lol". I replied "That's my attempt to make you feel better for the night. Hope you're feeling better!"

Then I skipped Sunday night.

Monday night, I texted him at 11 saying I couldn't sleep. He replied 3 hours later (which was weird to me as he always has his cellphone with him) saying "Aw lol well I hope you're feeling better. You're just tired." I couldn't sleep that night, and my insomnia turned into paranoia. I went on his Facebook and saw he had new friends added earlier that night - guys my age. We're not friends on Facebook but I could see who he just added as friends. So I basically had a nervous breakdown and imagined him hooking up, the reason for him not replying for 3 hours, between 11pm - 2 am (which is the interval of us usually meeting up).

The next day Tuesday I cleared up my mind. I thought I was being silly. Admittedly I was. I texted him "Hey, cheap Tuesday today if you want to watch a movie/dinner." He said "I can't. My dad just got out. I have to spend time with them." I said, "Oh ok. I'm using your positivity to get me through the day!"

Now, some of you may be thinking, I'm really clingy. Yes, I really am. I realized that. So I decided to stop initiating my texts for now and let him come to me instead while I focus on my studying. There's a downside to that: What if he needs being texted and asked how his day went on a regular basis?

And I've been paranoid/clingy just because we've never gone a day without texting each other. We usually alternate who initiates texting. I also haven't seen him for a week now. We've never gone that long before. I haven't texted him until Tuesday. How long do I play this role? What if he moves on?
 
From the incredibly boring and inconsequential details you just shared, I conclude that you're not just clingy, but so insecure about yourself that you're trying to dissect every little detail to find hidden meaning where none exists.

Haven't you heard? We do that BEFORE we get the guy ;)

Have you guys talked about what it is you're doing? You're clearly into the guy and want him exclusively, but you haven't made it official if I remember correctly. So, maybe you should. Because trust me - this type of obsession is VERY easy to read on the outside and if you keep it up, you'll push him away.
 
If you will consider his offer for a long term opportunity, I guess you need to tell the truth right now and do not prolong it, you need to tell it right away. He lied to you, even though he confessed to you the same night but that is still a lie. If he really wants you he might understand. You need to clear off all your strings of lie if you wanted a real relationship.
 
Just leave it and move on. You do not know him very well yet so it is alright.
 
From your last post, I just have to tell you that thinking about the texting and Facebook habits of a guy you like is a bad idea. It's drama for its own sake. How about you just talk to him in person. Ask him when he's free, not "Are you free yet? How about now? How about now? What about now?" which is what you've been doing indirectly.

And let me tell you, very, very few men are into being spammed with texts daily, especially needy texts. And, if he's too busy to hang out with you once in awhile, then maybe he's just not that into you.
 
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