i love him, but I just can't stand him!!

[BigBoss]

Well Well Well...Look at the Defendants..My God How much you guys try,,i wont change my comments...Iam replying u people in order
1. 3nipples Yes i have read every Post
2. LeftCoastMikey You are not the only educated one here..
3. Keeland Seems My usage of Slut word have Hurt ya a lot but remember i had not pointed you ,,you took it ill for your ownself...You are at no Position to decide what am I,,Rather Stop giving an Unsupported Comment against me..

Why You people are not giving him an advice to sort out things ,,instead you People are waiting like Vultures to prey upon people coming out of relationship..

 

[BigBoss]

My Answer to all those not in love or relationship/// After being in love,,the excuse of doing sex with your patner is not homosexuality but the main reason would become the existence of two people for each other

 

[BigBoss]

Whats so funny about that...Mistakes can take place when u write things after nine hours at work,,,,U r simply the slut i was pointing at...All time bIg BiG Big Slut

 

[Christopher123]

Whenever I then tell him he needs to back off otherwise he will lose me, he just rants on how i am a slut and that he's already got another boyfriend waiting for him

Awww, that's a terrible thing to say.

I agree with the others, kick him to the curb. Nobody OWNS anybody. And it's only going to get worse.

 

[Christopher123]

Whats so funny about that...Mistakes can take place when u write things after nine hours at work,,,,U r simply the slut i was pointing at...All time bIg BiG Big Slut

This is eurocrat's thread, not yours. Let's get back to focusing on HIM, okay?

I'm quite frankly surprised your posts are still here, to be honest.

Back to topic.....

 

[BigBoss]

Well Enough of Filthy Comments against me....Plz Continue with Ruining this Guy's Life...Just Imagine yourself in his BF 's place///U guys are writing threads by just listening to one side.,,,How can u judge like that?

The whole picture would be clear if his BF write his situation,,till then it would be one sided Judgement by all of You....

Chao! See ya all soon...

For those who took my words ill....then plz try to understand that i was angry cuz i cant see a relationship going down the drain...

 

[Storybook_Man]

"i was angry cuz i cant see a relationship going down the drain..."

have you ever been in a relationship with another male?

He is saying one side of the story I agree, but if what he is saying is true, then why should I have to hear the other guys story. His b/f was threatening him that if he left him, that he already has another guy lined up. Which to me is pretty low, I would get suspecious of cheating.

This guy is a mature person and I am sure he will figure out his decisions with and without our help.

 

[BigBoss]

for ur kind info,,plz read the other posts by me,,,i said i am into relationship for past 2 years.

 

[backpacker]

In my earlier post, I didn't point out an issue I just thought of. Research has shown that when someone is obsessed with accusing their partner of cheating, the accuser is often cheating themselves. They use the notation that their partner is cheating to justify their own cheating. I'm not sure if that applies to you, but it is a possibility.

 

[arieliam]

i see your point and believe me - the thought has crossed my mind!

the thing is, however, i do still love the guy and have always firmly believed he will really change... that's what makes it hard... do i give him another chance? or do i just say now it's done etc?

The place is not that much of a problem... We rented it together, and i have already indicated that if ever we split up, I keep the place. All the furniture that was bought I have already bought him out... but it's still scary thinking that i should kick him out when deep down the feelings are still there.. or is that just pity?

another try won't work guy. Been there done that and you are only prolonging the inevitable, or that is how I have seen it work out in my life. Happy motoring.

 

[gewhite3]

Here it is plain and simple........... I've been in this exact situation. I got out of it, best thing I ever did. I am now in a loving relationship that is 7 years strong, we completely love one another, have never had an argument, we discuss everything and are totally open with one another. My last relationship was nowhere like that. Basically, if you are in a controlling relationship, it's abusive. Get out now while you still have your dignity.

Find somebody who will love you for who you are, not someone who will love you for the person you can be once you learn to do things the way they want you to.

Anybody that tries to justify this type of relationship doesn't know what a relationship is............PERIOD!!!

 

[Centexfarmer]

I'm sorry Eurocrat but your post that began this thread, and the subsequent posts since then tells me that your relationship with your boyfriend went south somewhere.

I understand the conflict that you're going through, because I've been there myself. I put it with that type of abusive crap for nearly three years because I thought that I loved him, and that he loved me.

I know that not everyone's situation is the same, but several guys here have already posted some striking similarities that they've seen between your relationship and theirs, not to mention professional experience.

But I think that you already know what you need to do.

By the time I decided that enough was enough, my credit was shot to hell, my circle of friends had stopped calling, everything that I owned of any valued had been damaged during one of drunken rages, and it turned out that everything that he had been accusing me of over the years was actually him projecting his insecurities onto me.

Finally it got to the point where the rent was due, the utilities were about to be cut off, he had maxed out my credit cards, and I was the guy "still in love" supporting him wondering what could be done to make our relationship work.

It ended for me emotionally when he was going through yet another one of his "rough spots." Things had not gotten any better, and started to drink. Then one night he came home late from drinking and brutally raped me.

He said it was my fault. That I made him do it, and that he was sorry.

Has he started telling (threatening) what he will if he catches you with someone else? What he'll do if you ever leave him?

I would have pulled up the welcome mat and kicked his ass the curb the first instant I caught him checking the cache on my computer! Especially since you say that you've never given him cause to think that you've cheated on him.

This guy sounds like trouble. You're only 10 months into this relationship. If your guy is anything like me ex, he's looking for a way in further into your life to further control you, and not a way out. He's become dependent, he needs you for whatever reason, and it doesn't sound like love.

Study up on what "co-dependency" is. That's what's happening here. This doesn't sound like a mutually equal loving caring relationship to me, or many other for that matter.

Well there was that one member, who apparently believes that people should stay together at all costs. But whatever.

Please keep us posted, and don't let him find out that you're even having this conversation with anyone! I'll bet you $100 American that he would flip and possibly even become violent.