I might want to bottom, but my boyfriend is a power bottom... help?

[Rolyo85]

The thing is, the other side seems to think that "hey, I really wanna try bottoming" means "Hey, I want to have a FOREVER AND EVER role reversal NOW, and if you are not ok, go eat shit and die!".

When it's simply "I really have the urge to try something new, and see if I like it, will you be there for me?" And I'm sorry, but I firmly believe that if you won't, then you suck as a partner. If you can't do a simple thing as trying something new in bed with your man, how are you gonna cope if they become ill for example? Or have to deal with death in their family? Those are also gonna be inconvenient to you, will you accuse him of being inconsiderate?


And yeah, good luck with maintaining a long term relationship with someone if you're unable to try anything new. I'm sure there are couples who are fine with doing the same thing until death does them part, but I doubt those are the norm. And trying something new does not mean a total and permanent role reversal, like I said.

Lemme just quote myself again:

Well yeah. Cause it seems to me I'm speaking from experience, and you're trying to make it about principles somehow. I was originally a top. Still am, mostly. Then I got into a thing with another top. I care about him a lot (that's why I said its not a business relationship - you can't always just "decide" who you're or aren't going to date), AND he was willing to bottom for me, so I wanted to do the same for him. I didn't try it once and decide it "doesn't work for me". I EXPECTED it not to work for me the first time. So I just kept at it until I learned to enjoy it. Now I can say that I am not half bad at it and some times actually need it. But of course you can't get there if you try once or twice with the preconception of how much you're gonna hate it. Sex is mainly in your head after all

Variety is the spice of life, guys

 

[somedude987]

Most gay people already feel bad enough about their sexuality without versatile guys trying to make them feel bad for being a top or a bottom. Shame on the contributors here.

 

[ezwriter]

Why would you even entertain the thought of getting fucked by a pussy bottom who's horrified at the thought of having to actually use his penis?

Go get your ass fucked by an experienced top who knows what he's doing and actually wants to be doing it.

 

[Rolyo85]

Why would you even entertain the thought of getting fucked by a pussy bottom who's horrified at the thought of having to actually use his penis?

Go get your ass fucked by an experienced top who knows what he's doing and actually wants to be doing it.

HAHAHAHA touché!

 

[bankside]

Most gay people already feel bad enough about their sexuality without versatile guys trying to make them feel bad for being a top or a bottom. Shame on the contributors here.

I think it is the versatile guys who are made to feel like outcasts by a culture bizarrely fixated on role-playing "top" or "bottom" and determined to alienate us in the same way that strident narrow-minded gays always doubt the sincerity of bisexuals and push them aside as fence-sitters and phoneys.

Us versatile guys are the victims here! I think we should start a support group. And we demand our own float in the pride parade.

In other words:
Oy! Give me a wee break...