i need advice

[darkdeed2903]

well let me start by saying i am 18 years old , i am confused about my sexuality . i have a problem , i am attracted to men , but i would not do anything sexual with them , and with women i would probably kiss them , but not do anything sexual with them. by the way im a virgin .

and i recently was so confused about my sexuality that i told my parents and a member of my family that i was bi-sexual , since i was so confused .

i mean like i enjoy watchin gay porn & straight porn but mostly i enjoy the straight porn because of the guy in it. but i have talked about it with the people i told and they say that since i have never had a sexual experience with a girl or a guy , that thats the reason im confused .

so what i want to know is , what do you guys think about this situation ? or any advice on it would be helpful :] .

P.S back in middle school i knew that i was always attracted to men , but just physically but not sexually , with women im a little bit confused . any advice ?? sorry i'm so confused

 

[Telstra]

you are so young.
Just take your time to discover what you want. Time will tell.

 

[Gayguy41]

It sounds to be that you have a preference for men but due to society's pressures you are afraid to let your feelings out.

You say you like men physically and you like to kiss them, but with women the only thing you would do is "probably" kiss them.

You watch straight porn just to look at the guy also and ignore the female.

Sounds like you have some soul searching to do =)

Perhaps you are just afraid to finally let go of the thought that you like females and are afraid to let yourself be gay.

Just my 2 cents

I went through similar when i was coming out around 17/18, now I'm 23 and have a life partner and couldn't be happier =)

 

[backpacker]

It sounds to be that you have a preference for men but due to society's pressures you are afraid to let your feelings out.

You say you like men physically and you like to kiss them, but with women the only thing you would do is "probably" kiss them.

You watch straight porn just to look at the guy also and ignore the female.

Sounds like you have some soul searching to do =)

Perhaps you are just afraid to finally let go of the thought that you like females and are afraid to let yourself be gay.

Just my 2 cents

I went through similar when i was coming out around 17/18, now I'm 23 and have a life partner and couldn't be happier =)

Well said.

To me you sound like you are in the "but I don't want to be gay" phase. Don't worry too much about labels. Follow your feelings and everything will be OK.

 

[TX-Beau]

well let me start by saying i am 18 years old , i am confused about my sexuality . i have a problem , i am attracted to men , but i would not do anything sexual with them , and with women i would probably kiss them , but not do anything sexual with them. by the way im a virgin .

Alrighty. (emphasis mine) If you're actually Bi, why won't you sleep with women? Are you incredibly religious? Or are you not interested?

and i recently was so confused about my sexuality that i told my parents and a member of my family that i was bi-sexual , since i was so confused .

I would suggest you figure this out before confusing other people. Find a counselor, or a good friend, a sibling who you can talk this through with, but save the declarations til you know what's going on.

i mean like i enjoy watchin gay porn & straight porn but mostly i enjoy the straight porn because of the guy in it. but i have talked about it with the people i told and they say that since i have never had a sexual experience with a girl or a guy , that thats the reason im confused .

Two things here, having sex isn't going to resolve your issues, straight people know they're straight years before they have sex, and so do gay and bi people, it's just that gay and bi people get all the baggage and issues that lead to repression, shame, and guilt, and isn't that pleasant. Learning about your sexuality - which should be a positive part of growing up becomes instead a minefield of disappointment and fear that makes a lot of us try our very hardest to believe it's not true. It's quite possible to falsely conclude (because you desperately want to conclude) you're straight or at least bi because you can have a satisfactory orgasm with a women, many, many of us have been there. Second look at the bolded things, if you're watching gay porn and straight porn for the guy, that doesn't seem very ambiguous does it.

so what i want to know is , what do you guys think about this situation ? or any advice on it would be helpful :] .

I think that you should take heart, your situation is by no means unique and that there are plenty of guys who got through it.

P.S back in middle school i knew that i was always attracted to men , but just physically but not sexually , with women im a little bit confused . any advice ?? sorry i'm so confused

So you know you're attracted to men physically - but not sexually?!? Not sure how that works, but you're unsure you're attracted to women at all? Again, it seems fairly obvious.

 

[KaraBulut]

You're still very young and you're stuck in a very naive and romancized idea of what being gay means.

It's perfectly fine to ride a bicycle with training wheels. You just won't get as far.

You'll outgrow it as you get out there, meet guys and start to explore. These things just seem to fall in place with time.

 

[rareboy]

Being gay is about more than where you stick your cock.

Just be open to be the entire person you're meant to be.

 

[darkdeed2903]

thanks guys for the advice , i will take all of it into consideration ^_^

 

[Seasoned]

Don't worry about a label. Just keep being yourself and meeting people along the way. It will become more apparent as time goes on as to where you comfortably fit on the sexual spectrum. For now bi-sexual sounds appropriate. The hardest person you'll ever have to come out to is yourself. Good luck and keep posting.

 

[sdmister4]

sounds like you have a few hangups about all of this, which is very understandable of course, id say try to stop thinking about it as if you are making a decision. we've all been through the stage you're in and it sucks, but it will work out if you let it.

 

[cityboi]

I, too, always knew I was attracted to men. As a middle aged adult I've known for decades now that I'm gay and am very comfortable with that. Don't let society tell you what you should be. Just be yourself. Many people will love you for who you are.