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So I met this guy online and we are becoming fast friends. I am bi, he is bi-curious, having 'never done this before.' He says he is into "older daddy types", but he considers this under 25 since hes just 20 (I know, I know). He's seen me and is interested. So what, as a 'daddy type' is expected of me and I don't mean in the porn sense of the word? He is interested in "mutual j/o, maybe bj." But I mean, am I expected to be more confident, and initiate, as a 'daddy-type'? Are there things I should avoid or not do? I am masculine, fit and straight acting/looking. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thanks. You guide me.
 
I'd say he's probably looking for someone who takes control during sex, confident, rugged and maybe even dominant. It all depends on what he's looking for but if you're only 21 I don't know how you'd be considered a "daddy" type. It's more a of a fantasy than anything. I'm assuming he likes to be in a submissive role.

Most people who fit the "daddy" look are usually much older and sometimes overweight and hairy.

I say just ask him what he means by it.
 
This may sound kind of crazy but hey let's give it a try....

"Ask him what he wants and plan something together!" :)
 
"Most people who fit the "daddy" look are usually much older and sometimes overweight and hairy.

I say just ask him what he means by it.[/QUOTE]

Thanks. Im actually 24. My b-day i chose is just a special date to me. I actually look young for my age, but i can grow a beard fairly quickly. Also, I did ask him what he means, and he said older and manly acting and facial hair. So looks wise i might have it covered, its just in terms of sexual activities. Im more of a pleaser type, and not initially aggressive. I just dont want to be sitting there going "so we are here, now what?"
 
Thanks, Nutty, I tried that and he is vague but insistent. We are acting on the premise that we are both bi/bi-curious and very inexperienced, which is true btw. So I ask, and he says 'I don't know, but I keep thinking about what it would be like with a guy.' Thats as detailed as it gets. He said he j/os thinking about a buddy jacking to a hot girl, if that helps. Honestly my plan would be to make-out and give him a bj. But that doesnt seem 'daddyish' as I understand it, but i really dont know. Thats why all of your guys' help is appreciated.
 
It sounds like your friend is inexperienced and doesn't understand what a "daddy" is. Usually daddies are older men- 50 years old or more. Like these guys - http://www.silverdaddies.com/.

It's nice that you're considering changing your appearance for this guy but it isn't really necessary. Whether you're looking for a fuck-buddy or you're looking for a boyfriend, you should always be yourself. Anytime you try to be something that you're not, it's pretty much a sign that things aren't going to work out.

There's no shortage of nice guys out there looking for other nice guys. You may need to go find one that is interested in the real you.
 
Thank you Kara. Perhaps I'm just horny. Thats the kind of stuff I'm looking for. I don't want to push him away by being out of character. You think maybe he means that he wants me to take the lead then, since it seems neither he nor I understand what 'daddy-type' is?
 
Yeah, it kind of sounds like he's tossing around terms without really knowing what they generally refer to. He may simply think that "daddy" means "somebody older than me".

I don't like the idea that someone is being "vague and insistent". What exactly does that entail? "Let's DO it!" "Do what?" "I dunno - but let's DO it!" He also comes off a bit on the selfish side. Don't get me wrong - we all want to get our rocks off when we hook up with somebody. But my general impression is that he basically wants some guy to get him off, and isn't much interested in getting you off. Some guys would be cool with that - you'll have to decide if that's cool with you, as well.

Since he won't suggest anything, it'll be up to you. "I'd like to make out for a while, stroke each other a while, and then maybe I could suck you off." See if he's cool with that. And skip the beard until you know he's worth it. :)

Lex
 
WOW, thanks! I had apprehensions unstated, that you answered. I don't mind getting a guy off with no return, if he is appreciative. But not it he is totally uninterested afterwards. I'm really tainted by a general feeling of being unattractive, and so I dont want to do something desperate. But I also get attached to people easily in order to please. I will marvel at your sagacity once again Lex, thanks.
 
You know. No matter what you feel about yourself. Like the fact that you think your unattractive. There is only one you in all of this world. You have uniqueness. Remember that. Also remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Also remember that any guy that you think is like a 10 out of 10 in the attractive scale....he will get older and as you get older those that rely on there looks to get ahead in life, have trouble doing so! ;)
 
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