I like Real Guys

[seamusnewwest]

Am I one of the few? How about you?

I like guys who have some chest hair. I even like it when they just have those few hairs around their nipples.

I like body hair and I like pubic hair.

I hate it when a guy has shaved his chest or his pubes.

And I don't mean it has to be a super hairy, very large bear. I love some of those guys, but they're not in the average guy mold anymore than the 20 year old bodybuilder model is.

And I like fitness, even a little bit less than that, but I don't like excessive muscle, and I really don't like vanity, no matter how good the looks.

I like guys who have regular interests. And while they don't have to be "straight acting" at all, rudeness, bitchiness, women-hating, self-stereotyping are all turn-offs to this man.

I can be attracted to someone for their personality alone. I've been attracted to someone simply because I saw them be nice to someone, saw them writing a letter or reading a book, because of a smile, or for similar reasons that had nothing to do with their body or the bar. And the face, of all the body parts, is so important. Especially what it expresses to me.

I like gentle but manly lovers.

I love a man's hands, and not a particular man, but just about any man.

I have no particular fetishes, though I do like the fun of diversity.

I like tall guys and I like short guys.

And I couldn't care less, honestly, honestly, couldn't care less about his cock size, unless it is so large or so small as to be impossible to have fun with (and that would have to be pretty extreme on either end of the scale).

I like a guy who's about my age, and find those who are 20 years younger to be potential friends, but really not enough in common to be partners.

I hardly ever see porn that I really like, because it's all so unreal.

I'm so vanilla, I'm even monagamous. Imagine that!

Can anyone relate? Am I insanely heretical for the gay community? How do you feel about it?

 

[Lube]

Wonderful post!

Give me facial hair any day. Unshaven anywhere on his body.

Gay men are generally great kissers and cuddlers, unlike straight men; I don't know why some gay men lust after straight guys, unless they don't like themselves.

I think gay-acting can be very cute, in moderation. "str8-acting" is really embarrassing when they can't pull it off: A huge turn off for me. Just be who you are!

I don't consider myself insanely good looking or anything, but I do seem to be a magnet for younger guys. Still haven't figured that one out.

 

[G-Lexington]

I like personalities. They get me off more than the packaging.

Lex

 

[GL]

to the op: i can relate.

great post!

 

[nsguy2]

OP: I agree - 100%

 

[theatreboi]

this post speaks for me, and about me. I'm one normal gay guy looking for another normal gay guy.

 

[ShyVirgin85]

i agree with you i like real guys too.
I admit i lust for gorgeous g'uys who are beautiful and muscular but i only really get attracted to guys who have great personalities.
There was this classmate of mine in high school who i've known for a long time, he wasn't good looking he was below average then one time i went to his house and i saw how nice he is and a good brother he is to his sister. I had a crush on him since then.

 

[Level27]

Am I one of the few? How about you?

I like guys who have some chest hair. I even like it when they just have those few hairs around their nipples.

I like body hair and I like pubic hair.

I hate it when a guy has shaved his chest or his pubes.

And I don't mean it has to be a super hairy, very large bear. I love some of those guys, but they're not in the average guy mold anymore than the 20 year old bodybuilder model is.

And I like fitness, even a little bit less than that, but I don't like excessive muscle, and I really don't like vanity, no matter how good the looks.

I like guys who have regular interests. And while they don't have to be "straight acting" at all, rudeness, bitchiness, women-hating, self-stereotyping are all turn-offs to this man.

I can be attracted to someone for their personality alone. I've been attracted to someone simply because I saw them be nice to someone, saw them writing a letter or reading a book, because of a smile, or for similar reasons that had nothing to do with their body or the bar. And the face, of all the body parts, is so important. Especially what it expresses to me.

I like gentle but manly lovers.

I love a man's hands, and not a particular man, but just about any man.

I have no particular fetishes, though I do like the fun of diversity.

I like tall guys and I like short guys.

And I couldn't care less, honestly, honestly, couldn't care less about his cock size, unless it is so large or so small as to be impossible to have fun with (and that would have to be pretty extreme on either end of the scale).

I like a guy who's about my age, and find those who are 20 years younger to be potential friends, but really not enough in common to be partners.

I hardly ever see porn that I really like, because it's all so unreal.

I'm so vanilla, I'm even monagamous. Imagine that!

Can anyone relate? Am I insanely heretical for the gay community? How do you feel about it?

LOL! Then ya don't want to date me, 'cause I'm not even a guy, let alone a "real" one (by your definition of a 'real guy').

And btw, my personal turn-offs are guy's who complain about guy's being self-stereotyping, bitchy and what not. As if these certain characteristics are general enough to define a group of gay guys. I am also turned off by guy's who need to complain about not being able to find the "manly" one's for dating. While I understand that it's mere dating/sexual preference and am fine with it, the turn off is when he needs to rant about it. Finally, it's a huge turn-off when he rants about certain guys being the "real" guys, while casting the other one's as not. I've spoken to many of these ranters, especially online.

There are those who are self-steotyping/bitchy/rude, and those who aren't (like me). Why do they have to be clumped into a group and one that recieves so much attention from you?

 

[sunoftheskye]

Agree with everything except the hair. I'm really turned off by body hair everywhere except the pubic region. Some facial hair can be nice, but not full on santa clause beards.

 

[NineOfClubs]

I agree with much of what seamusnewwest says.

However, I don't like the expression "real guys".

To me you're a real guy if you have a Y chromosome....

 

[fiorio]

isn't that real guys only love real women.

I don't like the expression "real guy" either, it is totally stereotype.

 

[sunoftheskye]

I agree with much of what seamusnewwest says.

However, I don't like the expression "real guys".

To me you're a real guy if you have a Y chromosome....

I agree.

 

[Lube]

By "real guy" I think he just means the guy next door.

It's all personal preference. There are just as many guys who say that chest hair is "gross" as guys who say shaving is "gross".

 

[Shepherd 2]

Yes, I love hair, I wish I had it on top my head, but everywhere else is a virtual forest of hair.

I like this thread and posting. I even love Ravenstar for his body hair.

Shep+

 

[gmoney]

By "real guy" I think he just means the guy next door.

I have to agree here. Although I don't really go for labels.

I know when I was young and stupid, I thought being gay meant being attracted to overly effeminate men. That has never appealed to me. I thought I was the "freak" because I wasn't attracted to women sexually, but to the "real guy".

As it turns out, I think I'm in the majority of gay men.

 

[nsguy2]

Yeah? Well, I still agree 100% the OP and leave it at that as real guys, IMO, don't turn threads about a simple preference into piss fights.

 

[Level27]

Yeah? Well, I still agree 100% the OP and leave it at that as real guys, IMO, don't turn threads about a simple preference into piss fights.

Sadly, though, believe it or not, a lot of masculine gay guys even take part in such. They either don't know it or don't want to admit it. In fact, it's generally the femme guys rolling eyes at them for behaving that way, and I'm not talking about the "bitchy drama queens". But enough with the clamping and grouping. The truth is, some guys, butch or femme, partake in turning threads into verbal battle grounds and others don't.

All in all, IMO, if you feel like your a guy on the inside, you're a 'real' guy. It doesn't matter if your characteristics fit another's perceptions of a 'guy'. It's what you think you are and feel you are on the inside that does. It's as simple as that, and I, for one, am going to leave it at that.

 

[seamusnewwest]

LOL! Then ya don't want to date me, 'cause I'm not even a guy, let alone a "real" one (by your definition of a 'real guy').

And btw, my personal turn-offs are guy's who complain about guy's being self-stereotyping, bitchy and what not. As if these certain characteristics are general enough to define a group of gay guys. I am also turned off by guy's who need to complain about not being able to find the "manly" one's for dating. While I understand that it's mere dating/sexual preference and am fine with it, the turn off is when he needs to rant about it. Finally, it's a huge turn-off when he rants about certain guys being the "real" guys, while casting the other one's as not. I've spoken to many of these ranters, especially online.

There are those who are self-steotyping/bitchy/rude, and those who aren't (like me). Why do they have to be clumped into a group and one that recieves so much attention from you?

There are lots of posts here about what guys prefer - and what they don't. No apolgies there. But why come on to my thread just to flame my views? You're turned off by my "ranting." Fine. But I will express myself, and what I like.

And I never said I need the "manly" ones. I said feminine is fine, but bitchiness is not. If you like it, fine.

And I certainly never said I have trouble finding what I like!

 

[seamusnewwest]

By "real guy" I think he just means the guy next door.

It's all personal preference. There are just as many guys who say that chest hair is "gross" as guys who say shaving is "gross".

Thanks, pal. I have to describe it somehow, and I think people understand what I'm talking about. Guy next door is fine. Post if anyone has a better suggestion. But keep it real (pun intended, hee hee).

 

[AlinCanada]

Seamusnewwest, I am hairy somewhat David has hair everywhere (except on his head right now) and most of the time we pass without comment like all the others you may not see around you. New West and Van are alive with the type of guys you describe. It also is home to guys which are not what you describe but thats fine too. Each has their own needs and desires in their approach to their bodies and everyone has to be comfortable with them selves so short, tall, fem, bear, jock, twink what ever no one really needs the labels just to know that you accept them for who they are right now.