I made a bet with a straight friend...

[Leccocx]

This year a guy returned to my school after he had some issues with his family. We used to talk in class and now that he returned, we became good friends.

He had a girlfriend but broke, and it seems he was really desperate on getting a new one. This, to me, means he just wanted to have sex with someone. Anyway, my friend is good looking, not handsome, just cute, and he returned taller and thiner so he is more attractive now.

So I proposed him several times that I wanted to suck him. He once told me that "maybe, if he was too desperate". He told me he's sure about his sexuality, but he also says that he's curious. Then I made a bet with him. If I could get better grades than him at the end of the two-month period, he would let me suck him. But if I lose, I would have to pay him $30.

I tried, but he's really smart, and he got better grades, so I had to pay. Then he told me it would have been scary if I won. But hey! There was at least a possibility. Maybe if I had won, things between us wouldn't be the same now.

And when he bothers me a lot, I always threaten him about doing something he might not like. So if he continues, I usually touch his leg, and I start going further, everytime getting closer to his cock. When I'm near enough, he just pushes my hand away, avoiding being touched by me. I'm not sure if he likes it or not, and I do this when nobody in class is watching us.

Now tell me, who tolerates that much? And those proposals? Maybe I'm just lucky. Too bad.... he has a girlfriend right now.

Anyone thinks he might be bi?

 

[NephilimSin]

Probably not....but it could be a possibility because he did say that he was unsure about his sexuality right?. And with that, maybe thats why he can tolerate that much from you and accepts your proposals. He might be scared going further into discovering his sexuality which is maybe why he pushes away from you touching him.

You are a lucky, lucky boy

 

[star-warrior]

You're his friend. He shares his confidences with you. Don't read too much in him letting you touch him.

 

[Aflute04]

I don't think I could ever do that to a friend! Not to play the uptight conservative card, but I don't think you should be trying to force your friend to try something he is uncomfortable with, even if he is unsure about his sexuality. Let him come to terms when HE is ready!

I'm sorry, I just think this is wrong and totally disrespectful to your 'friend'. What kind of friend does that? Honestly...

 

[HartfordGuy]

Yeah, don't push it. If he were attracted to you in any way, he wouldn't be pushing away your hand.

Just because he tolerates the joking around means he is a good sport, not that he wants to fool around.

If you value his freindship more than the challenge of the hunt, then give it up.

 

[FabFairy]

I agree don't push it. Afterall you never know whats around the corner. You've put your order so now just sit back and wait for the response. Don't forget to remind him time to time tho.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

Lets say he's curious. Then maybe he's not curious enough, or is debating, who knows. I agree with the above posts too...if you value his friendship, then you shouldn't push it too much. Let him know you're available, and if he wants, he'll come.

Then there is a question I just had to ask....

You were trying touch him and trying to get closer or near to his dick...in class?

Of course he won't let you! Wow, talk about dangerous foreplaying!

hehehe, I am just going to be serious now. If you think he is hinting you something and you want to try it out with him that badly, don't push it over the edge. We don't understand the situation more than you, so if you think he wants something, try hinting it instead and see what happens from there. Don't go too direct, it might scares him.

 

[RicanDAB]

It's a shame to think of all the time you're wasting teasing around with this guy when you could actually be playing with a guy who really wants you!

 

[BiAndSingle]

He might be too afraid to tell you that you are making him uncomfortable because he doesnt want to upset you.

I kind of went through the same thing with this lad, i used to hug him alot and he didnt seem bothered by it till one day he actually said that i was making him uncomfortable and i stopped because i didnt want to ruin the friendship.

Surely if he is bi then something would have happened by now...

 

[bananagoof]

Okay. So you've got a friend who tells you he won't be sexual with you unless he's really desperate, and you're chasing him and being overtly sexually forward with him, despite his lack of interest?

How does that make you lucky?

Firstly, don't make bets like that. I mean really...you're just selling yourself. It sounds like you're trying to live out some sexual fantasy story that you read online. In the real world, if someone knows you're open to being sexual with them, they'll either respond or they won't. Real life isn't about manipulating a situation. That'll leave you feeling empty. And sucking cock? There's no guarentee it'll be a good experience anyhow. So why are you putting all this effort into convincing him to do something?

It's always better to just make your case, and let the other person react. If he's not reacting, don't waste your time degrading yourself like this. Flirting is fun, but I think you've gone beyond that if you're touching him in a way he hasn't consented too.

This isn't about whether he's bi or interested or horny or whatever. This is about you and what you're doing. Think about it. Is this the kind of behavior you want to define yourself by? I really don't think so.

So do your best to put all thoughts of your friend aside, sexually speaking, and readjust the relationship. Put some serious thought into this, and I think you'll realize you owe your friend an apology. A real one.

 

[Just_Believe18]

I agree with the guys above. You are being unfair to your friend and pressuring him by touching him inappropriately. He's already moved on by getting himself a new girlfriend. He doesn't like you to touch him and only keeps himself from punching you in the face because you're his friend.

I thought the bet was interesting and clever, though. But don't push it with him. Find a guy who can feel the way you do.

 

[Leccocx]

Thanks a lot guys! Really! I haven't toched him "there" because sincerely I can't (that's going too far away). And I only toch him as a last resource as he sometimes doesn't understand or stops bothering. I know he doesn't like that at all, that's why I use it. And yes, I value his friendship more than an experience. And he's sure about his sexuality (straight) that's why I'm surprised.

I guess I owe him an apology.... thanks again, you've all been really helpful. I won't do it anymore.

 

[slnattak]

I kinda know what you mean, it can be fun to fuck with straight guys like that...doing somethings we know they don't like. I dunno. I feel like we just see a weakness or something that's not there and we provoke that. It sounds kinda nasty and evil (and it is) but, so what, people aren't perfect. I think you just like the challenge and manipulation though.

And we're not timid little deer, so the whole physical threats don't really stop us either, considering I'm like three times bigger than the average straight man. *shrug*

But we shouldn't do it because it's not a nice or respectful thing to do. Yeah certain heterosexual woman tried to touch me before knowing it would just bother me since it wasn't my natural orientation, but they were being bitches. Just like when certain straight dudes try to touch lesbians.

I think the whole label thing might be doing more harm than good sometimes though. Cuz like you reveal a strength but at the same time you also reveal a weakness for the other sides to exploit...

 

[slnattak]

Also:

Gay/straight relationships in men end up being a contest to see who has the most power, which is why I think it's kinda creepy in the long run, even though at first it seems like it can be sensual. Because straight guys are weak and have to turn everything into a fucking power struggle? I don't know. With other gay men I find it's sexually fulfilling but ALSO more emotionally gratifying and like they're actually INTO me instead of wishing I were female... it's the best of both worlds.

Now it might seem like you want to feel powerful over another man to feel loved, but when I truly love somebody I feel equal to them. Not above or below them. We might have fantasies where we take control of each other but we leave it as a fantasy thing...

Love ya babe and wish ya the best of luck.

 

[rareboy]

Your story sounds creepy and when you have to start making bets.....wow, how sad.

Grow up and move on before you find yourself with a broken nose from pushing so hard.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Your story sounds creepy and when you have to start making bets.....wow, how sad.

Grow up and move on before you find yourself with a broken nose from pushing so hard.

Well-said.

Dude, move on. Your friend has got other interests. $30.00 or a BJ is so lame, it even defies any description...

So, he took the $30.00 instead of your BJ? Doesn't that tell you, how much he cares for your offer?

SC

 

[Claudio63]

What kind of a bet is that anyway. 30$ or a blow job? Isn't that a win - win situation for him?

 

[lightkeeper483]

I had a friend who use to let me touch him like that as well. He knew I was gay and was okay with it. One day we were goofing around in the back yard and we started wrestling. I accidently on pupose touched his cock and he was hard. I acted as if it was an accident and we said nothing about it. A week or so later we were wrestling again and he grabbed my crotch. When he found out I had a full blown woody he jerked his hand away and looked at me wierded out. We didn't hang out any more. Oh well just thought I would tell y'all,