I need a friend

[lucasgrabeel6969]

I'm just sick and tired of all those gay sites out there that are just about sex. Just try chatting someone up in a gay chatroom. first, its asl. then, are u top or bottom. then, its do you have cam?. Then, will you show ur dick/ass? I mean seriously, I just need someone to talk to. I don't like feeling like I need to show my body just to talk to you.

So if anyone out there's interested in talking, pm me. Its ironic that's im posting this thread on a porn-centric site. but wth. That's life.

I'm sorry if I come off to bitchy. But i just feel so lonely. I tried finding dates online. but it ends up the same way. I just need a friend. or someone who can be more than a friend.

 

[lucasgrabeel6969]

thanks, I just really need a friend.

I live in a very conservative country. I have no gay friends because most guys I suspect are gay are afraid of outing because of the discrimination. I feel like I'm the only gay person in our uni.

I feel alone because a homophobe classmate keeps telling me I'll end up alone in my life. Sometimes I get desperate and hook up online. But later I realized that I don't need to hook up. I just need someone to talk to. is that too much to ask?

 

[altlover85]

I'm sorry you are feeling down about things.

Is there any chance you could move from your homophobic country to a more liberal one?

 

[lucasgrabeel6969]

I'm sorry you are feeling down about things.

Is there any chance you could move from your homophobic country to a more liberal one?

I wish. I'm from the Philippines and our family is pretty much middle-class. Which roughly translates to poor in western countries. Although I plan to migrate after graduating and getting a job.

 

[lucasgrabeel6969]

Don't allow anyone to tell you what your future is. They aren't even aware of their own...

In any case, where do you plan on moving to?

I know I shouldn't believe him. But its hard not to when I know that most gays here are closeted and would never go out with one that's out.

Probably the US, or somewhere in wester europe. I know its a big dream for an 18 yr old. But I studied hard in high school to go to the best national university here to make that dream come true. i hope it pays off.

 

[altlover85]

I know I shouldn't believe him. But its hard not to when I know that most gays here are closeted and would never go out with one that's out.

Probably the US, or somewhere in wester europe. I know its a big dream for an 18 yr old. But I studied hard in high school to go to the best national university here to make that dream come true. i hope it pays off.

Perhaps you can study abroad here at some point. I would definitely look into it.

 

[lucasgrabeel6969]

thanks guys for your support. I'll definitely work hard for it.

 

[lucasgrabeel6969]

Heads up, Lucas

If you want to study or live in the Europe, choose countries from European Union (preferably not eastern members!). Even better, here is a link for Erasmus Mundus, international student exchange programme:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erasmus_Mundus

Thanks for the suggestion. But I think Erasmus Mundus is for post-grad studies only. I'll definitely try that if I decide to take masteral.

 

[Queerwitch]

Hi there! Just know that you are not alone. There are a lot of gay people in your situation, who live in places where it's very hard, even dangerous, to be out. It can be scary.

Does anyone else know you are gay? Is there anyone in your life you've told and feel you can talk to about it?

Again, I repeat: you may feel alone, but you're not. Blessings and best wishes.

 

[pelouze]

See a therapist? (Not trolling, serious.)

 

[Seasoned]

It's really sad that you haven't found someone at home that understands the value of friendship the way you do. Hooking up let's go of built up tension but before long you once again miss someone else's perspective on navigating through your culture.

Stay as positive as possible. Try to involve yourself in artistic activities, where, even if participants may be straight they may be more open. You need to hear some more accepting messages.